Precautions for taking children to climb mountains during the May Day holiday: Starting from delaying satisfaction, let children learn self-discipline.

The May Day holiday is over. Did you take your children out? What have you met and what do you think?

This holiday, I didn't leave the city because of the need of epidemic prevention and control. Taking the girl to climb Jiuzhen Mountain has gained a lot. Climbing the mountain not only exercises the physique, sees the beautiful scenery, but also exercises the quality of children. It can be said that it has gained a lot.

This time I climbed the mountain with my parents, mainly to take my baby to the mountain to get some air and see the scenery. The goal is to climb to the highest point.

Because the scenic spot is in the suburbs, it arrived a little late and there were many people on holiday. It was almost one o'clock in the afternoon when they lined up to enter the scenic spot. After reading the raiders, I chose a path suitable for walking. As a result, children can't walk before climbing the mountain.

Just a few steps away, there is a market where you can buy all kinds of small things, including sugar people, handmade jewelry and puppets. Then the two babies stopped moving, and the girl asked me to buy her a wool puppet.

Finally, I didn't buy it. I turned over some snacks from my bag and let them eat first. Then I did some ideological work. I just started climbing the mountain now. If I want to buy something, I must always climb the mountain behind my back. The burden is heavy, and these things can be bought in many places, so I will find a suitable opportunity to buy them again.

I thought that after persuading this time, the back would be fine. As a result, they walked for a while until they reached an uphill slope, and the two children were attracted by the entertainment on the side. They want to take part in a "jungle adventure" project, and many children are already waiting in line.

After consultation, it takes about half an hour for each person in 88 yuan to complete it. It is to walk a wooden bridge in the bushes, drill holes woven with nets, and so on. There are also such projects in shopping malls.

My first reaction was to disapprove of children playing. I think the price is a bit expensive, and it can only be played once (the kind in the mall can be recycled many times). However, I can't tell the girl directly, and refuse to let her play because the price is too high.

I changed my mind and said to the girl, "the main purpose of our trip is to climb mountains, and we haven't started climbing yet." Besides, we're a little late. If we play the project here now, it will take at least an hour to queue up for it, then the time for climbing the mountain will not be enough. It will take several hours to reach the top of the mountain, and it will be too late. "

Then the main purpose and time are emphasized. Later, another sentence was added: "There are many other projects besides this on our way to climb the mountain, and it is impossible to finish them all at once. Therefore, we need to make a choice. "

Finally, I decided that if I had time when I went down the mountain, I would change to another project to play, so that I could enter the mountain smoothly. After entering the mountain, the scenery is good, sometimes it is a quiet valley stone road, and sometimes it is a dirt road in the mountains. There are springs and bamboo forests in the mountains, and the children are in high spirits.

When going down the mountain, Niu Niu wanted to experience boating by herself after passing a lake where she could go boating, but because she didn't have a boat and didn't want to go sightseeing by dragon boat, she gave up this fun project. The go-kart project in the back was sold out because of its popularity, so I finally gave up. I have to play with some facilities attached to the scenic spots. If I plan to come again next time, I will change my route to make up for this regret.

This experience, let me realize the biggest gain, is to exercise the child's self-discipline ability, one of the principles of self-discipline is "delayed satisfaction."

There is a famous "marshmallow" experiment about "delayed gratification".

The experiment started in kindergarten. The researchers found dozens of children and left them alone in a room with only a table and a chair. The plates on the table are full of children's favorite marshmallows. The researchers told the children that they could eat marshmallows immediately or wait until the researchers came back. If you can wait until the researcher comes back for dinner, you can get another marshmallow award.

The result of the experiment is that most children ate marshmallows directly in less than three minutes, and about one third of them successfully delayed their desire for marshmallows until the researcher came back to cash the prize, about 15 minutes.

Delaying satisfaction is actually to exercise children's "endurance". It is an act of restraining one's desires and giving up the temptation in front of one's eyes in order to pursue greater goals and gain greater enjoyment. It is also an ability to overcome current difficulties and strive for long-term interests.

In daily life, children will face various temptations, such as wanting to buy toys, play entertainment and eat snacks. My usual practice is appropriate and temperate. Toys will not be bought every time I see a child I like; The entertainment items in the playground have not been played all over, but they can be experienced separately in several times; Snacks are not indulgent.

In the recently read book The Road Few People Walk, there is also a passage like this:

In childhood, children can learn this principle of self-discipline: bear the pain first, enjoy the happiness, and avoid the disadvantages brought by the immediate comfort.

For example:

Let children be more patient, let their peers play games first, and wait until the end, so that they can enjoy more fun without being urged;

When eating, you can eat the dishes you don't like, and then eat the dishes you like, so that you can enjoy a more delicious taste;

It is also the best time to cultivate the principle of "bitter before sweet" for children to treat homework correctly. A child who knows how to delay gratification can finish his homework before watching TV or going out to play. After learning to be bitter before sweet, children will have enough self-control and more directions and goals.

My girl does her homework first thing when she comes home every day, and then she can arrange it freely. This is also the harvest of my deliberate exercise!

In addition to the above gains about exercising children's self-discipline, there are some gains:

There are many ways to learn, such as reading thousands of books and Wan Li Road. Outdoor sports such as mountain climbing belong to Wan Li Road, where you can see the scenery and learn about geography and customs.

The process of mountain climbing is not only a process of mountain climbing, but also a process of promoting parent-child relationship. In this process, every communication, interaction and heart-to-heart communication is to deposit money into an emotional account. When passing by the lake, the girl asked me why the children were paddling and the adults behind were watching their mobile phones.

Cultivating children's self-discipline ability is actually to help children mature mentally. Just like this mountain climbing, I will tell the girl that life will face many temptations and many choices. In the face of temptation, learn to exercise restraint. If you just eat, drink and be merry in time, something will definitely go wrong.

In the long process of children, parents have thousands of opportunities to educate their children. Faced with these opportunities, we should bravely shoulder the responsibilities of parents, understand the needs of children, actively invest love and time, and let children grow up healthily.

After each parent-child activity, another plate!