Why are women unhappy when they don't go to work after marriage?

After marriage, women will take on the work of husband and wife, which is what countless mother-in-law want their daughter-in-law to do. But the reality is that women also need independence, and they don't want to stay at home and waste time. Mother-in-law hopes that her daughter-in-law can be honest at home, take care of her husband, be filial to her elders and relieve stress. But the husband was unhappy when he saw his wife living comfortably at home. Why?

One: Expectation turns into disappointment.

After staying at home for three years, a woman is completely derailed from society. Times are changing. If you can't keep up with the rhythm, you will be eliminated by society. When a woman just gets married, she will naturally dress up beautifully and be intellectual and generous when she has a job and an economic source. But after a long time in marriage, all women and men can discuss is housework and money. From the previous dream to the abyss of reality, men will change from expectation to disappointment, and they will hate women's chatter more and more. Finally, my in-laws were satisfied, but my husband was bored.

Two: I hope someone will share it.

Marriage is not to marry a "little ancestor" to go home. No man really wants his wife to stay at home and spend only his own money. In-laws want their daughter-in-law to stay because they are afraid that her daughter-in-law will be too ambitious, achieve something in her career and deviate from her family. But the husband hopes to have a wife who can share the burden of the family with him, not a person who revolves around his parents all day, but has no financial resources and increases the burden. Therefore, when a wife does not go out to work and asks her husband for money, she will get bored gradually.

Three: How to solve the problem of going to work?

1: handle according to the situation. Women are destined to get married and have children. If they give birth three years earlier, they can really consider not going to work. Children are still young and need the company of adults. In addition, it is the enlightenment period, so it is better for parents to take it with them. Mother-in-law is not allowed to go to work at this time. It is understandable to communicate with her husband in time and let him understand the importance.

2. Communicate with in-laws, so that the elderly can understand that the husband who doesn't go to work is under great pressure. My in-laws are worried about my son, especially after marrying my daughter-in-law. Because a person brings home the bacon, this kind of fatigue is not only physical, but also mental. In this regard, the daughter-in-law can start from this aspect and tell the stakeholders. Let the old people understand that the daughter-in-law goes to work for the sake of a better family and reducing the pressure on her son.

Conclusion:

In-laws are right, husbands have expectations, which is the difficulty for women in the middle. How to resolve it, we need to open a "new road" from the place where both sides attach the most importance. In-laws' hope, the daughter-in-law will obey first, and then deal with it slowly. Don't make the relationship too stiff at once. As long as we quarrel, it will be bad for the relationship at home. Therefore, parents-in-law and daughter-in-law had better take a step back. The elderly help to take care of the family, and the daughter-in-law goes out to work to subsidize the family, which can not only share the pressure of her husband, but also be independent.

You can also try this method.

1, convince her mother-in-law in a pleasant way that her job can bring a stable income and share some (financial resources) for her family.

2, you can create and accumulate wealth for the future, because there must be future plans in the future, such as raising children and going to school.

As a woman in the new era, she should have a stable job and be financially independent. I suggest you be gentle and generous when you speak. Communicate well.