Have you ever felt that teaching children homework is going to collapse?

I used to be in a state of collapse almost every morning and evening. Even though I am doing education and training, I really can't stand the state of children doing homework. I know it shouldn't be like this, but I still can't do it.

Every night when children do their homework, they basically collapse because of two things.

First, homework is slow, and only a few words are written in an hour. Once you don't stare, you don't know what you are thinking and doing, and your homework can be finished later.

Second, candidates often forget words when writing, and often miss questions when doing math. Every time I finish the exam, I am very angry, because I dropped the questions in front or wrote the new words correctly, so I stopped writing them later.

The same is true in the morning. After getting up every morning, I don't worry. Always stay on the edge of being late for school and not being late.

How did I solve it later? I mainly used the following two steps.

First, I told him that homework is my own business, and being late for school is also my own business. Make it clear, and then tell him that you are old and don't have to rush you.

I really didn't rush him for the next few days. As a result, one day 1 1 didn't finish his homework and was very sleepy. I was late the next morning and was told by the teacher.

It's okay from now on.

As for the topic, I will play with it.

I forget words by asking my children to practice a lot.

Is my method effective? Later, I learned that it is not the method that works, but the parents who are still on the edge of cerebral hemorrhage may be waiting.

I feel the same way. There is a first-year student and a second-year student at home. Sometimes a question has been said 10 times, and the child still looks at you blankly. The first day I understand, the next day I don't understand. I finally understand, and I don't know the third day. The feeling of collapse made me wonder whether to hit the child or myself.

I still remember when Dabao learned Pinyin. When I was studying dtnl, I watched it for half an hour on the first day and remembered an L; The next day, Dabao couldn't read again. After another hour and a half, he can finally read. Then I stopped on the third day, then on the fourth day, the fifth day ... for a whole week, I still couldn't open the book and finish reading it. I finally collapsed that day, and I cried, wondering how I gave birth to such an ignorant child.

The teacher taught me pinyin for a month, and I took it for a semester. Later, I don't know when I began to understand inexplicably, and dictation began to be correct every day.

Dabao began to know the number 1 when he was in a small class. I think many children will learn it as soon as they learn it. My family Bao Xiao learned it as soon as he learned it. But none of my Dabao class knows this 1, let alone other figures. I tried to get Dabao to write 100 times and read it while writing, but I didn't know it after a day. I guess many parents have never tried that kind of powerlessness.

He didn't know the numbers until others in the big class began to learn arithmetic. Fortunately, he began to understand numbers after grade one. Otherwise, I will wonder if he was born in the hospital by mistake. After all, his father and I studied very well when we were children.

Hawking was once considered "hopeless" by the teacher, Goethe was expelled from three schools, and Edison was extremely slow in his childhood and was considered by the teacher to be incapable of learning. ...

Life is a marathon, it doesn't make any sense to start fast, and there is no saying that you have never lost at the starting line.

A teacher and a parent told me my opinion, and I was devastated when my child was in grade one, helping with homework (mainly math homework). Sometimes I yell, but the more I yell at my child, the less I will! Even many times, it really hurts to yell at the children and watch the little lover's pear flower bring rain.

Once, it was a question of who could help math homework better than who. The child just doesn't understand. I've tried many methods, and even have examples. As a result, the child just couldn't do it, and I immediately collapsed. I can't help shouting and cursing. Teachers dare not beat and scold other people's children, but really yell and scold their own children. As a result, the child was scared by me. Seeing the child shivering, I suddenly calmed down. As a result, the child had a fever at night. At that moment, I really felt that it didn't matter how the children got. As long as the children are healthy and happy, we will go to school! I believe that many parents, like me, hate iron not to produce when their children are not good, and let it go when their children are slightly ill.

Be patient, be patient. I remember last year, my daughter lived at home for several months, and my little nephew went to kindergarten with us. As soon as the child left school, the daughter took a book to tell the child a story. I don't know why, but soon my nephew cried. The girl always said that she would leave her children with you and go to school with us. She also said that her mother-in-law could not read or teach her children. I said you have culture, so teach it yourself. The girl said angrily, mom, I don't have that temperament. After a long time, I became anxious and insisted on hitting him. The girl and nephew have been gone for a year, so it's time to go to the first grade. I don't know how she did it.

Tutoring children's homework is really the most difficult time of the day for many parents. I have explained it to my children many times, but I still can't understand the knowledge points. A seemingly simple question, the child just can't do it, don't know how to draw inferences from others, don't think, and wait for you to explain the answer. Various problems really make many parents nervous.

My family had such an experience.

My family has started my mother's homework and evening self-study since the fourth grade. After dinner every day, the dining table in the living room becomes the main battlefield for mother and daughter to study. With the deepening of learning difficulty and the increase of homework, this drama of homework counseling began. ......

At the beginning, my mother could explain the ideas and knowledge points of answering questions to my sister. When a child feels understanding, she can also give an encouraging smile. Unfortunately, the good times did not last long.

Slowly, the voice of the topic began to get louder and louder, and there were more and more shouts. All kinds of "stupid", "stupid" and "brain-damaged" languages break out from time to time, and sometimes my daughter will cry. At this time, I basically dare not go out to the living room. The scene is really terrible.

However, this practice has not achieved the expected results, and children's learning efficiency has not been effectively improved, but they have become more and more timid. Later, we realized that this practice was inappropriate and gradually changed our attitude and practice. The picture of mother's kindness and filial piety returned to our small family.

Letting children understand your anxiety will not help solve the problem.

Today's children are under much more pressure to study than we were in those years. The course is very tight and there are many subjects to learn. In addition to the school's class content and homework requirements, they also use their spare time to participate in various interest classes, cram schools and advanced classes and do a lot of extracurricular exercises. Most of the time, children concentrate on their studies. In this state, the child is already very tired. Moreover, children in primary schools have endurance, perseverance and concentration.

If at this time, you show excessive anxiety and irritability because of your child's mistakes in homework, careless study, absent-mindedness and inability to understand your explanation, reprimanding and scolding the child will not help the child solve the problem.

In this way, children will be more nervous, prone to confusion and loss, and confused and contradictory to the goal and significance of learning. Moreover, mother's repeated reprimands will make children have self-denying values, think that they can't do it, and it's useless to work hard, thus giving up on themselves and having a negative impact on children's mental development.

It is very important to adjust the mentality and create a relaxed interval.

No matter how unhappy the child is, you must understand that "the child is my own"!

Children will inevitably encounter various problems in the process of growing up, which is inevitable in the process of children's personality and mental development. Every child has his own strengths. You must recognize children's characteristics and strengths, create a relatively relaxed family atmosphere for them, help them develop hobbies and habits, and establish interests in learning, reading and sports.

In addition, as parents, we must set an example. When children are at home, try not to watch TV or play mobile phones, and talk to them more. When children learn to do their homework, you can read more books and do more housework and set an example for them with your own actions.

Affirm that children's efforts are more important than their grades.

The road of life is long, and it will be wonderful. Academic achievement is not the only thing in life. As a parent, you can value your child's academic performance. After all, it is an affirmation of his efforts and ability. However, you should pay more attention to his efforts. As long as children invest time and energy to be themselves, then such children don't have to worry about not getting out of their wonderful lives in the future.

Affirming children's efforts is more inspiring than affirming their achievements.

At first, my child didn't want to study, so I treated him in a simple and rude way. Under pressure, the child really did his homework. It won't last long. He will treat me as I treat him.

I adjusted my state, slowed down the pace, and took my children to study a little. On the contrary, the improvement of efficiency keeps up with the progress of teachers, and the number of times they are praised by teachers is increasing, and their learning status is getting better and better.

Dad, don't worry, the first grade knowledge is simple, a little more patience, a little more teaching, and it will be fine slowly.

Many parents in China have the pain of accompanying their children to do homework. Parents, young and old, must have some pain in their children's homework.

One of the parents always does homework with their children every night. When children do their homework, there are always many reasons to delay, and they will never do it right away. Even if my mother is by my side, there will be times when my mother collapses, and it will also radiate condemnation to the elderly.

As parents, it is hard to work outside every day, and I have to meet the test of my children when I go home. A neighbor's mother said, I'm too tired to doubt my life.

Many educational experts have also given some ingenious suggestions on the difficulty of children's homework.

First of all, parents should have a correct attitude, don't have emotions, and don't take it as a burden. Just finish the homework assigned by the teacher, don't add homework. This can overcome procrastination. Parents should not nag their children's homework. In order to give them a good space, they must make the space quiet.

Another is that before writing homework, parents should communicate with their children to understand the amount of homework assigned by the teacher and let parents consider how much free time their children need.

I think it's good to teach children to do homework. I am the mother of three children. It is my daily job to help my children with their homework. I had the urge to kick them out of the house. I remember my daughter began to learn to keep a diary when she was in the second grade. Once I was very angry when I taught her, saying that she wrote a sentence. I taught her for several nights. I was so angry that I picked up my notebook and hit her on the head. How could I be so careless? Use your head! Think for yourself! Don't wait for me to tell you to write. Then my mother-in-law saw me like this and advised me: don't do this, let the child write if he wants, and don't force her if he doesn't want to write. Other children don't have to teach like you, and they haven't been admitted to key universities. There is a mother in the village who can't even write her own name. Dad worked outside all day and was admitted to the University of Aeronautics and Astronautics. Why don't I have such a child prodigy who makes me sad? But I began to reflect on my violent behavior.

Although we hope our children can understand us, as parents, we should also know how to take care of our children's nature. The first-grade children have just turned 6 years old and have no self-control learning ability. In fact, if you look closely, you will find it difficult for many children at this stage to concentrate on doing a very boring thing. Writing is really boring for children. It is a challenge for them to sit up straight and write one by one. At this time, the child's body will twist, itching here and there for a while. In short, all kinds of small moves and words are crooked. Looking at the children like this, parents' patience was worn away a little and they began to beat and scold. And blindly blaming, attacking and punishing will only aggravate children's frustration and fear in learning, thus resisting homework and learning more.

To help six-year-old children do their homework, the most important thing is to guide them patiently and encourage them attentively, so that children can establish their willingness and methods of learning and develop their ability of self-study.

Establishing the willingness to learn means that children have the ability to think and learn independently and are willing to do their best to complete it. Let children have the will to learn, mainly depends on how parents guide them and give them the motivation to solve and overcome problems in interesting ways, such as mathematics. Then consciously count with your child in your daily life. Today, my mother bought apples and pears. We counted how many apples and pears there are, so how many are there in total? In order to stimulate children's interest and potential in mathematics. Lay the foundation for building children's willingness to learn.

Teach children learning methods and skills: review before doing homework, and then start doing homework, so that children will have a deeper impression of what they have learned, and it will be much easier to complete homework and take less time. Let the children set a time to finish their homework, remind them to make a comparison, and let them have the concept of controlling time. It is very important to preview the new courses and review the courses you have already learned. It is necessary to form habits.

The establishment of autonomous learning mode: completing homework should be a matter for children, not for parents. This should make children realize that it is relatively easy to educate children in lower grades, because at this time, both teachers and parents will have a great blow to children. If good study habits are not established during this period, it will be more difficult to supervise later. To help children with their homework, just give them advice, let them think fully and understand themselves. Check the homework mainly to see whether the font is neat and correct. If mistakes are found, let him check the deviation first. If the child doesn't see where the mistake is, the parents will tell the child where the mistake is and analyze the reasons for the mistake with the child. Some children can be taught a lesson by delaying their homework and refusing to change their minds. For example, if a child doesn't want to do his homework, parents should find opportunities not to force him to finish his homework, but to communicate with the teacher. The teacher will criticize and punish him when he goes to school the next day, and don't scold him when he comes back in the evening. Instead, he will help him analyze and then encourage her and give her affirmation that she can do her homework well.

In addition, parents sometimes have to learn to reconcile with themselves and accept that they have an ordinary child. Some children will understand when they help him with his homework, but some children may repeat the same question for more than a dozen times, and he is still confused, indicating that children are not good at understanding and learning. This requires parents' patience and tolerance.

Every child is an angel of his parents. Tutoring children to do homework should be more patient, more tolerant and grow up with them.

Parents teach their children homework until they collapse. I think most people have experienced this situation. News, television and other media have also heard about it, and everyone feels the same way.

Let me also talk about my experience of collapse.

This feeling will not be too prominent in the middle and lower grades of children. Because the knowledge points are relatively simple, counseling is not so laborious.

After entering the fifth grade this year, the difficulty of homework has increased, and the psychology of children before puberty is changing. Children are not as concerned about learning as before, so it is naturally difficult to coach them.

One weekend, a child was doing his homework and asked me some questions that he couldn't. At first glance, I have done these questions many times, and the topics are all the same, but they all say no, so I didn't know how to teach her at that time. Look again, there are four wrong questions in calculation question 6. At that moment, I really felt helpless and helpless, and my confidence collapsed instantly.

However, a collapse is a collapse, and you can't take it out on your child. You still have to tidy up your emotions and continue to be a good parent.

What if it collapses?

(1) Keep your distance from your children.

When an adult collapses, there will be too many emotions to vent in his heart. At this time, children often become a tool for venting. In order to prevent children from becoming innocent vent objects, we should have keen vigilance, know that emotions are about to erupt, and have the consciousness of reminding ourselves to leave quickly in our minds. Find a place to calm yourself down, or tidy up in time in a way you like, such as making yourself cry, or finding a girlfriend to tell.

(2) After stabilization, comfort the child.

When I break down, I am not so polite to my children, and my voice will be eight degrees higher. A child will feel that he is being trained inexplicably, because he feels that he just doesn't understand why he should be trained. When you are stable, you should tell your child what you did wrong, explain why you collapsed, and let the child not be scared by his behavior.

We can understand the psychology that adults want their children to succeed and their daughters to succeed. But when the mood collapses, it is necessary to deal with the mood in time, appease the child and protect the child's mind from innocent harm.

No, the child is very independent. He does his homework by himself. Once he made a mistake and refused to listen to me. I was anxious and said, "I am also a graduate student. Obviously you are wrong. Why don't you listen to me? " The son cried and said, "That's what the teacher taught him." On second thought, the teacher shouldn't be wrong. Maybe the child misunderstood or misunderstood. I also changed my attitude and said gently, "well, let's bet that you will ask the teacher tomorrow." If I am wrong, I will give you 10 yuan. If you are wrong, put it off for a week. Gambling or not? " The son stopped crying and said, "Take a gamble". A few days later, I remembered the bet and asked my son what the teacher said. The son said shyly, "You are right." I welcome it, too. "Mop the floor for a week." Later, of course, it was sincere, because he was not as tall as a mop. I think it should be entertaining. Children always make a hullabaloo about when doing their homework. When they are frightened, uneasy, afraid and wronged, their learning efficiency will not be high. In other words, if you take a strange course, your parents will keep preaching, sarcasm, scolding and striking the table, and you won't collapse. Parents always feel that they are going to collapse. In fact, the child is more collapsed!