People who can talk deserve to make friends.

Get along with people, maybe we will have this feeling, that is:

Some people will make people feel as comfortable as spring breeze; And some people talk with guns and sticks, which makes people embarrassed, depressed and even angry.

For those who speak ill, some people will use their headstrong nature as an excuse.

But in fact, whether you can speak or not has nothing to do with your temper, but whether you have someone else in your heart.

A person who has others in his heart and knows how to put himself in others' shoes may not speak well, but his words will not be full of malice.

Cai Kangyong said: "The way of speaking is also the way of being a man."

Life is not easy, and the steps are difficult.

Being with people who can talk is the best health care.

After all, people can be more relaxed, comfortable and happy only when they are with people who always know how to think of others.

I chatted with my friend Xiaoqing some time ago. Xiaoqing said that she was very unhappy with a colleague and would never associate with her again.

It turns out that a new person has come to Xiaoqing's company. Because the couple and Xiaoqing are alumni, Xiaoqing took care of her at first.

However, after that, the longer we spent together, the more weak Xiaoqing felt. The reason for this is that this colleague of Xiaoqing spoke, either sarcastically or habitually poking people.

Xiaoqing has achieved good results. When everyone congratulates her, this colleague always says at an inappropriate time, isn't this your achievement? I don't know. I thought you would be the boss of the company!

Xiaoqing bought a new dress. When many people are saying that she has a good eye, this colleague will say, "You are so fat, it's a waste to wear the best clothes on you!" " "

At first, Xiaoqing didn't have an attack in order not to destroy the friendship, but she couldn't stand her colleague's rude remarks again and again.

Finally, Xiaoqing couldn't bear it, broke out completely and had a big fight with this colleague.

As the saying goes, "the mouth can produce roses, but it can also spit out thistles."

As you get older, you will eventually understand that bad mouth and humor are two different things, and honesty and frankness are also two different things.

You are what you say.

A person who always speaks maliciously and makes others uncomfortable, in fact, in the final analysis, it is not because he doesn't know what kind of words will hurt people, but because he is distorted inside and always wants to express himself and ignores the feelings of others.

There is a saying that:

"The so-called emotional intelligence is not smooth, but modesty, tolerance, self-confidence and pattern after virtue are enough. The real high emotional intelligence is actually poured by others. "

That's true.

The reason why a person can listen and speak comfortably is only because he knows how to put himself in the other's shoes and what to say and what not to say.

I read such a story on the Internet:

In a restaurant, when a boss passed a private room, he happened to see several waiters eating the leftovers of the guests. At that time, when the waiter saw the boss passing by, he was at a loss and the scene was embarrassing.

The boss didn't despise the waiter, just said, "It's just that I haven't eaten yet. Do you mind if I join in? "

It is such a sentence that completely eased the atmosphere and safeguarded the face and self-esteem of employees.

In life, in fact, can a person speak to others' hearts and speak out to benefit others?

It's not because of how sweet his voice is, but because they can empathize and understand each other's needs, so what they say can make people feel comfortable and warm.

There is a saying in Buddhism: "If you have good thoughts, you will spit lotus flowers."

People who can talk are not skilled, but they will put themselves in others' shoes and create a comfortable communication atmosphere.

Such people are kind-hearted and sincere, and you will be relaxed and comfortable with them.

Met, worthy of sincere intersection.

What's it like to be with the speaker at the meeting?

A netizen replied like this:

"They are like the warm sun in winter. With them, I always feel kind and warm, which makes people feel relaxed. "

In life, we have to communicate and talk with people every day. Being with people who will talk will make you feel at ease, comfortable and at ease.

The rest of your life is still long. I hope that when you get along with others, you can know how to care about others' feelings, and I also hope that there will be more people around you to talk to.

Only in this way can your life be comfortable and relaxed.

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