Are loners lonely?

Being alone does not necessarily mean loneliness, but if you try your best to integrate into a group, but find that you can’t find a topic at all and can’t understand what others are saying, then you Must be lonely.

There is a saying that goes well: loneliness is a person’s carnival, and carnival is the loneliness of a group of people.

No matter where we are, we can see loners. Are they lonely? I don't think so. Just like every time I walked out of the campus alone, waited for the bus alone, squeezed the bus alone, took the subway alone, and then took the convenience car alone to find my sister. I have been alone all this time, but you ask me, am I lonely? I am not alone, I know someone is waiting for me, someone is thinking about me, I am not alone!

The reason why you feel lonely when you are alone is because you are lonely when you are alone, or you are afraid, you are afraid of being alone, you are afraid of loneliness.

In fact, no one has never been lonely in his life. Loneliness is the normal state of life. You must learn to reconcile with loneliness.

Dear, I hope that one day you will be alone, looking at the passers-by and the busy traffic, and you will no longer feel lonely, but that life is so beautiful.

To borrow the words of teacher Chen Guo from Fudan University, "What is loneliness? Loneliness is the enjoyment stolen from the crowd. It is completely spiritual freedom. Loneliness means that we have time to be alone. , there is no need to dress up or be pretentious, and there is no need to wear a hat and smoke a cigarette to pretend to be lonely. Loneliness does not seek external things but seeks itself."

We do not deny that there are "loners" in reality. Those who are “unsociable” are not necessarily “lonely” or “shameful” because they are “unsociable,” “out of time,” or “not dancing with reality.” It is just a reflection of “different ways and not working together.” Bar. Of course, what needs to be distinguished is that many people are lazy, unself-disciplined, and self-righteous and are out of tune with the society, which means they are self-centered and "unsociable". This is "isolation" without self-spiritual improvement and perfection. It requires self-reflection, adapting to the many rules of society, correct, sincere, and calm acceptance and distinguishing which ones are necessary practices and which ones are inevitable distances.

There was once a song that said, "Lonely people are shameful." It may also be a decadent "lonely sound" that does not strive for perfection.

Loneliness is an inconsolable cage, because lonely people are at a loss and restless. Their thoughts are barren and desolate, their actions are single and they have little regard for themselves and others' insights, and they are more passively disgusted and rejected.

Therefore, many people regard "loneliness" as "loneliness", or confuse "loneliness" with "loneliness". This is because their thoughts lack expansion and enrichment, and their single spirit requires learning to enrich it.

"Loneliness is a state of mind."

"Carnival is the loneliness of a group of people, loneliness is the carnival of one person!"

Be yourself and keep doing it Learning enriches the spiritual world, and even living alone is the best state of being alone but not alone.

Text/Mu Xia Zhifeng

Being alone is a way of behavior. According to each person's preferences, interests, and methods, different manifestations appear. There are many types of people's spiritual world, such as cheerful, introverted, sentimental, etc.

I know a girl like this. When she was in school, she not only had no friends, but you could always see her doing anything alone. She was eating, going home to school, and you couldn’t see her doing anything else during class. When we are together with her, she is like air floating among us. I feel that she is very introverted and never mentions anything about herself to her classmates. The inner world of people like her is also closed and lonely.

After that, through contact with her, I completely gained a new perspective on loneliness. It turns out that I didn’t choose to be alone because of loneliness, but because I did something that interested me and left behind. If you open the synonym of loneliness, you will find that everything in the world is defined by the surface, not by the depth of understanding.

I am a loner.

Not only does he avoid love, but he also avoids friendship.

Although I am alone, lonely, and cold...

But I have gained freedom, ease, and stability.

Why do I use the word "stable"?

Because as long as people encounter emotional problems, there will be no inner troubles.

Whether good or bad, the seven emotions and six desires will dominate all our senses and keep them in operation.

Over time, your body and mind will naturally feel tired.

Just like marriage is beautiful, you can get a partner and a person to work with for life.

But at the same time, you will also get a large family behind him who you don’t know whether they are enemies or friends.

Fortunately, if a company is united, you may be able to find like-minded partners.

But at the same time, there will always be a few people who like to stir up trouble and stir up trouble.

You can't always accept the good and discard the bad.

God doesn’t love you that much, and the world will always be unfair.

So some people, like me, choose to escape.

Being alone is your own choice, not the so-called survival of the fittest in society.

We don’t like to fight, we like to let things take their own course.

But others cannot cooperate with us and wait patiently for the day when the flowers bloom and fall.

So we can only stick to our inner choice, even if we are lonely.

I will never regret it.

I believe that loners are not necessarily lonely. Loneliness is divided into two forms. One is a visible phenomenon. Because there are no fellow travelers, one is forced to be alone. The accurate description is loneliness. The "walking alone" mentioned here should be accurately described as coming and going alone; The kind is the invisible heart. Because of different concepts and ideologies, you choose to be alone, that is: a person is independent and takes on everything. Loneliness is short-lived, and lonely people must be lonely; but loneliness is not necessarily the case. On the contrary, lonely people are usually people who have reached a certain state and have ideas. Ideological loneliness needs to be accompanied by people who play the piano and the harp, and it requires fate. Therefore, there is a saying: "If the Tao is not the same, we will not seek each other." If you do not work together, the only option is to be alone. This is a higher level of loneliness, because such people seem to be lonely, but they understand how to live. Once you meet someone with the same path, you will find that such a lonely person begins to shine. Shine. People in front of people and behind people always follow the one they love, moving towards the same goal. The legendary Jiang Ziya is a lonely man. There is a saying of "fishing alone in the snow in the cold river", "picking chrysanthemums under the eastern fence, leisurely seeing each other" Isn’t Tao Yuanming, the Eastern Jin Dynasty poet named “Nanshan”, also a lonely person? In short, the word "loneliness" is very bearable for people. Loneliness means a state, a sublimation of thought, which either soars into the sky or sinks to the ground.

Thank you for the invitation.

Being alone usually does not represent a behavioral pattern, but a state of life. It doesn't mean that you often act alone, you are a lonely person.

Think about it, you go to a party. When you enter, only the etiquette at the door gives you a smile.

You find a seat and sit down, and the people next to you are already in place. You knew all of them, but they just looked up at you and then continued their intense conversation with the friend next to them.

You try to interject something, but find that you don’t understand their topic at all. The reward for interjecting is sudden embarrassment on their part.

You seem to have a different tone than everyone else here.

Do you think you are this kind of person?

Such people are not necessarily lonely. He just went to a place that didn't belong to him.

When he returns home, he can still talk to his old friends, play video games with the people he grew up with, or play with his favorite military models.

So don’t keep saying that you are lonely anymore. Lonely people are poor people.

You will proudly announce to everyone: I am a poor person! ?

The real lonely people say nothing in the circle of friends, while the noisy ones keep shouting in the circle of friends: I am lonely, but I want to be alone!

Maybe he just went out for a walk at night and felt that he was a lonely person.

Just pretending to be pitiful.

They like to do everything alone, but I think this needs to be understood by us. This is not a disease, it is an attitude towards dealing with people, and in my opinion , although they are alone every day, they are not lonely. The solitude we see is only the most superficial thing. Just like when we look at a person, we can only see his appearance at first glance, and only slowly can we see his inner side.

They like to do everything alone

So, they seem to be solitary, but they may have a rich inner world, and I think this kind of inner world is exactly what they want. It comes from their attitude of being lonely. Loneliness can give people a good thinking environment. Only when the surroundings are quiet can we really have the mind to think about problems. The more time they spend alone, the more things they think about, and slowly their inner world becomes richer. Well, these changes are invisible to us outsiders. All we can see is that he eats alone, watches movies alone, studies alone, etc. In fact, their inner world may be richer than ours. .

So I think that these loners are not lonely. They are also ordinary people. They have their own ideas, their own hobbies, and they will work hard for what they like. It’s just that they Choosing to do it alone, choosing to shoulder everything silently by myself, I think these people are exactly the people we should admire. They can guard their hearts and will not change themselves because of this complicated world. They Just like a hermit in troubled times, one person and one world, so good!

There are hundreds of people of all shapes and colors. Some people like to be lively, while others like to be quiet. Whether a person who often walks alone must be lonely depends on whether he or she is alone because of the nature of their work, or whether they have no choice but to be alone.

Even if you have to live alone, you cannot say that you are necessarily lonely. It depends on whether his or her solitary life is accompanied by low morale and sighing. If someone walks calmly, calmly and enjoys his own life, how can he be considered a lonely person? People's hearts have a special secret, and it's okay to indulge in the unrestrained freedom of going alone.

The so-called loneliness, I understand, is that a person is eager to get along with others and have someone to accompany him, but he has no friends, so he has to be alone. This gap between expectations and reality makes people feel extremely lonely and lonely. This is a very bad self-feeling. It is not caused by "being alone", but is derived from the lack of support for the soul and the lack of a sense of belonging.

If you remain positive and optimistic and have a sense of participation, generally speaking, you will rarely be alone on a regular basis. If you don't refuse people thousands of miles away, the social connections of family, friendship, colleagues, etc. will come. How can a social person be in a "loner" state all the time!