My mother is full of negative energy, and I'm tired of listening to her. No matter what I do, she says I can't, I will fail, my father is a loser, I am a loser, I am a loser.

It was ruined in her mouth. And from what she said to your friend, I can see that she is very strong and selfish. My mother is the same person. She was kidnapped by the morality of "for your own good" since she was a child. I am married and pregnant now, and she wants to take care of me. This is a good thing, but she doesn't want to intensify contradictions ... She can't change her old habits, likes to belittle and ridicule people, and makes the atmosphere at home very bad and can't get along happily. I often complain that my mother-in-law doesn't pay attention to hygiene, and the house is in a mess, and I have to take care of any details. Mother-in-law and husband are not used to serving bowls. She said they didn't know the rules and couldn't eat out. What should I do if I make soup all over the place ... I'm embarrassed to hear that people's decades-old habits insist on changing according to your lifestyle. The tone is also unacceptable … I often accuse my husband of not making progress in front of my mother-in-law (just because I see playing games at home). In her eyes, it is appropriate to study all day to earn money and say that he is not doing his job properly ... Does no one at home relax? My mother-in-law said very tactfully, "Don't be like a child", and now no one dares to chat with her and get scolded ... It is problematic to exaggerate what others say. My husband and I told her to take her to play and invited her on her day off. She didn't go and said, "You can play if you want. What excuse can I find? " Don't go, don't go. This answer is half cold.

Yes I talked to her many times in private, and I also asked her, "Are you and I so negative about people around us?" She called me baiwenhang and said it was all for my own good. If you want to communicate with her again, she will be unhappy. "I'm not a person, okay?" I'll leave in a hurry, and I won't suffer indignities at your house. No one will suffer indignities for her from beginning to end. I can't communicate at all … maybe she can talk about others, but she can't talk about others. I can't understand that she is a good thing for me … I know it will only be bad without good … I am moderately depressed during pregnancy … It is a lifelong pain to really have such a mother. You have to have a strong heart. However, no matter what kind of mother, she has the kindness to raise her. It's really not easy for us to grow up healthily ... It's really impossible to integrate them and interpret them as "not very nervous". Take good care of it. I suggest you seek your own happiness, find a reliable partner to form a new family, and pay more attention to your children and partners. After all, mom won't stay with us all her life, and her original intention won't harm us. It's just an extreme approach. You can still be happy every day at this age.