Overindulgent conversation

When I was in college, my best friend Pinellia always said that she wanted to find a man who spoiled her as a daughter.

She did find her boyfriend Zhou Xiao, who was very kind to her and basically gave her everything she wanted.

Pinellia wants to eat an online celebrity dessert. She skipped class. A little girl took a bus for two hours to the other side of the city and stood in line for three hours to buy it for her.

Pinellia ternata is a road idiot. He will get lost when he goes to eat in a small alley and doesn't want to bother to look at the map. So Zhou Xiao came to her from school and showed her the way.

In the final exam, Pinellia was too tired to review and read. Zhou Xiao said that if he didn't want to study, he could make up the exam anyway.

Therefore, Pinellia ternata has a clear conscience to avoid laziness. Others exercise, she sleeps; Others read books, and she pursues plays; She went shopping while others studied.

When she graduated, Pinellia, whose grades were not excellent, found a job as a clerk and rented a house with Zhou Xiao.

Newcomers in the workplace are always scolded for making mistakes. Pinellia blx couldn't stand it, and she cried out to Zhou Xiao about her grievances.

Zhou Xiao said heroically, if you are wronged, don't do it, resign, and I support you.

So Pinellia resigned boldly. Every day, she watches dramas online at home, overslept for breakfast, ordered takeout for lunch, and waited for Zhou Xiao to cook dinner.

Although Zhou Xiao intends to treat Pinellia ternata as a prostitute's pet, it gradually becomes unbearable.

When he was overworked, Pinellia's phone kept ringing, asking him to pay the water and electricity bill for a while, and asking him to order takeout for himself for a while.

He worked hard to make money, but Pinellia spent money without restraint. He bought new lipstick and clothes at a discount. He is in a bad mood and wants to buy it in buy buy.

He hurried home to buy food, cook and wash dishes. It was not delicious, and Pinellia would lose his temper.

Finally, Zhou Xiao and Pinellia broke up. He thinks that being nice to a person means giving him everything he wants. As everyone knows, excessive indulgence not only failed to cultivate a partner in the same boat, but overdrawn the original feelings.

02

When we were students, we had a lot of time and energy to spend on each other without feeling particularly stressed.

But when we step into the society, the pressure of life comes. We must consider where the rent for next month will come from. What to eat tomorrow? When can I buy a house?

Accept the exploitation of work, take care of your own food, clothing, housing and transportation, and plan your future direction.

At this time, we simply have no energy to bear all of each other. If your other half happens to be a person who doesn't want to grow up at all, doesn't want to share life with you, or even makes trouble without reason, it is reasonable to break up in the end.

Overindulgence of your partner sounds like a favor, but in fact it will only hinder her growth.

Laziness is a kind of human nature, and Zhou Xiao's connivance just encourages Pinellia's nature, encourages her laziness, and makes her give up her self-growth fearlessly.

Once you give up self-growth, you will find excuses for yourself, avoid hard things, and rely on others to carry the burden for yourself.

Couples or couples are not only lovers, but also partners in life.

Pinellia blamed Zhou Xiao for being unkind at the beginning of the chaos, but when she said she would raise her, she broke her word.

As everyone knows, boys' promises are sincere when they are spoken, but they are also immature. When he doesn't know what life is like, he is not qualified to say "I support you" at all. Even if he does, it's good that you love him. Don't believe it.

It is irresponsible to indulge your partner too much, because you hinder her growth, but you can't carry her life to the end.

03

I didn't understand this truth very well in my early years. But my boyfriend, contrary to Zhou Xiao, will never raise me as a giant baby, but in some ways, he is very strict with me.

When I first started working, once, on a typhoon day, the leader of the regiment was on duty. As a secretary, I just forgot about it.

It was not until the group came to check that I hurriedly informed several leaders and hoped that they would come and be on duty. But the leaders all said something was wrong and I couldn't get through.

Being scolded is very wronged, so I went to my boyfriend to complain, saying that the leaders were unreasonable and shirked each other, making it difficult for subordinates to do things.

My boyfriend comforted me not to worry, and then said, this thing is your negligence, and the leader has the position of leader. It's no use complaining now, it's more important to find a solution.

I was still angry at why he was so cold. Not to help me scold the leader, but to criticize me.

But when I think of his words, I get things done again and again and become the fastest-growing newcomer in the company. I'm glad he didn't indulge me.

I want to be a graduate student, but I'm afraid of hardship. He said, this is good for your career. If you want to take the exam, just calm down and do it well.

At that time, my parents, even his parents, did not approve of my postgraduate entrance examination. They think that girls are not young, so why bother to work so hard. Marrying a good husband and taking care of each other is the right way.

It was he who persuaded the people around him. He said he didn't want me to be a vassal. He didn't want me to lose myself.

When I got my master's degree and was valued by my boss, I was especially grateful for his boost.

Because I have my own career, my life doesn't revolve around him, and I haven't become a dissatisfied housewife waiting for my husband to get off work every day.

Because I have my own income, I won't add economic burden to him, and I won't add more tests to my feelings.

And the improvement of my ability and the certificate I got are what really belongs to me completely, and others can't take it away.

Compared with many feelings that indulge each other at first and then give up halfway, we can go longer.

04

Chen said to his wife Luo Zijun in the first half of his life, "I will support you."

He thinks that love is bottomless connivance, conniving at her not going to work, conniving at her buying 81 thousand pairs of shoes, conniving at her checking posts all day.

But in his heart, he can't stand it. He didn't tell Luo Zijun about their problems. He's just patient.

When he couldn't bear it any longer, he suddenly filed for divorce and left in a hurry, leaving Luo Zijun without the ability to survive and never caring about the so-called commitment again.

He personally indulged Luo Zijun into her today, but he personally disliked and rejected her.

People who indulge their partners too much satisfy their masculinity at first, but when they reach the limit, they are brewing to leave and put the blame on each other.

When my boyfriend and I first got together, we had a communication. He asked me what I wanted to be.

He said that he knew exactly what girls wanted to hear, and he just followed her, echoed her and bought her buy buy, saying that she was right.

He can tell me if I like it. But it didn't help me grow up.

If I want to be a giant baby and wait for others to love me, then he won't marry me.

If I want to grow up to be an independent adult with my own abilities, then he won't indulge me.

Only irresponsible people will easily say to their partners, you don't have to grow up, I love you anyway.

We should also have such awareness ourselves, not to be indulged and spoiled by men for a while, and not to indulge in irresponsible sweet words.

At the same time, you should also be a partner's helper to help each other grow up with yourself, which is to help stabilize this relationship.

Overindulgence of your partner is like putting her in a greenhouse. If you leave, it will be her storm.

If you indulge your partner too much, you will eventually die because you can't bear it.