How to treat children playing mobile phones correctly?

Hello, everyone, this is Mr. Niu, who has been the head teacher in a township middle school for many years. Today, I want to share with you the teaching insights of front-line teachers.

If you have to choose something you can't live without, I believe that most people, like me, have the same answer-mobile phone. There are many reasons, such as: work, entertainment, photography, study and so on. Whatever the reason, it is undeniable that contemporary adults can't live without mobile phones. As parents, we must realize a problem: how to make children with poor self-control quit the mobile phone addiction that we can't quit ourselves?

Let's think about a question: when a child is faced with the opportunity to easily own a mobile phone, will he refuse it? As far as my observation is concerned, children who rent mobile phones or buy second-hand mobile phones usually have a characteristic, that is, their homes are very tight and they are not allowed to play with mobile phones. The harder adolescent children work, the more likely they are to rebel. Strict discipline often has the opposite effect. Even if we manage it for a while, will we still have the energy to manage it when the children grow up? Can you still manage it?

For children addicted to mobile phones, we might as well try this new idea: instead of strict discipline, it is better to guide them correctly.

On how to guide, let me share my superficial experience:

First, establish a good parent-child relationship.

Parent-child relationship plays the most basic role in the process of educating children. The premise of educating children is that they are willing to listen to you. If children turn a deaf ear to their parents' words, even if they say it, it won't change a little. So how should we establish a good parent-child relationship? I have the following two suggestions:

1.？ Don't talk about study, do what you like.

Not talking about learning here is not really regardless of children's learning, but a strategic delay. Talking about study with children is like talking about work with you. Most people don't like it. If we discuss things that children are interested in, it will be easier to communicate with them. Over time, children will be willing to talk to you and listen to you, and then talk about learning, often with half the effort.

There is such a student in my class. Because of family reasons, his grades have been at the bottom. I have no interest in learning, but I love sports very much and always have inexhaustible energy. In the process of educating him, I never talked to him about anything related to his grades. On the contrary, I affirmed his athletic ability and physical quality. Slowly, he became more and more willing to chat with me, and our relationship gradually became harmonious from the beginning of confrontation. It should have been laborious class management, because he naturally relaxed a lot.

2.？ Spend more time with your children.

Parental companionship is an indispensable part of a child's growth. Use weekends or holidays to accompany children out to eat something delicious. In this process, children can clearly feel the love of their parents and gradually rely on their parents instinctively. At this time, children will believe what their parents say more.

Second, establish correct values.

Nowadays, online information is mixed, and children are easily misled by some bad information or some short videos, which is also an important reason why parents don't want their children to have mobile phones. As I said before, we can't take care of our children forever. Children will face these things sooner or later. What we have to do is to demonstrate with our own behavior.

For example, I took my children to find information online and saw some small advertisements. Please don't brush them off with feelings that you don't want your children to see. The more you don't want your child to see it, the more interested your child will be. The correct way is to tell them that the contents are viral and deceptive, which not only satisfies their curiosity, but also helps them to establish correct values.

For another example, after children are interested in short videos, they should selectively play some short videos that are knowledgeable and patriotic, and they must avoid being exposed to a large number of funny and nonsense videos, which will make their thinking rigid and inflexible.

The above two points are my humble opinions for your reference only. I hope that parents can choose the most suitable method according to their actual situation when educating their children.