Runaway children

Turn on your mobile phone and see the message from your friend. The child left home at midnight.

I asked her if she had found the child now, but there was no reply.

I just want to say, don't mess with the children, you can't afford the consequences.

My former self provoked my children several times, made them collapse, bumped my head against the wall, ran away from home, tried to stay up late and die suddenly, and solved my worries in one jump.

Looking back at my former self, I really want to go back and slap my former self.

After reading the comments, many netizens praised me for being great and strong, and some children said they envied having such parents. I don't know, I used to be a parent who gave my children a headache and gnashed their teeth.

Children used to love their parents so simply and enthusiastically, constantly rationalizing and attributing, to interpret their parents' simplicity and rudeness. The daughter said: "For so many years, I like you so much and am attached to you. You didn't cherish it and hurt me again and again. " It's too late to regret it now. "

Yes, how hard parents have to work to turn their children's original love into hate. A child who hates his parents is also miserable, because it goes against his nature.

Don't let children hate their parents. When I was in the hospital, I heard with my own eyes that his high school son hired a murderer to hurt his father.

I now recall the first year when my daughter was diagnosed with severe depression, because her emotions were out of control, which led her to run away from home.

Looking back now, my daughter was actually very good and obedient. Except that she can't go to school and is addicted to her mobile phone, there is really nothing wrong with her. She carefully spent dozens of plots of land.

But because I haven't adjusted my mentality, I can't be responsible for my emotions, I'm moody, and I often have inappropriate words and deeds. "Love life, hate death" is a true portrayal of my contradictory maternal love.

That night, I took my daughter out shopping, talking and laughing, very lively. It all started with a milkshake. I refused my daughter's request four times in a row. At first, I felt that the weather turned cold and eating cold food was harmful to my health. My daughter begged again and again, but I was unmoved. Later, my mood got out of control and my tone became bad. And her daughter became a battle for parental rights and maternal love confirmation.

Out of the elevator, my daughter collapsed to the ground and began to hit the wall with her head. Walk in front of me, listening to the sound of "bang", unmoved. I'm even angrier.

Because her emotions were out of control, her mother, who should have saved the day, became the role of adding fuel to the flames. The fireman who should have put out the fire became the one who added fuel to the fire. An adult who should be emotionally stable and be a good anchor has become an angry and willful inner child.

I dare say that I was less than 45 years old at that time, but I was younger than my 15-year-old daughter.

Therefore, things have escalated again and again. My daughter rushed out of the door and disappeared into the night.

At that time, my anger escalated again and again, and I didn't get up and chase it. I thought, get out, get out and never come back. I've had enough, debt collectors.

My relatives went to help me chase it.

At this time, I continued to be angry. I called my relatives and they said they found it. It was in a taxi. I said bitterly on the phone that I hope she was killed by a car. I really don't want to raise her. The daughter next to me heard it.

The blow and harm to my daughter can be imagined.

The daughter reluctantly returned home under the comfort of her relatives. Decided never to see me again in my life and went to a relative's house.

Afterwards, I pretended to be a grandson and great-grandson for a long time before I managed to repair the parent-child relationship.

But if the old self does not change, it will always fall into the strange circle of crash repair and crash repair.

Little heart can't stand such a toss. Therefore, my daughter's illness became more and more serious. Until the second year, she made online loans, made impulsive consumption, ran away from home, met male netizens in different places, and left.

These deviant things include the daughter's giving up on herself, the daughter's hatred and revenge on her mother.

Whoever hurts will change.

This year 1 month, I embarked on the road of learning, growth and change. My daughter is getting better and better with the naked eye. At present, the hospital reexamined and basically recovered. Although I failed to return to school smoothly, I was emotionally stable, actively played less mobile phones, actively studied and exercised, and had good expectations for the future.

The key to this change is that parents should be selfish, self-centered, let go of their anxiety and fear about their children's future and regard themselves as stepmother.

"Tao is ruthless and affectionate, and Tao is affectionate and ruthless."

Love overflows, and you get along well with your parents, so that you can give your child unconditional love and acceptance, and only then can you hope to lead your child out of his demons and regain his life!

Can't I be happy with this child?

That parent lives so anxious and desperate, how can the child get better?

Parents are unhappy, how can children be happy? The child's subconscious is making a choice to make parents loyal and follow.

Therefore, parents should live first, love themselves, and then love their children unconditionally!