Two hundred points, why do two people who love each other always hurt each other? Why are the most familiar people the most familiar strangers?

① For the course of breaking up; ② For "Can we be friends after breaking up"; ③ end of the affair wants (both parties) to break up happily; ④ About that girl (boy) in so hard to forget

① Make sure whether there is really no hope between you; if you still have hope, you should strive for it; if there is no hope, there is no need to persist; it is better for both parties if you persist. However, this period of just breaking up is really painful, thinking that the other person's mind will sometimes be out of control and want to contact the other person. This time, you must restrain yourself

1 Don't deny yourself

If he or she doesn't love you, in fact, you have nothing to lose. Because what you lose is someone who shouldn't love and doesn't love you, and what the other person loses is someone who loves him or her. He (she) doesn't love you, please don't be sad, not that you are not excellent, but that he (she) doesn't know how to cherish the excellent you. Usually after a period of precipitation, the laceration of the breakup will gradually heal.

once a female student cried that her boyfriend wanted to leave her because she was not beautiful enough. Her friends told her female classmates: In fact, when he was chasing you, you looked like this. You didn't change, but he changed. This is just his excuse, so you don't need to blame yourself. Lesbian learning: then can I save him by being beautiful? A friend said: In fact, the vast majority of people in this world are medium-sized beauties. The most important thing is not the beauty of appearance, but the kindness of heart. Everyone has his own characteristics and does not need to change himself with the eyes of others!

2 Don't slander each other

Whether you are the one who broke up or the one who was broken up, always remember' Don't speak ill of each other'! This is a very important insistence, let alone who owes who emotionally, and speaking ill of each other is the most disqualification. It will make others give you negative comments and make the relationship you once had quite worthless. Think about it. When you criticize your boyfriend (girlfriend) for being selfish, stingy and lazy, others will ask: Then why did you choose him (her) in the first place? Because when you speak ill of each other, you are also corrupting yourself! > > > Betray him if he (she) no longer loves him? (She) You should thank him (her)

because she (he) let you learn how to love in the future, and let you know how to love him (her) when you meet the right person! Let you be like a butterfly emerging from a cocoon, go through mind washing again and again, and finally grow up!

② Yes, if you must be friends, you can do it, but it will make both of you uncomfortable. It's better to get together and leave, and the memories hidden in your heart will be more romantic than the embarrassment every day. . . . . .

One: Never be friends -

When we break up, we can't be friends, but often we are friends, and all of us have illusions about each other. I hope that I can't be a lover and be a friend, and I can accompany him. I hope that one day I will impress each other with my true feelings and then get back together. Even if I get back together, what can I do? Can you guarantee that the same thing won't happen one day? In the meantime, you have to face the person you love and be sweet and loving with others. The suffering is unimaginable. Since we broke up, we should abandon everything freely and move forward smartly. Even if it's a fake friend, why bother? What's the point of such a friend doing it? -

Two: Don't meet -

We broke up, so why meet? Meeting will only hurt each other's hearts, because having loved, hurt, and met will only remind each other of those unhappy, broken up, and there is no benefit in meeting. Friends are not friends, lovers are not lovers. In what capacity can we meet? Nothing but embarrassment. When you break up, leave gracefully. Don't meet under any pretext, because you have to start a new life. -

Three: Don't look for similarities -

Don't look for similarities when you fall in love again, because you always find each other's shadow and think that the other person is your old one, so it's easy to fall into comparison and ask the other person to become the same. This is very bad for your feelings, and often you will indulge in the past. My love life has just been making up for my previous vacancies and my own regrets. -

Love should be affordable. Don't dwell on the past. It's just a past and a memory. Don't do stupid things for the past. It's no big deal to break up. Remember to cherish the present. -

Let it go. Since you have chosen to give up, you must face the future life bravely. Without her, you may not have a goal in life. Therefore, it is the way to break up if you can afford it and let it go.-

③ Sometimes, you think you [should] break up, but this relationship has dragged on for a long time. Why? Because I don't know how to break up; Because I don't want to be a bad person who abandons each other; Because you knew that the other person would commit suicide without you ..................................................................................................................................................................... This means that, in fact, I want to break up, but I don't want to say it, because if I say it, it means that I am the one who changed my mind. If it is me, it means that I am sorry for you, and it is all my fault. Therefore, I don't want to be a bad person, so even if I don't love you, I will never break up on my own initiative. People with this idea are a little selfish. Most of them hope that the decision to [break up] will be spoken by the other party. In this way, their mentality will be easier. They can tell themselves: [Well, now you don't want me, not that I don't want you. I didn't break our promise. You broke it first.

Some people say that [gradually alienating] is the least sad way. The most common way is to increase the distance between time and space when two people make career decisions. For example, if you want to work in a foreign country, I support it with both hands. If you want to study abroad, I'll buy you a plane ticket. If you want to work in the daytime, then I will work in the evening. In this way, the chances of meeting each other are getting less and less, and the intersection in life is getting less and less, and the feeling between the two is getting more and more strange. Then one day, the breakup becomes a fact, and no one feels surprised, so it doesn't hurt.

Some people ask: [If I break up, she will commit suicide. What should I do then? ] This situation is even more troublesome. Maybe it's that men treat women too useless, or maybe it's that women themselves are too fragile. Anyway, once the breakup is a matter of life and death, no one dares to take this responsibility, let alone make social news. Therefore, in this case, the best way is [don't break up]. It doesn't matter whether you love or not, as long as everyone is still alive.

If you don't break up, you won't make the other person sad. Then, is dragging a relationship that you don't even think highly of yourself another way to hurt the other person? If alienation is a way to break up without sadness, how can you tell the other party that your future with him is actually facing the opposite direction when one party is waiting hard and still firmly believes that love will not be blocked by time and space? Just because you are afraid that she can't get out of the pain of breaking up, just because you are worried that she will lose the courage to live because of losing love, for these reasons, you decide not to say goodbye for the rest of your life, but you can't help but regret in your heart and betray in your body. Everything is a breakup except what you say. What is this?

Is there a painless way to break up? To tell the truth, there is no (unless you don't really love each other). Maybe the degree of pain can be graded, and maybe the wound can be controlled by the skill of breaking up. However, breaking up is breaking up, and breaking up is pain. Some people suffer for several days, some people for several years, and some people will never forget it ... So what? Instead of dragging on an undead relationship, it is better to learn to let go as soon as possible, no matter how painful it is, it will always pass, and life will still pass. After all, without this one, there will be another one.

Maybe you really don't want to hurt each other because of breaking up, but you have to know that feelings are two people's business, and breaking up is also two people's business, but only you know the feelings of breaking up, and no one can help you except yourself

What you can do is silently bless each other

④

It is the existence and profundity of your love that you can't forget,

Don't forget it deliberately. There will be all kinds of passers-by in the journey. Everyone in every relationship and experience is the mark left by life. No matter whether the memories are beautiful or painful, they have already happened. Learn to thank everyone who has met or left in life.

Time is the best medicine. As time goes by, everything is no longer as unforgettable as it was at first. Adjust your mind. Life is short and youth is limited. You won't have much time to wait and remember the pain. Face everything with a normal heart, and you will have more energy to face the future ~

Don't say that you are happy if you are happy ... Happiness is your own .. It is true if you are happy ... It's just that with the passage of time, his memory is buried in the depths of my heart like tea leaves. There is no feeling of love or pain at the beginning, but only the experience of regret or enlightenment! Everyone will experience this kind of pain more or less, just to let us learn how to love and let us know how to love the right person when we meet him! Let's be like a butterfly emerging from a cocoon, go through mind washing again and again, and finally grow up!

... cherish the present and live today!

Do something you like, try not to think about it,

Or remember it completely,

Face it bravely, really solve it,

One is to escape, the other is to face it, which is feasible?

△ People say that a man (woman) will meet a woman (man) who can change himself one day in his life, but you just haven't met him. Don't worry.

After meeting that girl (boy), you will involuntarily treat this girl (boy) you are talking about as a stranger

Come on, be happy, tomorrow will be better ...