I hope a friend from Jiexi, Guangdong Province can tell me about the custom of marrying a wife there. What if the daughter-in-law is not local?

I am a pure Chaoshan Jiexi person. First of all, congratulations on your upcoming wedding. In fact, when we get married here, the man's family has a lot of preparations, and the etiquette and pre-marital preparation on the woman's side are not as complicated and difficult as you think. Before marriage, the focus of the woman's family is dowry, and nothing else. Generally, the woman should prepare the dowry before the day of picking up the bride, and so should the bridesmaid and aunt (one or more sisters or friends of the bride) (she will accompany the bride to the man's house on the day of picking up the bride). Since most other manners and customs are held in the woman's house, it should be decided by the woman's house, and the man's house has no right to interfere too much.

As a Chaoshan bride, the most important and difficult thing is to offer tea to the man's elders. Because if you can't speak Chaozhou-Shantou dialect, the names of many elders will not be well expressed in Mandarin. There are still many rounds of standing-kneeling-standing cycles, and the woman has to bear some grievances. Be sure to communicate with your husband more before you get married.

In addition, the so-called "picking up the bride in the middle of the night 12" and "not wearing a wedding dress when getting married" are not comprehensive. The time to pick up the bride is calculated by the man asking the master, not necessarily in the middle of the night (of course, it is more in the middle of the night), and the woman must abide by this time. You really can't wear a modern white wedding dress when you get married, you can only wear an ancient wedding dress (red dress). In fact, this is a wedding dress, just an ancient wedding dress.

As I'm just a student, I'm not married yet, and there are some subtle differences in these customs in every town there, so what I said is inevitably incomplete, but I still hope to help you!