Should I be punished for rolling and crying without buying toys for my children?

Nowadays, people are under great economic pressure, their parents have two working families, and their children are involuntarily taken care of by retired people. But now, the "intergenerational separation" of the elderly is particularly serious, leading to the doting on their children. Many children use rolling and crying as bargaining chips. In their eyes, as long as they are loud, unreasonable and exaggerated, their parents will give in and they will get what they want

But is this question as simple as shopping?

Children don't know right or wrong, but instinctively pursue what they want. Obviously, it is good that parents can meet their requirements. Simply satisfying children's requirements will only bring harm to children.

What we should do as parents is:

I. Kindness and firmness

For example, when a child wants to buy a toy, as a parent, he should speak in a very peaceful and completely lifeless way, but the content and tone must be very firm and irrefutable.

"Baby, mom and dad won't buy you this plush toy today."

Parents should be kind and firm. Not because of anger and impatience.

Moreover, we should emphasize "mom and dad" and accurately express our parents' views: mom and dad won't buy it for you, crying and rolling around, and there is no room for bargaining.

Second, avoid the traditional punishment education.

Jane nelsen, an American psychologist and educator, holds that traditional punishment education can only make children obey in a short time, but in the long run, it will only lead to anger, revenge, rebellion and retreat.

Therefore, in the long run, punishment education is very harmful.

Third, communication.

(1) Communicate well with the elderly in advance. When parents are educating their children and reasoning with them, the elderly should stay out of it.

Don't blindly protect your grandchildren. Will your children think your mother is right or your grandmother is right?

When a daughter-in-law teaches a child a lesson, stop it at once. Has the mother-in-law considered the feelings of her daughter-in-law?

(2) Communicate with children and instill them step by step in daily life. You can also teach children not to always buy toys in games with them. Crying and rolling is not a good boy's performance.

In the Three Character Classics, it is said that human nature is good at the beginning of life, and there is another saying that it is the father's fault to raise or not to teach. There is also an old saying: spoil children like killing them.

As parents, it is our responsibility to educate our children.

Family education is like the cornerstone of building a tall building. Only when the foundation stone is laid can a high-quality high-rise building be built and family education be done well can a good foundation be laid for cultivating outstanding talents. This kind of family basic education, accompanied by deep affection and meticulous and considerate way, is irreplaceable by any other form of education and plays a fundamental role in children's life growth!

There are also many people who think that it is good for children to roll and cry and have a meal. What do you think of this practice? Welcome comments to forward.