When a man and a woman are dating, do they need to confess their love history to each other?

When men and women get along, "past love history" always seems to be mentioned intentionally or unintentionally, and it has become an unavoidable topic.

Is it necessary to know the other person’s love history? Many people around me feel that it is still necessary because: I know what you need so that I can give it to you; I know what injuries you have suffered so that I can avoid accidentally hurting you; I want to understand why he did not accompany you until the end, because I I want to be with you until the end. ?

So, if your partner asks about your past love history, how would you respond?

1. When your partner asks you about your past love history, what does he want to know?

1. Why did you and your ex break up?

When your partner asks you about your love history, he wants to know the reason why you broke up with your ex, and he also hopes to have a deeper and more comprehensive understanding of your past and your outlook on love.

2. Would you break up with her for the same reason?

After knowing the reason why you and your ex broke up, he will think further: Does he have the same problem with you now? In order to avoid breaking up with you, what should he pay attention to every day? What pitfalls does it need to avoid?

3. Is it possible for you to go to the end with him?

The process of your partner asking questions is also a test: he wants to confirm his position in your heart, he wants to know whether this relationship is likely to last long, and whether it is possible for you to make it to the end.

2. The pros and cons of confessing past love history

Let’s first talk about the benefits of confessing love history:

1. Prevent your ex from suddenly jumping out. Cause unnecessary trouble to the current employee.

2. Rather than letting others add fuel to the fire and make the current person suspicious, it is better to confess on your own initiative.

3. Yun Danfeng tells the story of love in a gentle manner, showing that he has let go and giving his current girlfriend a reassurance.

4. It helps to enhance mutual understanding and also helps to look forward to future life.

Let’s talk about the disadvantages of confessing your love history:

1. Talking about love history is a "technical activity". You must grasp the right details and explain in detail and appropriately, and what should not be said. He was tight-lipped.

2. If you talk too much about your love history, your partner will inevitably have doubts: Have you not forgotten your last relationship and your ex?

3. When the love history is detailed, the other party cannot help but compare and secretly compete with his ex, which may very well pave the way for future quarrels.

3. Do you want to confess your past love history?

1. If he doesn’t ask, I won’t tell

If the other party doesn’t ask, it’s probably because he doesn’t mind or isn’t interested, so there’s no need to bring it up.

After all, more is worse than less. Don't cause trouble for yourself, don't cause trouble for the other party, make each other comfortable, and everyone is happy, how good is it?

2. He asked, and I said, but with reservations

The other party asked, but did not say anything, which seemed insincere. But when speaking, you must be reserved and detailed.

You can focus on the key points, such as the reasons for breaking up, so that the other party can understand your bottom line and boundaries. As for the details of love, save them if you can, so as not to arouse the other person's comparison.

3. Give your current partner and you the confidence to move forward

The purpose of talking about love history is not to recall the past, but to grasp the present and look forward to the future.

So, I want to give my current commitment and guarantee: I may not have done well enough before, but I have become better now, and I hope to keep going with you.

4. Love has no fixed pattern, and mutual comfort is the most important

Concerning the question of whether you should confess your love history to your partner, Cai Kangyong said something, which I think makes sense: ?When it comes to falling in love, there are no dos and don’ts.

When lovers get along, the most important thing is to find a way that makes both people comfortable.

If I think it is a knot that cannot be erased, I can choose not to say it, or I can have reservations.

If the other person breaks up with you because of your relationship history, it only means that he or she is not the right person for you. ?

Yes, there are no absolutes, and there is no fixed formula for love. Regarding past love history, whether to talk about it, how to talk about it, and how much to talk about, everything depends on personal choice.

The most important thing is to find a way of expression that makes each other comfortable and acceptable, so that each other can understand each other better and make each other more confident in the relationship.