What have many people lost in our lives?

I often reflect on myself after graduation, because I always feel like a failure, and I believe many people will feel the same way. I often ask questions. Obviously, everyone is on the same starting line. Obviously, I was doing well before. Why did I become dissatisfied now? Later, I found the answer. In our life, many people have lost themselves.

I know that people are born with differences, such as family background, talent, looks and so on, but are these differences the decisive factors in our lives? I don't think so. If these gaps can determine our lives, what about those who have worked hard from scratch and finally succeeded? So many of us fail not because of family background, not because of talent, not because of looks, but because of ourselves.

I want to ask many people, do you think you are stupid? Do you feel incompetent? I think many people's answers are no, because the gap between intelligence and ability of most of us is very small, so the root cause of your failure is yourself. Let me give you an example. Because I failed in many exams, the gap between me and my former classmates is getting bigger and bigger. I feel like a failure, but the reason for failure is actually because of poor self-control and not studying hard enough. I often complain why my life has gone the wrong way, but this wrong way is also because of my own choice.

Many people think that failure is actually similar to my experience. They usually don't work hard enough and make mistakes in the face of major mistakes. Many of us have lost ourselves. But this is not terrible. Many people have lost themselves. In fact, everyone still has a chance to win. Losing is not terrible. When we realize this problem, we already know how to make ourselves win.