What is the most common mistake in quarreling?

The most common mistake is to gradually get away from the controversial matter itself, but instead start to dig up old scores and even start personal attacks.

In fact, sometimes it is not necessarily a bad thing for two people to argue about one thing. I think it is actually a good thing to express your thoughts and opinions and let the other side know the bottom line of the other side. Only in this way can we understand each other's bottom line and avoid unnecessary contradictions. Sometimes, in a quarrel, you will be carried away by anger, say something irresponsible, say something radical, and even make personal attacks on the other side. We are all ordinary people, and we can often take what we say the most seriously. Once people are hurt, they will shrink back and gradually become less intimate.

And many times it is easy for us to deviate from the matter itself and rise to the opposite war. Moreover, I want to find out what I know can stop the other person's mouth. I hope I can get the upper hand in this argument, especially I hope to see the other person speechless. In fact, it's not bad that things are contradictory, but we will gradually turn the argument into a battle for our dignity and honor.

When you think about it carefully, you will find that the matter itself is not that big a deal. We will definitely talk calmly to solve the contradiction. But many times, our quarrel begins with the argument of the matter itself, and then it will gradually develop into an argument of attitude between the two sides, and then turn over old scores and so on. In fact, it only takes a slap in the face, and we are often angered by each other's tone, statement and attitude. In fact, after the heart that we originally wanted to tolerate is hurt, all the grievances in our hearts will erupt. So I think when quarreling, we should adjust our emotions before the situation is irreconcilable. Angry quarrels will only get worse.