A man wants to marry a beautiful wife.

0 1 Thrift is a virtue that can make people rich.

After reading Franklin's biography these days, I suddenly understood why Franklin was so successful. In fact, this is inseparable from his wife. It can be said that without his wife, he won't get wealth and freedom at the age of 42 and then start doing what he wants.

Of course, Franklin also spoke highly of his wife. He described her like this: "I am so lucky to find a hardworking and thrifty lady as my partner."

When Franklin entered his old age, he praised his wife (Deborah) in his letter: "Thrift is a virtue that can make people rich, and it is also what I lack. But I was lucky to find this in my wife. " Deborah helped him manage the shop, bind books and buy rags for paper making. At least in the first few years, they didn't hire a servant. Franklin drank porridge made of bread and milk in a 2 pence bowl for breakfast every day.

Just because he has such a capable wife who can work and save money, can his printing business not make money?

02 "polish your eyes before marriage"

Franklin was a clever man. He didn't find a capable wife by accident. He is very practical. He has been emphasizing "keep your eyes open before marriage" to find a wife, especially someone who can manage the family diligently.

So he chose Deborah, a capable woman!

In fact, I will tell you another story in the book, and I will know that Franklin's expectation for women is not only beauty, but also thrift!

At that time, Franklin wrote a letter to Jane after hearing the news of his sister's short marriage, telling her that a good wife must learn to be frugal.

Franklin said that he wanted to give Jane a dining table, but he didn't do it for more practical reasons.

"I think being a good wife is much more important than just being a beautiful lady, so I decided to give you a spinning wheel."

As poor Richard pointed out in his first almanac: "If you enjoy too much, you won't be diligent. When women have time to drink tea, they have no time to spin and weave. "

Thrift is also one of the favorite themes in young Franklin's articles. He published an article before, describing how a wife spends money: first, she bought a good silver mirror, so she needs to buy a good table to put it on. With a table, she needs a good tea set and a clock. Faced with a mountain of debts, her husband decided to sell everything while his wife was visiting relatives and put on a spinning wheel and some knitting needles!

So men want to find a woman who can live!

Stop "buy buy Buy"

Let's talk about a friend of mine. She always complains that she has no money. I went to her house the other day and suddenly realized!

Her 80-square-meter house is full of exquisite ceramics, several chopping boards for cooking, dozens of pairs of various shoes, not to mention piles of clothes. She doesn't earn much money, but she just can't stop buying, especially when she sees discounted goods. It takes a long time to pack things every day, which is naturally very distressing.

Besides her consumption concept, she bought a cup of milk tea for 25 yuan and served crayfish plate by plate. In fact, these fast foods are not good for health at all.

How to save money by living like this?

On the contrary, I feel sorry for her husband. I try to make money every day, but I can't save any money. Why did Franklin say that "frugality is a virtue that can make people rich"? That's true. If you want to have money, you can only really "open source and reduce expenditure". If you can't start the source and save money, how can you get wealth?

That will only be down and out for life!

Minimalism is the way out.

I saw a film called minimalism recently, and I was deeply touched. The film "Minimalism" made me start to reflect on how the consumerist lifestyle deprived us of our souls and our need for deeper connections between people, so that things replaced human feelings. The current lifestyle makes us people who use others to gain material benefits, rather than people who benefit from the material resources we have.

I feel it myself. I often saw discounts before, so I couldn't help but want to buy them, which led to the accumulation of many items at home. I spend a lot of time taking care of the house every week, and I find that the more I learn the storage skills, the more things I have. It will take you one night to clean up a cupboard, which will be particularly annoying at this time. Because I manage things and have no time to read books, I will be very worried and have no time to accompany my children. Children will complain that no one is with her. I feel very lost when I have no time to exercise; I will also be angry because my husband didn't help clean the room …

It takes me a lot of time to clean the room, so I feel very tired.

So I began to ask myself: "If I don't need to spend time taking care of the house and managing all kinds of things at home, how will I use the extra time?"

Actually, the answer is simple. I can spend more time on people and less time on managing things. I can study with peace of mind and accompany my children and family.

Now I suddenly understand why Jobs strongly recommended minimalism. There is only one cushion in his room. Sitting in a room with only one cushion will broaden your mind. There are several identical T-shirts in Facebook Zuckerberg's closet, which will definitely reduce anxiety about what to wear.

Life really needs parting. Similarly, life also needs parting to reduce anxiety and get happiness.