Parents prefer boys to girls. Let's talk about phrases.

When I was still at school, I was often asked: How many points did you get in the exam? How many students are there in the class? At this time, I always feel heavy at once. I thought I could escape when I grew up, but I didn't expect it to be even harder when I grew up. The hard part is how much money you earn every month!

Parents always think that they should make a lot of money after sending their children to school, otherwise they don't work hard. This misunderstanding of parents makes many children feel very tired.

Especially when there are boys and girls at home, and then parents still prefer boys to girls, the daughter has been suffering from "humbleness". Why can't parents who prefer boys to girls understand their daughters? Why are there fewer and fewer smiling faces in children's lives? Parents really need to understand.

The Present Situation of Contemporary College Students and Youth

1, fierce competition in the workplace

Some people will say that they are good at finding a job, but they are not so friendly to college graduates. Most of them are junior college students, and these people may not even get many interview opportunities because of their academic qualifications.

Now many enterprises are constantly improving their recruitment requirements, and even the undergraduate courses in ordinary colleges and universities will be brushed down, so they can only choose to make concessions on wages! And these are things that many parents cannot understand.

2. High cost

People's living standards have improved, but prices and house prices have also increased. These two basic living costs are increasing, which is undoubtedly not proportional to the increase in wages.

Many young people can only solve their own food and clothing problems when they first enter the society. After calculating the rent and living expenses, there is not much left, not to mention sometimes going out to play or having dinner with friends, at least a few hundred yuan. What can we talk about by sending money to their family to save money?

There are many people, but the feelings are gone.

Of course, in addition to the above pressure, it is also psychologically devastating. Although there are more and more people in the city and they are dealing with others every day, there are very few people who can maintain enthusiasm, enthusiasm and kindness outside.

Everyone hangs high on his career, just do his job well, but the pure friendship between people is getting less and less, so there are so many people around him who feel lonely. This is the mental stress of young people, and it is also a major reason for the decrease of happiness.

4. Mental work is more tiring than manual work.

In the past, parents always felt that they were tired only if they worked hard. Nowadays, how can young people get tired when they sit on the office sofa and play computer every day? In fact, this invisible mental activity can really make people very tired.

It's also a tiring day. A good sleep after work can restore most of it, but if you have a heavy mental load for one day, you may not be able to recover for two days. This mental fatigue is more difficult to recover, and it is easier to dampen people's enthusiasm. This is where it is difficult for parents and children to communicate.

I have seen many incidents, such as children leaving home because they can't stand the pressure of study, college students jumping off buildings because of pressure, and graduates committing suicide because they can't find jobs. These extreme behaviors are on the rise. Near a bridge, a student committed suicide in the sea because he couldn't find a job and had no money. Fortunately, it was discovered by passers-by and saved a life in time.

Why can't parents feel the fatigue of young people now?

Mostly because parents say they know the above points, but they don't feel the same way. And when they were young, the social environment was very different from now. They changed from the goal of food and clothing to the goal of high-quality life. The difference between them is not enough to talk about their efforts. At that time, as long as there was food and clothing, there was not much mental pressure. However, today's children have to face the pressure of car loan, mortgage, marriage promotion and salary, and the life happiness index really can't be compared with before.

Parents who prefer sons to daughters even make their daughters collapse.

Some people will say, is there still a preference for boys? It should be gone soon. To put it bluntly, now that I have a daughter, getting married can improve the situation at home. However, it is difficult to change the potential patriarchal thinking now.

It is an obvious phenomenon that daughters have to pay all the money before they get married. Some parents still don't like their daughters earning less. Many girls can earn money outside after graduation, thinking that they can save money to live a good life, but because there is still a younger brother or brother at home who needs to get married, parents will ask their daughters to hand over all the money and leave it to their sons.

This situation is acceptable to some extent, and many daughters are willing to subsidize their families to improve their parents' lives.

However, it is unfair to be excessively squeezed and directly give the money earned by the daughter to the son. It happened before: my daughter's money earned outside every month was taken away by her parents, and even threatened to ask her for money. She even went to the local area to ask for it. The reason is that the money earned by the daughter is used to support the elderly. Two unfilial parents took the daughter's money and squandered it themselves, and they didn't want to save it for their daughter. Finally, my daughter collapsed in the media. What sad parents, what sad girls.

There are many potential patriarchal behaviors in life, such as giving my son anything good first, and my son is always tolerant when he makes mistakes, while my daughter is beaten and scolded once she makes mistakes. Obviously the same salary, the boy can forgive her, but the daughter was rejected, spent so much money and finally earned so little money. These injustices are a spiritual blow to my daughter.

Therefore, this kind of patriarchal parents can easily make their daughters go to the point of no return, unable to bear the pressure of running away from home, and can only accept this punishment. This is why a parent was punished: his son needed a new house to get married, but despite his daughter's opposition, the parents sold the house to his son as a down payment and gave him the bride price money for his daughter's marriage. Finally, the son divorced, sold his new house and went out with the money, leaving homeless parents to start thinking about finding their daughter. How could her daughter want to? And there are people who have daughters and mothers-in-law, and finally they can only eat the consequences themselves.

Understanding each other, parents also need to be considerate of their children.

Nowadays, children are under such great pressure, and if they still need to face their parents' incomprehension, it will really make them collapse. Parents should be considerate of their children, be more exposed to their lifestyles, and try their children's life processes and pressures if possible. Presumably, there will be many topics between them and they will be considerate.

As a young man, you can't give up on yourself because of too much pressure. Now is the age of struggle. Parents once had their own hardships and had the helplessness of life. Parents have tasted it, so don't completely think that parents don't understand the pressure now. They may be under less pressure than they are now. Mutual understanding is the root of solving problems.

Finally, I want to say: Although life is stressful, there are also many opportunities. As long as you are prepared, there will always be many ways out for you. What I am afraid of is that I don't work hard, pretend to work hard, and still complain about the bitterness of life. This will really get closer and closer to the abyss and I will never recover.