Is the estrangement between the daughter and her family caused by the elderly?

1. It's not that the daughter is estranged from her family, but that the parents treat her daughter as an outsider first.

A female netizen is very dissatisfied with this topic. She said that it was clearly caused by the elderly, why should she blame the women? After a detailed understanding, I realized that most of her and her little sisters were indifferent to their parents and gradually alienated them.

Some people say that since she got married, she went back to her parents' house as if she were a "guest". Her parents didn't tell her anything, not even a room for her. Every time she goes back to her mother's house, she has to make do with her sister-in-law. After living for a long time, her parents will urge her to hurry back to her hometown, which makes her very sad. Originally, marriage has not changed substantially for her. Now being so cold by my family, I can only jump on a small home.

Parents' unfair treatment of their grandchildren makes their daughters feel chilling.

Last year, my cousin quarreled with her uncle, slammed the door and left in a rage, and didn't return to her family for more than half a year. The reason is that her cousin's son has been treated unfairly. It is said that her uncle and aunt are very kind to her grandson and buy things all day, but her grandson has nothing. On the grandson's birthday, the whole family will go out to eat, but on the grandson's birthday, they gave birthday cakes.

Cousin is very dissatisfied with her parents, and she doesn't understand why the older generation should treat their children differently, so she no longer plans to associate with them. So she firmly believes that this is the parents' problem, not the woman's fault. Unless parents can treat her and her eldest brother's children equally, she will never take them back.

3. Prefer boys to girls, and marry a daughter to splash water.

This is what we talked about before. Most parents who maintain this concept are deeply influenced by traditional culture. They also have the concept that "women are not as good as men" and will be more instinctively biased towards their sons. After the daughter got married, she naturally became an outsider. This kind of parents will leave all the property at home to their sons and mistreat their daughters for years. If they still want to give women a big hat at this time and say something like "I am not filial after marriage", then women will be too wronged.