What does the rural proverb "Men are afraid to shake their heads three times, while women are afraid to stride" mean?

First of all, it should be explained that the "three" mentioned by the ancients does not mean three times now, but "many times". Actually, this is about the family status between husband and wife. Let's start with "Men are afraid to shake their heads three times". In a general family, men are the pillars, so we should be prepared to be the head of the family, be able to shoulder the heavy responsibility of supporting the family, have the decision-making power and keen judgment on the size of the family. Otherwise, we cannot make up our minds. In Nuo Nuo, passive men dare not make decisions and listen to women. Such a man is unreliable, incompetent and too timid.

"Three shakes of the head" is related to the above. I may have an idea in my heart and let others make decisions for me to cover up my lack of opinion. Such a man looks honest and obedient, but it is difficult for him to make great achievements in his career. And "Women Dare not Cross" is about the rural areas in the past, which demanded too much and bound women, from observing "three obedience and four virtues" to being human. If a woman's personality is biased towards men, then her walking habit is striding forward, which does not meet the requirements of traditional habits for women, and such behavior will also be laughed at by outsiders.

Here, "striding" and "disobeying women's morality" are equated in a sense. Men are not allowed to marry such a woman, because she won't listen to men after entering the door. If she can't control her wife, it is very shameful to spread it. Now, equality between men and women has been deeply rooted in people's hearts, and women no longer depend on men. In addition, they have their own careers and even become strong women. Some women have surpassed men in some respects. For example, the days when they stayed at home and were housewives are gone forever.

Judging from the current thinking, this rural proverb is no longer in line with the current social reality, but it is unique in some aspects, such as the improvement of personal cultivation.