Are there many girls who marry early in Guangxi?

There are two examples of early marriage of boys and girls in Guangxi around me. One is that 15-year-old Guangxi girl married to the northern countryside, and the other is that my former colleague was forced to marry by 19-year-old Guangxi boyfriend.

Tell me about this 15-year-old girl. At that time, I was a little girl, playing bungee jumping with my friends in the village street. At this time, a young man in his twenties came to our village, holding the hand of a little girl who looked a few years older than me. As they walked, they waved their hands back and forth high and high, talking and laughing.

I know the man in our village. He dropped out of school before finishing junior high school. He is the only son in the family. So at first I took this little girl as the child of their relatives and thought it was his sister. They stopped when they came to us, but they didn't let go. They stood by and watched us jump over the rubber band. The little girl had to ask us to play for a while.

After playing for a while, they continued to walk hand in hand. At this time, the little friend next to him said, "Do you know who this little girl is?" "Who is it?" I was just asking.

"His wife! Walking hand in hand all over the street every day, haven't you seen it? " The little friend said. I was really surprised. I feel that the little girl is about my age, small and sweet, and her smile is especially sweet, especially when she plays rubber jumping with us. She is just like me. I still don't know anything. How did she get married? In my impression, people who get married have to be in their twenties. In the past, no matter who got married in the village, I would go to see it. Many children are like me, because married people will send candy, and there will be many children in the yard every time. One is to eat this sweet candy, and the other is to like to see other people's beautiful brides. So when I was a child, I looked forward to someone getting married in the village every day.

I then asked, "When did you get married? Why don't I go to her house to eat wedding candy? " The little friend said, "didn't you see how old that woman is?" I was told that she was only 15 years old and didn't give her a wedding, saying that she would wait until she grew up. "

This is the first time I met someone who got married so young. At that time, I kept thinking, how can children get married? Now she still lives in our village. She/kloc-gave birth to a child at the age of 0/6, and now the child is very big.

Let me start with my former colleague, a little girl who looks very thin and beautiful. At that time, she was 2 1 year old, beautiful and lively. She met a young man from Guangxi through online chat, and the two chatted very speculatively. My colleague is laughing there with a mobile phone every day. She used to chat with us, but now she has no time to talk to us. At first glance, it looks like love.

They chatted online for almost half a year. One day, my colleague suddenly offered to resign. I have to stay here for a while because I have to apply for resignation half a month in advance. During this time, we just watched her quit her job and kept talking and laughing with her mobile phone. Every day, she hopes that the company will approve her resignation as soon as possible, because she will go to Guangxi to find a boyfriend. At that time, we all advised her, how can you be a little girl?

Colleague said: "I am very clear. He is different from others. He is a good man. After I went to see him, I found a job there by the way. How can men work in women's cities? Don't all women go to his house? "

At that time, the two of us were talking so hot that she wouldn't listen to anything we said. If we talk too much, she will be angry with us, think that we can't hide her goodness, or be jealous of her. Slowly, people stopped talking about her and reminded her to pay attention to safety when going out. After all, it's too far apart. She has never even left our city before, but when she first went out, she had already left so far.

Later, she really went to Guangxi. At that time, she was exposed to all kinds of photos in Guangxi every day. It seems that after they met, their feelings warmed up.

After about two months, she stopped sharing her photos, and all the photos in Guangxi were deleted. Colleagues are still wondering what happened to her and a little worried about her. After this situation lasted for a few days, a colleague couldn't help calling her and asking her how she was doing. As a result, she said that she was no longer in Guangxi and had come back. She is at her parents' house, and her colleagues think she is in a bad mood.

More than a month later, this colleague reappeared in our company and she also came back to work. At this time, she also took the initiative to tell us what happened after going to Guangxi. It turned out that when she first started to go to Guangxi, they met in reality and fell in love at first sight. They are all glad that they chose to meet. My colleague just went to work, and the man didn't have a formal job, so he played with her every day, but both of them didn't have much money, so they just strolled in the shopping mall, or stayed in the rental house every day. Colleagues in love don't care about these things, but feel that their love is simple and beautiful.

She could feel that the boy liked her very much, and she liked him very much, but what she didn't expect was that the man proposed to her a month after they met, which really surprised her colleagues. Colleagues say we got married too early. But the man said, I'm almost 20 and still young. My classmates and friends are all my age, many children have them, and some have both. It's too late for me. Besides, it's been half a year since we realized it. Not short. Many of us here are engaged and married after meeting several times.

Colleagues said that they just started to fall in love and they didn't know each other very well. It is too early to enter the running-in period after a year of love. It takes at least three years to get to know a person, and then you can know whether the other person is suitable for marriage. Besides, how old are they? One is 19 years old and the other is 2 1 year old. It's too early to talk about marriage. It's too early on our side.

But the man couldn't accept it at all, saying that he would be laughed to death if he didn't get married again, and he certainly couldn't wait that long. As a result, neither of them could convince the other and refused to compromise. Although they all love each other very much, their ideas are too different. Finally, the boy couldn't get married and broke up with his colleague, so his colleague came back. After coming back, they didn't find a suitable job for the time being, and they didn't want to think at home, so they reapplied.

Now many years have passed, and my colleague is still unmarried, but he has a boyfriend who has been in love for many years. But Guangxi's ex-boyfriend got married less than half a year after his colleague came back. Before getting married, he called his colleague and told her that my colleague was his favorite person. If my colleague can change his mind and promise to marry him immediately, he will definitely give up his fiancee and choose my colleague. If his colleagues don't agree, he will lose his mind and hold the wedding at once.

These are two Guangxi people who got married very early. But I have seen people who get married early, not only in Guangxi, but also in Shandong, Henan, Anhui, Yunnan and so on. There are boys and girls who got married very early in many places. I have been to Japan. I met a 22-year-old couple with several children, but that little girl from Guangxi, who is 15 years old, is the youngest I have ever seen.

I heard from a person who got married and had children at the age of 20 that many people in my hometown got married around the age of 20, because in her mind, when the children grow up, they are still young, and others can become grandmothers when they reach the age of being mothers. 100 years, they can be one or two generations more than others.

Whether you marry early or not is your free choice. I hope everyone can meet a lover. I hope all your decisions are what you want.

In recent years, young boys and girls who got married early in their hometown have mushroomed. Reason; Consequences; Countermeasures?

Reason:

The opening of society, the liberation of ideas and the influence of the media. Most of the early marriages are students who have graduated from junior high school or just left school. Most of them are between 13 and 16. They are not mature psychologically and physically, and are in the rebellious period of youth, which makes them vulnerable to external evils. 14-year-old Xiao L (a pseudonym) was wrapped in his dream city by the tide of the times before he finished junior high school for two years. Six months later, she was pregnant for four months. I don't know what to do with it, so I have to tell my parents the truth. Parents are wise. Now that raw rice has been cooked, we will go downhill. When I got on the bus, I looked childish and wore a big wedding dress, but it was hard to hide my embarrassment.

Others dream of the city, sleepwalk secretly, and produce the crystallization of love. I went back to my mother's house and got the doll back.

Xiao n (a pseudonym) and Xiao u (a pseudonym) are classmates in the same village, and their ages are N 15 and U 13 in We Are All Unhappy-Forever and Old. Both of them have poor academic performance, so they went to the same restaurant in the city as waiters before graduating from junior high school. In less than a year, the relationship has been upgraded, and there is no distinction between men and women. The boss found out, intervened and informed both parents. Regardless of the man's parents, the woman's parents disagreed and recruited her daughter to continue her education. Xiao n seems to have lost his soul, but he also resigned and went to a school with Xiao u, still accompanying Xiao u like a shadow. Walking by the river, shoes can't get wet. The next spring, in the middle of this study, little N and little U left school and went to the other side of love. They should go to another restaurant to continue their sweet career. Once a child is out of the arms of his parents, he is like a bird out of the cage. Only the sky is high and the sea is wide, and the beautiful blueprint designed by his parents is just a piece of waste paper! Last winter, Xiao N and Xiao U were assigned to Po, so the Year of the Ox lived in a rented house in the city for the Spring Festival.

Consequences:

Cohabitation and early marriage under legal age is illegal, which easily leads to social problems and family disputes, and individuals are deeply involved. If both parents violently interfere or lead to death, elopement is also good. Some people drink medicine, some people cut their wrists, some people hunger strike, some people hang themselves and lie on the tracks.

Even if the law is tolerant, the society acquiesces, parents are helpless, and the divorce rate remains high, which is mainly caused by early marriage. Its sequela is a headache for law, society, parents and myself. This bitter fruit is swallowed as soon as you slip.

Now, it seems normal for people to hear that Zhang San's boy is separated and Li Si's daughter is separated. However, it is difficult to eliminate the hidden dangers and pains caused to society, parents and themselves.

Countermeasures:

Fully implement the marriage law. At the same time of tolerance, freedom, autonomy and non-interference, it is necessary to limit illegal early marriage, put on a spell, and let early marriage really taste the bitter fruit.

Strengthen legal ethics education. Take it from the doll. Parents should also receive re-education. Parents are the children's early enlightenment teachers and the first responsible persons. They should lead by example, imperceptibly, so that children can establish a correct concept of honor and disgrace, love and marriage in a good atmosphere from an early age to prevent problems before they happen.

Schools and society should also shoulder this responsibility, pay close attention to the management of * * *, let the social atmosphere develop in the direction of law and morality, and let early marriage become a street rat that everyone is not ashamed of.

I finally found the right person for this question. This phenomenon is really common in our village, and everyone seems to be used to it.

The specific situation is like this. Our village is not very remote. Now that the rural road has been repaired, it takes about three hours to drive to Nanning.

As far as I know, there were four girls in our village who got pregnant early last year (actually more). They are all middle school students who are still studying, aged between 15 and 16. I have written about their deeds and criticized the lack of rural education, but what can this do? Take their parents for example, they have received too little education, and they don't know the problems that adolescent students have to face, let alone how to help them solve them.

Most parents there have such a mentality that children's education is a teacher's problem and should be disciplined by teachers. In fact, they don't know whether their children are studying at school or not, and they don't care if they don't go home during the holidays. This indifferent and laissez-faire attitude eventually led to the tragedy.

You see, they dropped out of school early, then entered the society, became parents at a young age, and assumed the pressure and responsibility that they should not bear. It's a pity.

And those parents also advocate the concept of early marriage and early childbearing. When uncooked rice is cooked, instead of reflecting, they push the boat with the current, and finally pass the buck, saying that this road is their own choice. So it's a bit selfish to separate responsibility from yourself.

Therefore, in rural areas in remote areas, early marriage and childbearing are common phenomena. In the final analysis, it is the backwardness of ideas and the lack of education. This phenomenon should not be advocated, but should be criticized and stopped.

I tell you, not only in Guangxi, but also in Shandong, where we got married 15 16. Take my uncle's grandson for example. My uncle is only in his early 60 s, and my grandson is only 15 years old. He fell in love with a girl, and then he was born. This uncle, who is only in his early 60s, has lived under one roof for four generations. Four generations living under one roof is the envy of many people, and uncle's grandson only completed the task of having children on 15.

Only later, the development of things was completely unexpected! The risk of early marriage and childbearing is actually quite great. After all, we are still young and have no marriage certificate as a protective barrier. Later, the two poor children became motherless children.

Because girls are also eighteen or nineteen years old, even younger, even if they have children, they are still children. Moreover, I know nothing about the upbringing of children. I don't know anything at all.

Then my eldest sister-in-law, that is, my mother-in-law, was very bad to her. Either she doesn't like this or she finds fault with that. Before the child 1 year old, she began to have a second child.

Then this girl, seventeen or eighteen, gave birth to a second child, a second child girl, and now she has both children. However, this has not changed my sister-in-law's attitude, or it may be that I am used to bullying others, so I am even more unscrupulous after giving birth to a second child.

What's more amazing is that my eldest brother, my father-in-law, has even started to find fault with girls, either because they eat too much, or because they don't stop working, or because the girls' parents don't help to look after the children.

In short, it is all kinds of doubts. Finally, because my nephew was young and immature, he got mixed up with other women outside. The girl said a few words and was beaten by her father-in-law

Besides, my father-in-law also went out to scold his wife. Girls are honest and dare not tell their parents, so they put up with it. However, paper can't wrap the fire, and the girl's parents know it.

Just one day, the girl's parents came with someone and took the girl home directly by force, and neither of the children was allowed to take it. From then on, the girl never came back, because she didn't have a marriage certificate and left.

My nephew, who has two children, has never talked about his wife until now. After all, my eldest brother is famous for scolding his wife in the street. Who wants to marry the girl to his family?

Personally, it is not good to marry early and have children early, because many rights of women are not guaranteed and children are poor. In this case, the child is even more pitiful.

As a Guangxi native, there are many boys and girls around me who got married soon after graduating from junior high school. I found that in our country, underage boys are more likely to have wives than adult men.

My two neighbors' sons got married soon after graduating from junior high school, and their daughters-in-law were both junior high school classmates. One of them is Feng Zikai's marriage. Their weddings are not big, because they can't get a marriage certificate yet.

The man's parents are eager for his son to marry his wife as soon as possible. They know that it is not easy to find a daughter-in-law in today's society, but the woman's parents think that what is done is done and agree to their daughter's early marriage. There are many girls in rural families.

It is said that the bride price is several thousand yuan, and the dowry is some daily necessities and a lady motorcycle.

Two neighbors' sons and daughters-in-law, after getting married, gave birth to three daughters in succession, one of whom gave birth to a fourth and finally gave birth to a son. After weaning, children are mainly taken care of by grandparents under 40, while young couples go to Guangdong to work.

A young couple with three daughters went to work in a factory, made some money and then switched to selling pork. Over the years, their lives have gradually improved. The other couple is more content with the status quo, almost all of them are moonlight clan, and the contradiction between husband and wife is increasing gradually, while the in-laws always dare not speak ill of their daughter-in-law, at least not openly. It is difficult to leave your daughter-in-law and beg her again. You can only muddle along and continue to please her humbly.

In addition to the early married couples mentioned above, there are several young couples who are married under age. There are also people who live a good life after marriage, but very few. I won't give examples here.

On the disadvantages of underage marriage;

1, which seriously affected children's physical and mental health. Minor children are in the stage of physical and mental development, many aspects are immature, social life experience is shallow, and they don't even know what marriage is. It is difficult to cope with everything they have to face after marriage, which is easy to cause mental trauma and destroy normal physical and mental development.

2. Early marriage is not protected by law. Because it has not reached the legal age of marriage in China, it is an invalid marriage. This makes minors have no rights as legal couples, and their legitimate rights and interests cannot be guaranteed.

3. Early marriage is very unfavorable to the upbringing and education of the first generation. Minors themselves are not mature, and early marriage has to bear the burden of family life and childbirth that does not match their age, which is often inadequate and will cause obstacles to the healthy growth of the next generation.

Reasons for their underage marriage:

1, parents' relevant education is not in place. Many parents only educate their children to study hard, but ignore how to treat their children's feelings.

2. Minors are immature and irrational about their feelings. I think it's true love, regardless of any consequences, and then I get pregnant unexpectedly, and finally I can only choose to get married.

3. Parents are weak in legal awareness and backward in thinking. As long as the younger generation is in love, men will feel that their sons are capable, and women will feel humiliated, so they can only get married as soon as possible, even if they are underage.

So how to prevent minors from getting married?

1, establish and improve the legal system. Establish and improve the relevant provisions on all illegal marriages and behaviors such as early marriage, private marriage and arranged marriage, and regulate people's marriage and childbearing behavior by law.

2. Actively guide the ideological transformation. Based on the Marriage Law, while adhering to ideological education, we should resolutely put an end to early marriage and early childbearing by legal, administrative and economic means.

3. Carry out in-depth publicity and education. Make the masses and students truly realize that early marriage and childbearing are prohibited by the state, which is not conducive to the healthy development of minors' physical and mental health, prenatal and postnatal care and the improvement of population quality, thus enhancing their legal awareness on marriage issues and standardizing their marriage and childbearing behavior according to law.

Youyou, are there any boys and girls who get married early? What do friends think of underage marriage?

You can get married without violating the marriage law.

Don't be brainwashed by late marriage and late childbirth, as long as it doesn't violate the laws of nature; The law serves all beings, so long as both sides love each other. ...

It should feel like this.

I have been to Guangxi several times, and what I saw and heard during the trip proved that the phenomenon mentioned by the research group is true.

Tell a few stories about me:

On one occasion, she traveled to Guangxi with her primary school best friend. In the middle, she went to Hangzhou to visit her son who had worked there for two years.

When we were traveling in Guilin, we signed up for a guided tour group, which belongs to the kind of random combination.

Among them, a mother and daughter walked with us, took the cable car together and added WeChat to each other. ...

The girl is traveling with her mother. Her mother looks young, and so does the girl. The girl just turned 30, and the sunny boy in the mobile phone she showed us is about to graduate from junior high school. Awkward:

It's too early to get married and have children!

We traveled back by through train.

It is the first choice for most tourists who are not in a hurry and want to save some food.

Sitting opposite and next to us is a "girl" with a Guangxi accent:

It seems that he is just over 30 years old, maybe not yet.

What impressed me the most is that she is still very naive and is already the mother of three children!

The boss is a girl, sitting next to us, fourteen or fifteen years old, mature beyond her age, and written on the doll's face.

The child has been sitting quietly, and the young mother hardly cares about her. Only occasional conversations make people think they are mother and daughter.

The second child looks four or five years old. She is a naughty little girl. Her mother kept talking to her and even scolded her to keep her quiet. As a result, her mother's "roar" is like "casting pearls before swine" The little doll stood up, sat down, sat down and stood up again. Almost never stopped.

Mother is still holding a baby in her arms, which should be a boy, as can be seen from the brief conversation between mother and eldest daughter (your brother …).

I'm surprised, I can't believe my eyes!

The girl who looks like a student and is in no hurry is actually the mother of three babies.

Besides, how can you take care of yourself when traveling with three underage children? Admire her courage.

I stayed in Guilin for two years and made some local friends, all of whom came from different cities in Guangxi. Through getting along, Guangxi people are subconsciously "indoctrinated" to get married while they are young.

For example, my roommate in 1998, who is 22 years old, talked about an object before, and both families knew each other. My roommate also added the WeChat of the man and mother, and the man and mother often called her to chat.

But my roommate is a more realistic person, because her family also told her to consider reality, such as how long it will take for the man to come back to serve as a soldier, the economic foundation of their future life and so on.

Later, after two years of love, the relationship was divided. When I was at home this year, my family introduced her to an object. The other party has been working several years older than her, and everything is better. I was shocked to hear her say that! ! Isn't this a little hasty?

But then I came back, because this concept has some deep-rooted feelings here, not because of the early marriage of boys and girls, but because of the history, culture and humanity here.

Of course, not all Guangxi people marry early, but it depends on individuals and families.

This is the traveler's residence. Every little thing in life contains great truths. Like to share, waiting for your praise [come to me].

Not only in Guangxi, but also in various places. Many junior high schools don't come to school. They went out to work, talked about a girlfriend and got married. We 15 years old also have children, which is normal.