There is a brother who is not motivated at home. What should I do?

He is him and you are you. You can't expect him to make a difference without making progress. What you can do is to work harder and make progress, so that you can provide better protection for your parents when they are old and live a better life.

1 mud can't help the wall, and rotten wood can't be carved.

If your brother doesn't make progress, no matter how others remind him and help him, he won't agree, and he will squander the help and resources brought by the other side. So don't try to change your brother just because he is not motivated.

Why do you do such a thing when you know that mud can't help the wall? Is it because he is your brother? However, as long as it is mud, no matter how hard you try, you can't change this fact. It will embarrass you. Such things can be seen everywhere in TV dramas and real life.

This is why, when looking for a partner now, we should try to avoid looking for "brothers' helpers" (people who always want to help their relatives regardless of their abilities). Because helping people who don't make progress is like throwing stones into the sea to fill the sea. It won't have any effect except splashing a little.

Help your brother in a limited scope.

Sometimes, a person does not make progress, not only because of his personal character, but also because of his family environment. If the family background is good, you can easily get everything you want without making progress, and most people will not choose other laborious ways to work hard.

So, your brother has not made progress, which may be caused by your family. What's the problem? He can't handle it without making progress. And mom and dad, you can stand behind him. What are you afraid of? He doesn't need to think about how to deal with the problems he faces alone if others don't help him.

So don't help him indefinitely. To what extent you can help him, you must tell him clearly, and let him know that if he doesn't make progress himself, others can't completely help him solve all the problems he faces.

Indulge and spoil a person, not help him, but hurt him.

3 live your own life.

Everyone has the right to choose the lifestyle he wants. You should learn to respect his "lack of progress" and accept his "willingness to be mediocre". But you still have to control your own life. You can't give up on yourself just because a younger brother, especially his family, always wants you to pay.

We can try to make ourselves stronger. When all problems arise, we all have a good attitude to face them and enough ability to solve them. This is the attitude we should have as brothers and sisters.