Why is it so difficult for rural youth to marry a wife?

At present, it has become an indisputable social fact that it is difficult for rural young men to find a partner. Some people say, "it is difficult for rural youth to find an object, but it is difficult for heaven." Although it is a bit exaggerated, it does reflect this serious social phenomenon.

A few days ago, a single beauty in Zhumadian, Henan Province returned to the village for the New Year. On the first day she returned to the village, she dated 20 young men. It is said that there are few unmarried young women in the local area, but older young men abound.

There is also news that Pizhou City under the jurisdiction of Xuzhou, Jiangsu Province held a county-wide blind date meeting. It is said that there were 100 unmarried men, but only 20 unmarried women came to the scene.

Obviously, it is difficult for young men to choose a spouse, and their age tends to be older, especially in rural areas. In many villages, bachelors in their thirties can be found everywhere. If men and children in their thirties can still drag their feet before the year 2000.

What are the reasons why it is difficult for rural young men to choose a spouse?

Some people say that it is mainly caused by the imbalance between men and women, which seems to be a * * * knowledge, but the ratio between men and women is actually around 100: 107, but the actual situation is more serious, not as simple as the imbalance between men and women.

In my opinion, the deeper reason lies in rural single men.

The first reason: "economic independence, it is difficult to bear the responsibility of supporting the family." At present, single young people in rural areas are mainly post-90s. Most of them grew up under the careful care of their parents, and they didn't suffer much, and their education level was not high. Most of them have junior high school education, and they have no skills, so they can only do odd jobs or work in factories. However, even if they work, it is often difficult for them to settle down. They spend three days fishing and two days drying their nets, so they have not learned skills, which leads to their failure to learn skills.

The second reason: personality defects, many single young people are addicted to games, brushing videos and having fun, but in reality it is difficult to communicate with others, and they always care about their subjective feelings and ignore each other's interests or wishes. Personality is a double-edged sword. If your personality can make others feel comfortable, it will naturally attract the opposite sex. If your character hurts others, it's strange that your love doesn't fail.

A friend who is engaged in matchmaking told me: "Some older young men used to be male chauvinists. They are self-righteous, have no manners and feelings, and will not communicate from the woman's point of view. Every blind date ends in failure. "

"Some young people, you help him point out the problem, they not only don't appreciate you, but hate you. How do they find a girlfriend like this? " The friend said with emotion.

The third reason: their parents are also relatively backward, thinking that building a house in the village and putting on a banquet to spend some bride price will be all right. In fact, it has been more than 40 years since the reform and opening up, and women's thoughts, including their parents, have changed a lot. Traditional rural houses can no longer meet the needs of women.

The fourth reason: the current rural women's economic independence and the change of their concept of choosing a spouse. In the past, traditional rural women stayed at home, took care of their husbands, educated their children, and lived a life where men were the masters and women were the masters. What about now? Women can go out to work and earn their own money without relying on men at all. Once they are financially independent, they have higher requirements for choosing a spouse, hoping to find a suitable partner both materially and spiritually.

Secondly, the education level of rural women has been greatly improved compared with the past. Most of them accepted the nine-year compulsory system, and some of them went to high school and technical school to go to college. This is completely different from rural girls before 2000. They can be economically independent, and the improvement of their cultural level has transformed rural girls. Therefore, in terms of mate selection, they hope that the man can show his excellent side in all aspects.

Some girls said, "I would rather not marry than marry by mistake." Although there are many rural unmarried young women in real life, they are not worried about getting married, but refuse to get married with resentment.

So, how can rural youth break the situation and find their other half?

As the saying goes, it takes hard work to strike while the iron is hot. Rural youth should first change their concepts, especially male chauvinism and individualism, strengthen cultural study, improve their self-cultivation, and be an emotional intelligence person and a humorous person.

Secondly, you should have the ability to support your family and be financially independent rather than dependent on your parents. Therefore, it is imperative to learn a technology, and we can no longer be confused and incompetent.

Without economic independence, even if you rely on your parents, you can't last long. After all, once you get married, the population will increase and the expenses will increase, and your parents will not help much when they are old.

Some people say that girls are too materialized, which makes it difficult for rural men to choose a spouse. In fact, from another perspective, it is not that girls are too materialized, but that they have improved and are stronger than in the past, while boys are behind the times and their concepts remain in the past.

The fragrance brings butterflies, the wonder brings blessings, and the Excellence brings fate. This is true of everything in the world.

It is better to retreat into a net than to fish in the forest. You are strong and excellent. Wherever you go, you are the most dazzling one!

That's all.