Has anyone ever had the experience of confinement at home after giving birth? How do you feel?

Personally, I think confinement is the best time to reflect people's hearts. I am confined to my husband's family.

Three months pregnant, her husband goes to work, and her mother-in-law cooks noodles with sliced meat to improve her life. I got married far away. When my husband saw that I was wronged at home, he called my mother's house. My mother immediately returned it to her family, and her husband didn't spend 3000 yuan a month on living expenses. My father said to save it for having a baby. They have money and cook in another way every day.

I made an appointment for four-dimensional color Doppler ultrasound ten days in advance. My elder sister's house is in the city, so I stayed in her house for ten days. My brother-in-law gave my sister 1000 yuan to improve my food. My sister cooks sparerib soup, fish soup and chicken soup every day, and takes me shopping when she gives birth. It's really warm to have a sister.

When she was eight months pregnant, her sister-in-law began to feel anxious. She always asks me when I will go back to my husband's house and where I will have my confinement. I told her to go back to her husband's house for confinement, but she still didn't feel at ease. Later, she directly said that it was not good for her family to have a confinement at home. My father and my sister were very angry when I learned about it. My sister and brother-in-law want to take me to her house. Later, I was afraid that my parents and sister-in-law would have conflicts, so my husband took me back to my husband's house.

On the due date, my mother-in-law went to work and my father-in-law couldn't see anyone. Husband and sister-in-law called her to say that she was going to give birth soon and asked her to come back next month to wait on her. In a word, the factory refused to ask for leave until the baby was more than four months old. Sister-in-law is nice, and she won't let my mother's family wait on her, for fear that my mother's family will be angry. Wait on her for the next month, cook four or five meals a day and take care of the children. My husband asked for leave to take care of me and the baby at home. My sister-in-law was very warm this month. When she left, she asked her husband to buy her something and gave her two thousand red envelopes. (Sister-in-law came back from an old couple to wait on her.) She will have it next month.

I was confined to my mother's house. Because my husband is studying abroad. Because her home is in a big city, the medical conditions are good. If you have a baby, you must have it in a good hospital. Mother's family, parents retired. Confinement means someone can cook for me. Now that we have diapers, we don't even need to wash them!

After giving birth, leave the hospital within 32 hours. Within 24 hours of returning home, I was really tired and sleepy, and I insisted on feeding my child once. After sleeping for three hours, I synchronized with my children. Every 3-4 hours, the child naturally wakes up, changes diapers, feeds, burps and puts it down. I sleep while he sleeps. Parents cook and eat during the day. Every day, the mother helps to bathe the child. Mother gives a hand and holds the baby. I bathe the baby, powder, drink milk, burp and sleep. This month has passed quickly. The child has gained three Jin. Six catties became nine catties!

Some people say the child belongs to the husband's family. I don't think so. I just think the baby is mine. I belong to my parents. When my parents need me, I will try to go back to them. My children will try to take care of me when I need it.

Now that I am retired, I feel that the society is developing too fast and I often need the help of my children. It's good to have a child.

I've also seen women who don't take good care of their children. Their husbands are divorced and their children are incompetent. After retirement, they are very pitiful.

Hello, I'm Jenny. I'm glad to answer your question.

When I gave birth, I was kept in my mother's house. Because my husband's house is 108,000 miles away from where we work and my mother's house is nearby, I went back to my mother's house nearby.

Relatively speaking, confinement at home is certainly more comfortable. My mother also tries her best to take care of me and help me with my children.

But I don't think you need to say it's over when you're locked up at your mother's house. Because two generations are confined to the moon scientifically, there will definitely be contradictions in raising the baby.

For example, on the second day of the first month, it is popular in China to stew various soups with rice wine, which is said to be good for lying-in women and easy to produce milk. My mother desperately buys old hens, pig's trotters and the like to stew rice wine for me. But I was constipated when I drank it, which was very serious, so I stopped for two days, and my mother was still angry with me for this life.

The same is true for children. I don't have enough breast milk. Once after drinking milk for half an hour, the baby became hungry and kept crying loudly. I said I made milk powder for my child, and he was hungry again. But my mother insisted that firecrackers were set off outside that day, so she brought him a silver bracelet and wrapped him a red quilt.

The more the baby cries, the worse I speak. My mother just won't listen to me. Finally, I got angry, grabbed the baby from her hand and stuffed the bottle into her mouth. The baby stopped crying in an instant and went to bed drinking milk.

My mother was speechless after reading it.

In a word, I think, relatively speaking, we can do whatever we want at home. After all, we are our own mothers and have everything to say.

However, whether you are confinement in your mother-in-law's house or confinement in your mother-in-law's house, you may encounter various problems. The most important thing is that we should make more preparations in advance. It is also necessary to communicate with the elderly, cooperate with each other and have a good rest, so that the baby can grow up well.

There is a custom in many places, that is, married daughters can't stay at home for confinement.

The most common saying is that confinement in one's mother's family will bring bad luck to her family, especially to the men in her family, such as father and brother, because giving birth to a child is like experiencing a bloody disaster. In fact, this is the result of son preference, mainly because I don't want my married daughter to go back to her family to make trouble.

My classmate Xiao Jing, who has a younger brother at home, has an average marriage condition. She was very worried before giving birth. Her mother-in-law helped to look after her brother-in-law's children in her hometown, saying that she could not take care of her confinement. Xiaojing wants to go back to her mother's house for confinement. At least her mother can take care of herself. Xiao Jing's parents also understand her daughter's difficulties and let Xiao Jing sit in her mother's house.

Xiaojing lived in her house for three months, but Xiaojing couldn't stay any longer. Because Xiao Jing's brother-in-law is particularly angry, he often says some malicious words: accusing Xiao Jing's mother of taking care of her daughter and not knowing how to take care of her children. My daughter obviously has a home, but she still insists on living in her mother's house and even quarrels with her brother. In a word, she can't stand quiet.

For the sake of family harmony, Xiao Jing's parents also advised Xiao Jing to go back to her husband's house. Xiao Jing said that at that moment, it really felt like water spilled by a married daughter. If she wants to live in her parents' house, she has to look at people's faces and feel particularly uncomfortable. Therefore, Xiao Jing said that she didn't want a second child. In the future, her home will always be her daughter's home.

Although it is not allowed to go back to her mother's house to have a confinement, there are different opinions, but it is not all superstition, and there is a certain scientific basis!

1. It is easy to cause discord between husband and wife.

If the new mother is at home, it will be inconvenient for the couple to meet. Even if the husband stays at home, he will feel more restrained and even bound. Coupled with everything done properly at home, it is easy for her husband to have no sense of existence to take care of his wife and children. Although the new mother after childbirth can't take care of her husband, she can prevent the new mother from suffering from postpartum depression through her husband's care for herself and her children.

If the husband does not behave well at home, it will inevitably make the family complain and make the new mother feel anxious, thus affecting the relationship between husband and wife.

2. Initiate family conflicts

If there are brothers and sisters at home, it is also easy to have conflicts. Every mother loves her daughter dearly, especially the daughter who gave birth to a child. Mother will naturally take care of her daughter in the best way. It might be better if it's a girl. If you are a young aunt, when you see your mother-in-law taking care of her daughter, you will feel jealous and even complain, which will easily lead to family conflicts, just like my classmate Xiao Jing is at her mother's house for a month.

3. If the distance between parents is far away, it is not conducive to physical recovery.

Postpartum women need rest. Just after giving birth, if you are far away from your parents' home, you will get tired easily. Moreover, after the child is born, there are many things needed, and it is not convenient to take things back and forth.

In fact, there are many only children now. As a woman, even if she has a good relationship with her mother-in-law, she can't take care of herself as well as her mother. The new era also has new concepts. It's best to take a comfortable way for yourself and your family when you are confined, and there is no need to entangle your family or your husband's family.

I spent a month in my mother's house. It happened to be the Spring Festival at that time, and in winter, the coordinates were in northern Henan, and there was no heating at home. My husband is more comfortable than me. At five o'clock, my father cooked my first meal. After seven o'clock, my mother got up and took away the changed diapers for washing. At nine o'clock, I followed her for breakfast and took the children to my mother's house. Her room is equipped with a radiator, and she stays there all day. However, my milk is not good, and I eat everything while watching TV. When I first left the hospital, I ate eight meals a day, and I ate normally for four or five days. There is nothing wrong with the child in the confinement except crying, sleeping and urinating. I'm bored and want to watch TV, but I'm not allowed to listen or watch my mobile phone. It happened that the milk was not good, and the child could not suck it out. At night, she began to make noise. My incision didn't grow well. It liquefied and hurt. It hurts when I get up. My husband fell asleep and couldn't wake up. We were not in the same bed, beside me, kicking around without waking up. I was hungry in the middle of the night, so I asked him to help me cook, and he also gave me the appointed time. He did it before 10: 00, and then he left it alone! I am so angry. I said if I'm not hungry before ten, I have to eat. Anyway, my mother nagged me that my breast milk was not good, but the reality was that it was my own mother. She nagged me and I put up with it. She made me cry several times and my husband didn't understand me. I was almost depressed and cried in the toilet several times. In other words, if my mother-in-law said that about me, I would have passed, but if I were my mother-in-law, she would also help me cook. But my mother-in-law won't nag me. From marriage to having children, we seldom meet each other, which is very contradictory. Every time I go back, I cook by myself (because I think my mother-in-law's cooking is not delicious, so I cook by myself). Anyway, my mother's home is at home, as long as her mother is not a menopausal woman, it's fine. As long as the environment is familiar.

Hello, it's my pleasure to answer your question.

About having a baby at home or in-laws' home? How do you feel? This question depends on all aspects. First of all, let me talk about my experience!

I have two children. I was close to my parents' home when I gave birth to my eldest daughter, but my father-in-law was a very old-school teacher. He only said at that time: "I gave birth at my parents' house. Do we need elders to go to your parents' house to look after the children?" Then my husband asked me to have a baby at my in-laws' house. Not a week after leaving the hospital, my husband sent me back to my mother's house. Euphemistically called: mother-in-law is not as good as her mother to wait for the next month! When I gave birth to my youngest son, I was confined to my husband's family (because I am a son, my husband's family is a bit patriarchal). But my mother came to my house for a month, and my mother-in-law basically appeared two or three times.

Step 1: Look at the geographical location. Are you near your mother's house or your husband's house? Or to put it another way, should I let my mother take it or my mother-in-law take it? If your home is near and your mother is idle, it is better for your mother to take care of it! If mom really can't leave, then come. (PS: Don't worry about the old people's ideas. The body is your own, and no one can really feel the same. It's not good for your health to have a confinement like me and change places. )

Step 2: See if you have a good relationship with your mother-in-law. If your mother-in-law and you are as close as mother and daughter, then her mother-in-law's care is perfect. But if there is a contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you'd better ask your mother! After all, the mother-in-law is really not a real mother. My mother can say anything, even if she has a little temper, her mother doesn't mind, and her mother-in-law will show her face. How to do it? My mother will start from the perspective of being good to you, and my mother-in-law will start from the perspective of children. What is good for children, how to come, will not come for your health or your preferences at all.

My feeling is that only a mother is good in the world, and no matter how good her mother-in-law is, she doesn't come out of her stomach. She is not as important as a child. Let me talk about my business. After my youngest son was born, my mother took it with her at first. 10 days or so, my mother will go home for 2 days or so, and my mother-in-law will take care of her. At that time, my mother-in-law brought an old hen from the countryside, and then I ate it for two whole days. In the morning, chicken soup and rice. At noon, boiled chicken and a pile of vegetables. In the evening, roast chicken and a bowl of chicken soup. I really want to throw up, it's too greasy, but I can't do it without eating. My mother-in-law euphemistically called it: when you give milk, you can get enough milk. You have no reason to refute.

Finally, no matter where you are locked up. Everyone should put himself first and pay attention to various precautions, otherwise you will leave the root of the disease and suffer from it. I'm just sick now and can't blow-dry my hair. I get a headache when I blow-dry my hair. Holding the child in the month, taking care of the child, and now it's cold and backache. And the mood must be happy. You can't sulk because of trifles, which is bad for your health and easy to be depressed. Have a nice month.

The above is just my personal opinion, I hope I can help you, thank you!

I gave birth to two babies at my mother's house, which is still far away, about 1200 km. It takes 12 hours to go back once. There is only a direct sleeper, and now everyone is afraid to take a sleeper; It will take several times to get well by train or plane. In short, it is inconvenient to go back to my parents' home, and the travel expenses are also very expensive. A person's round trip is about 1000.

The reason why I went back to my parents' home to have a baby and have a confinement is mainly because my husband is busy at work and has less time at home. Then my mother-in-law is the kind of person who can't leave the house. She doesn't understand many things. The most important thing is that my in-laws' diet and mine are two extremes. My in-laws eat sparingly and have a light taste. Instead of fish and shrimp, they eat chicken and vegetables.

When I was just pregnant, I had a good appetite, but I was very tired. My mother-in-law cooks vegetables and chicken feet in water every day. Originally, I wanted to go out and buy some delicious fish and shrimp to eat, but I felt particularly tired every time I climbed up and down the sixth floor. Occasionally, buy buy is good, so there is no reason to be like this throughout pregnancy. So I thought about it and decided to go back to my mother's house to have a baby so as not to affect my mood.

I think it's really too happy to go back to my mother's house for confinement. My mother basically makes the children cry in the second month, and five meals a day are arranged properly. For those who don't know about breastfeeding, you can open your heart with your mother. There is no need to worry about privacy or affect family harmony.

A while ago, my sister-in-law went back to her mother's house to have a confinement and watched her mother-in-law help her to have a confinement. I'm really glad I didn't ask her for help. She even takes care of her daughter's confinement so badly, let alone my daughter-in-law. The next month, she said that the baby was too tender, and she didn't hold it once and didn't bathe it. My sister-in-law and I take turns washing the baby, and the food is even worse. Three meals a day, one meal, and a few more meals for my sister-in-law when you are free.

Actually, it's not that my mother-in-law is not sensible. She never sat in confinement when she was young, so she thought we didn't need confinement. She knows nothing, doesn't understand and doesn't ask, just an indifferent attitude.

Seriously, I'm afraid to go back to my mother's house for confinement. There are too many reasons. First, sister-in-law's face, even if sister-in-law doesn't live with my parents, she will have a comparison: what I did when I was confined, and what I have done now.

Second, it is said that the married daughter poured water. Anyway, grandchildren and grandchildren can't be compared. At least my old man does.

Third, it is inconvenient. Few sons-in-law are comfortable in front of their mother-in-law, so fathers are still uncomfortable when they want to see their children.

A daughter married to us can't go back to her mother's house for confinement.

I have a little aunt who got married in Hubei. She gave birth to a child and went back to her parents' home without anyone to take care of her, but we don't give her confinement here. Later, she rented a house in our town for confinement, and then her mother was responsible for confinement and returned to her parents' home after the full moon.

Grandma said that a married daughter can't go back to her mother's house for confinement, because a woman who gives birth to blood will bring bad luck to her mother's house and affect her fortune. Once, in a village, she was asked to wash the house after returning to her mother's house for confinement. Although these are superstitious statements, the customs in many places cannot be changed.

If there are brothers in the bride's family, it is easy to cause family conflicts, especially brothers and daughters-in-law. If you can't talk well, mother will be caught in the middle. One is her daughter and the other is her daughter-in-law, which easily leads to conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

It is best to sit in your own house or your husband's house, or you don't want to go back to your husband's house to rent a house. Renting a house can invite her family to have a confinement, which is better than going back to her family to have a confinement. My mother will take care of it more carefully in the next month, all for her.

My daughter-in-law is pregnant and I just retired. I quickly enrolled in the monthly class, gave her money to increase nutrition, found a crib, made cotton pads and disinfected the room. In short, everything for confinement is ready. Please get a gold medal early. When she was about to have a baby, she decided to have a confinement at her mother's house. I still paid the delivery fee for Yueyue and gave another 20 thousand yuan, but I was still not happy and grateful.