"If you give your salary to your mother, I will have to reach out to her and ask for money." "My mother will take care of me." What do you think?

Many people think that marriage is the grave, and there must be some truth to this statement. If a woman marries a man who has no sense of responsibility and is weird in other aspects, then the marriage will definitely be a grave. There are so many people in the world, and there are all kinds of strange things. In a normal family, the man is the breadwinner, and the woman also makes money to support the family or stay at home to support her husband and raise children. But sometimes we encounter some abnormal situations. When this happens, the marriage becomes grave.

Recently, a friend told me a story about her own experience with a mama’s boy. She told me angrily that during the blind date, the partner had been acting well, but she discovered many things after they got married. It's not what it seems, my husband is a complete mommy's boy. Regardless of other things, the salary alone was very unbearable for her. She said that her husband did not leave her a penny from his monthly salary.

Everything is handed over to his mother, and her husband will hardly pay for the basic expenses of the family. After all, it was all handed over to her mother. If she wanted him to pay anything, she would have to ask his mother for the money. His mother would also question her very carefully, as if she was afraid that she would take the money and use it elsewhere, so it was basically okay. No more money from her husband. This time I was really angry and questioned her husband. I asked her: "How did you answer?", and her husband said: "My mother is holding me, don't worry."

The friend continued to cry: "This There is really no point in living this life. The key is that we still have children. Otherwise, I will get divorced. I am responsible for the daily living expenses every month. I buy the children’s toys, milk powder, clothes, etc. My husband’s salary was all given to his mother, and he has no money.”

As soon as my friend’s husband said this, it was clear that he didn’t trust my friend. As a husband and wife, we should have the most intimate relationship. We should not be so defensive about each other. It is indeed too much for the husband to directly say that he only pays his mother a salary for peace of mind. Besides, even if he is guarding against my friend, as a husband and a father, he should take the initiative to bear the expenses instead of giving all the money to his mother.

My friend went on to say: "If you want him to pay for family expenses, you have to ask his mother for money. If you go to her mother, her mother will ask a lot of questions and often accuse me. He said that I spent money indiscriminately, so I didn’t want to ask his mother for money. In such a marriage, everything is basically borne by me. , instead of living the happy life I imagined, I worked even harder. "What should I do?" I can't let you get divorced, and you don't have to get divorced. After finishing it, my friend still insisted that I express my own opinion.

I told my friend that you have to tell your man, let him know that it is a man’s obligation to make money to support the family, and do some ideological work for him, because it is very likely that he is not aware of this problem. Give him more examples around you and see which family entrusts money to his mother for safekeeping like his. It is difficult for a couple to make it to the end with distrustful behavior. To take a step back, even if you don't give your wife the salary, you should always take the initiative to bear part of the living expenses every month, instead of having you only ask his mother for money and aggravating the tension between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Emotional message: Sometimes people have to be cruel and brave, and sometimes they have to speak out your demands directly. If you understand everything and tell your demands, the man is still unwilling to hand over the money. For you, a man who is unwilling to take on family responsibilities and is willing to contribute to his family is just a giant baby. You can consider whether you want to continue to be with such a man. Because if you continue, you will not only have to raise your own child, but also your husband, a giant baby, and his mother.