The Poem of Wife Missing Her Husband in The Book of Songs Feng Wei Bosi.

He is a dream lover.

Boxi Xi, the country of Xi. Bo was also the first king.

From the east of Bo, my head is like a flying canopy. No ointment? Who is suitable for it!

It's raining, it's raining and the sun is shining. I am willing to talk, I am willing to take the first disease.

How can I get grass? The back of the tree. I am willing to think about it, which makes me feel very uncomfortable.

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-The Book of Songs Feng Wei Bo Xi

There is one of the most tragic characters in the Romance of the Gods-Boycott, the eldest son of King Ji Chang of Zhou Wen. In the story, he was killed by da ji, chopped up and made into patties for his father to eat. This scene was so sad that I was deeply impressed. At that time, I didn't understand why Boycott didn't have the same surname as his father and brother. Yes, I thought his last name was Bo.

In fact, his full name is Ji Kao, and "Bo" means ranking, the boss's meaning and Yi's official name. In ancient times, according to "Bo, Zhong, Shu, Ji, Xian, Hui, Ya, Xiao", the eldest was called "Bo", also known as "Meng". For example, Wen Jiang is called Jiang Meng in There is a Female Rider. "He is very beautiful," because Wen Jiang is one of Qi Xigong's daughters. Confucius ranked second, so he was called "Zhong Ni".

"Bo Xi" means "Bo", which translates to "Big Brother".

My eldest brother is really brave. He is a national hero. With ease, my eldest brother became the pioneer of the king.

My hair has been in a mess since my eldest brother went to the East. What kind of cream is missing? Decorate my face for who!

It will rain if it rains, but the sun is too bright. I am so happy that I have a headache thinking about my eldest brother.

Where can I find a girl without sadness? Plant it in the north of the house. I feel sad and sick when I think of my eldest brother.

The main idea of the poem is obvious, and it is written that the wife misses her husband who went to war. The wife calls her husband "big brother", which sounds kind. She couldn't help thinking of the legend of the condor hero. Huang Rong always called Guo Jing "Brother Jing". I'm used to it. In The Condor Heroes, Huang Rong, the mother of three children, still can't change her mind. In ancient times, wives had many names for their husbands, such as lover, husband, "xianggong" and official.

In ancient times, whenever there was a war, the ruling class would recruit militia among the people, and what was more serious was to arrest able-bodied men, which brought endless suffering to the people. Some couples may be taken away before their wedding night. Legend has it that Meng Jiangnv, who cried down the Great Wall, was forced to separate from her husband and had to embark on a long road to find her husband.

Du Fu's "Three Officials and Three Farewells" (Xin 'an official, Shi Haoguan official, Tongguan official, newly married, homeless and resigned from the old age) also described the disasters brought by the war and vividly portrayed the cruelty of the war and the sufferings of the people.

However, Bo Xi is different from later poems describing war. Instead of highlighting the cruelty of war, he described his wife's mood in a very proud tone.

My husband is far away in the frontier, and I miss him all the time. Although I hope he can come back soon, he shoulders the heavy responsibility of defending the country, which is a great honor. Even if I miss him, I feel willing.

There are too many poems about "the wife misses her husband", but the women in Bo Xi are few strong women. A war, whether just or not, is bound to be cruel to the people. Once it breaks out, it means the performance of parting, and the time limit of this parting may be forever.

After her husband left, women seem to have lost the meaning of life and have no intention of dressing themselves up. Hair is the most important part of women's body decoration, but her long hair is scattered like a flying canopy; There are all kinds of cosmetics, but she doesn't need them. No matter how beautiful the clothes are, who will you show them to? Women are tolerant of those who please themselves. If there are no "please yourself" people, who is suitable for them? So not cherishing her appearance shows her loyalty to her husband. It's useless for her husband to be beautiful.

The Erigeron here is a common weed with white or pink flowers. I often see this plant, but I don't know its name. Probably many people, like me, know the word "climbing over the eaves" from the game "Legend of the Sword and the Chivalrous Man 3". In the game, the general guarding the well of ghosts and gods is called climbing over the wall.

Under the premise of worrying about her husband, a woman can still consider that he is going to defend the country, even if it is to give him a headache. It's really admirable to understand the great righteousness so deeply. Few women can do this. But from another perspective, I'm afraid it's also a way for her to comfort herself. If you miss your husband, think about your country and turn a little love into a big love to ease your grief.

She even thought of using a girl without sadness to help her, forget the sorrow. Miss too much, she can't bear it, the best way is to forget. It's like a girl who is so miserable after falling in love that she wants to have a car accident to make her forget. I once had such a ridiculous idea, but I never thought about using a girl without sadness, because I never trusted a girl without sadness.

However, in fact, a girl without sadness really exists. Her name is day lily, which is the "Cao Chen" mentioned in the poem. I was particularly surprised when I learned that the famous day lily is the day lily that we often eat. Many lilies are planted on the back hill of my hometown. When they bloom, they are orange and yellow, very beautiful. These flowers are picked and dried into day lilies, also called day lilies. The "assorted yellow flowers" on the mustard tuber counter in the supermarket are made of lilies.

The name girl without sadness is so beautiful and mysterious that we think it only exists in the place where immortals live. Downgrading the day lily at once, the gap is too big, just like the dream suddenly shattered.

The ancients thought that daylily could make people forget their troubles. "Natural History" records: "Day lilies make people happy and forget their worries, so they are called worry-free girls." Ji Kang's "Theory of Health Preservation" also wrote: "Love is bitter, day lilies forget their worries, and fools know it." Therefore, the day lily has been given such a beautiful name as "girl without worry". No wonder its flower language is "forgotten love", which sounds romantic and sad.

On Mother's Day, almost everyone will send their mother a bunch of carnations instead of day lilies. But what many people don't know is that day lily is actually the mother flower of China.

Of course, forgetting the day lily is just a legend. If you have sadness in your heart, how can you forget it easily unless you really have amnesia? It is impossible for husbands who are far away from the battlefield not to know what their wives think, but there is nothing they can do. War brings more than just parting.