I can't afford to hide. Tell me about it.

As the saying goes: you can't afford to be provoked, but you can afford to hide. Although many times "hiding" is just a helpless result, it is often the best way.

Hiding is a kind of wisdom, and hiding is not necessarily a bad thing. Not everything is worth fighting for, and you won't regret it. If it will be better for us to appear as a weak person, why should we become that unnecessary strong person? Nonsense, divorced from reality

In China's motto, "Take a step back and broaden the horizon" is probably the most used. There is no denying that this is a manifestation of wisdom. Take a step back and leave room for yourself and others. It is not only the way to be a man, but also the wisdom to be a man.

Unfortunately, in reality, we often say that we won't do it. We always haggle over many trifles and be aggressive. No compromise, no humility, no tolerance. It's easy to get nervous and punch each other, which leads to the extreme development of things.

Life needs continuous improvement. Especially when we encounter rough setbacks, we need to face difficulties and climb hard.

However, in some cases, do we also need to take a step back? When we are young, we tend to set our goals too high. After experiencing failures and blows, we will find that the gap between ideal and reality is too big, and there are some objective obstacles that we can't overcome at all, let alone surpass. At this time, should we take a step back, sum up, and then try our best to overcome and fight? What we really can't do, as long as we do it well, we have a clear conscience.

In the journey of life, it is inevitable to make a wrong decision on impulse. This requires us to think twice before making concessions. On some issues that have nothing to do with the overall situation, if you choose to be patient, calm and calm, many things will become simple. Tolerance at this time is by no means a sign of weakness and retreat. This just embodies the virtue of taking the overall situation into account and being humble and courteous. Take a step back, broaden your horizons, and you will naturally feel comfortable.

According to legend, there was a story during the Kangxi period of the Qing Dynasty: there were two neighbors, Zhang Heye, in Tongcheng County, Anhui Province, who had a dispute over building a house. There are some people in the Zhang family, and the Ye family is a local. The two families are intransigent. The Zhang family wrote to the capital to suppress the people by force. Therefore, Zhang, the minister of rites, wrote back a letter to his family: "A letter of a thousand miles is only separated by a wall. Why not let it be three feet?" After reading Zhang Jia, he felt ashamed, so he was punished by three feet. Ye Jia was deeply moved when he saw it, and also made the Zhang family three feet, leaving a six-foot lane between the two houses. Since then, the feud between the two families has been wiped out. It can be seen that if everything is open and clear, there will be no knot in the world that cannot be untied.

Patience may be painful, but its fruit is sweet. But few people will understand the meaning. Many misunderstandings and quarrels in reality are often caused by a very small thing. As long as we communicate sincerely, the problem may be solved.

Of course, we should also look at the problem of "taking a step back" from two aspects. Many things have two sides. Sometimes, it won't take a step back, so that three points can't be calm.

If a person's life is originally 65,438+00 points, when life subtracts 65,438+0 points from you, it naturally equals 9 points, without thinking about how to get that point back. There seem to be many such examples in life.

I bought a fake and didn't bother to theorize. Anyway, I have already bought it, and it didn't cost me much. I was angry and didn't say it. It's no use. Everyone thinks so, especially so. And manufacturers also think so and do so. So all kinds of inferior and counterfeit products are flooding every corner of the market. At this time, we don't need a "wise man" who admits that he is unlucky. We need a "fool" who is serious about everything and loves to get into a dead end.

Treat the work seriously, do your duty silently, and hold a detached attitude of not competing with the world. It seems that honor and reward have nothing to do with you, but when you pay a lot for it, but you can't get fair treatment, there will be a gap in your heart and you will feel unbalanced. If you are so reluctant and patient, how can you improve your enthusiasm for work? In dealing with interpersonal relationships, people are always kind to others, without intrigue, flattery and grandstanding. As the saying goes, people are kind to others, but when you push yourself and others for others and tolerate others, you condone others' bullying and insults. When your personality is desecrated, how can you bear the humiliation, submit to humiliation and compromise?

As the saying goes, "endure a moment's anger and have no troubles for life." In fact, a wise person can treat things and disputes in life calmly. When there is a conflict, if the other party doesn't know the truth, time can prove everything. If the other party is a malicious insult, it should be treated calmly, so as not to lose principle and intensify contradictions. Only in this way can people become wise in life and succeed in the ever-changing society. Take a step back and broaden your horizons, not to lose your dignity, but because you have plenty of time, so be calm, rational and open-minded, so why fight for a moment?

If we compare life to a climb, then we give in a step from time to time in order to "stand" firmly and conquer one peak after another in a better state.

Lincoln, the most famous president in American history, always liked to criticize others when he was young. He even wrote letters and poems to satirize others. When he was practicing law in Springfield, Illinois. Even throwing books at the newspaper and openly attacking opponents. One autumn, Lincoln made fun of an Irishman named james hill, who was conceited and aggressive. He published an unsigned letter in Springfield Times, mocking James, and everyone in the town laughed. James is a sensitive and proud man. He flew into a rage after reading the letter.

He found that the person who wrote this letter was Lincoln, so he went to fight with Lincoln. Lincoln didn't want to fight him in his heart, but he still wanted to fight in face.

On the day of the duel, he and James met on the beach of the Mississippi River, and both of them were ready to fight to the death. At this critical moment. Lincoln's assistants arrived and stopped the duel in time.

This is the scariest personal event in Lincoln's life. That is, this incident helped Lincoln a lot and made him understand that there are still many things to learn in the art of being a man. Since then, he has never written an insulting letter or made fun of anyone. President Roosevelt, another American president, once said that when he encountered a thorny problem, he often looked up at the huge portrait of Lincoln hanging on the wall of his White House office and asked himself, "What would Lincoln do if he were in my position?" How will he solve this problem? "

Mark Twain, a famous American writer, often loses his temper. His literary talent is shown in his letters, which also expresses his inner anger.

Once, he decided to write a letter to his attacker, which read as follows:

"Give you something should be a death burial permit. As long as you ask, I will definitely help you get this permission. "

On another occasion, he wrote to an editor about a proofreader who tried to "improve my spelling and punctuation". He wrote in an imperative tone: "From now on, this situation must be done according to my manuscript, and the proofreader should be taught to leave his suggestions in his decadent mind."

Seeing these masterpieces, Mark Twain will certainly feel very happy, but it will bring unbearable pain to those who see them. Strangely, his letter did not cause any adverse reaction. Why is this? It turned out that his wife had quietly taken these letters back from the mailbox without paying. These letters are still at Mark Twain's home. It is precisely because of his wife's "concession" that Mr. Twain saved countless troubles.

Some things in the world will really make you feel extremely unhappy and let you see the ugly side of life. But as long as you look at all this lightly and see everything clearly and beautifully, it is a good thing.

We should always think that people will treat you the way you treat others. Therefore, enemies are easy to solve problems. Mind should be as open as the ocean, mind should be like a pool of clear water. Try to treat people with bad feelings and grievances calmly, be considerate and understand the difficulties of others, and you will feel endless benefits if you do this often.