"I only give 700 yuan a week, I don't care about my grandson, and my irresponsible mother-in-law is really speechless." Do you agree?

Everyone says it's hard to be a daughter-in-law, but I really think it's harder for my mother-in-law now. Although I often write about the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, I will also write about the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but to be honest, there are indeed many problems in writing about the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

So someone said, why do you always write about your mother-in-law on the Internet and why do you always fart? Is it interesting? Where are so many strange-looking mothers-in-law? I'm telling you, there are, but are there many? I didn't think so much.

However, as someone explained to me, most of those mothers-in-law don't surf the Internet, and their daughters-in-law spit more on the Internet, which I think is true. Most importantly, among the mothers-in-law, the older ones are not well educated, may not be able to express their ideas, and are relatively silent on the Internet. So what everyone sees is the unilateral spit of the daughter-in-law.

Get to the point, why is it difficult for mother-in-law? To sum up, it is nothing more than two points. First, not being seen; Second, don't be seen.

What do you mean by not being seen? As a mother-in-law, she has done her best to help this small family with money and efforts, but the other party can't see, hear or remember this good thing, and in turn feels that you have not paid enough. What do you mean unwelcome? From the beginning, the daughter-in-law was wary and hostile, treating the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law with hostility and her mother-in-law's behavior with great suspicion. It's like suffering from persecution paranoia. I always feel that "unruly people are hurting me." Suspicion makes the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law endless. In fact, most of them are out of thin air.

I don't know how to be grateful, I don't know how to give back, I only know how to take, and I am insatiable. No matter how good it is, it is also regarded as "malice" and sincerity, and it is also regarded as "crocodile tears". What do you suggest your mother-in-law do? What should I do? How can I become a good mother-in-law in my daughter-in-law's mind? It is too difficult for her to apply this sentence now.

When my mother got old, she really became a community gossip relay station. You can always hear some latest gossip in her place. I heard something from my mother the other day. She witnessed a drama in which her mother-in-law hit her daughter-in-law in the face in the community.

That daughter-in-law is also a big mouth. She wouldn't have made herself look so ugly in the end if she hadn't talked and preached things everywhere at home. That daughter-in-law doesn't go to work, which my mother often sees in the community. She has a two-year-old baby and often takes her downstairs for a walk.

There are always people wandering around in the community, one walking the dog and the other walking the baby. These two kinds of people often meet in the same place and get to know each other slowly. They are also mothers with children. They get together to talk about their parents' shortcomings or take care of their children, that's all.

This daughter-in-law likes to talk about her housework, and the most talked about is her in-laws, especially her mother-in-law. She can talk about her mother-in-law Natural mother-in-law has a far-reaching influence, good or bad. This daughter-in-law is the latter.

She is full of resentment towards her mother-in-law. Every time she opens her mouth, there are always a series of complaints. "My mother-in-law, really selfish, especially irresponsible. I only give 700 yuan a week. I don't care about my grandson. My irresponsible mother-in-law is really speechless. You all have her mother-in-law to help with the baby, or just her mother-in-law I eat it every day. I eat it every day. You know how noisy the children are. How can I be busy alone?

If the mother-in-law is out of town, forget it. She lives in the same community and can't go back and forth for dozens of minutes, but it's amazing that you have seen her come several times, or at most three times a month. I didn't ask anything when I came. I played with my child in my arms, left without sitting for a while, and didn't ask me if I was busy.

Some time ago, I asked her to help me with my children, but she refused, saying that she was going to a university for the elderly, and she often had activities and had no time. What a long time no see! What about your grandson can be more important than these? I don't even know what she's thinking. How can she be so selfish and cold-blooded? I'm really unlucky to meet my mother-in-law. "

She was angry, but a daughter-in-law comforted her: "Your mother-in-law is fine. You have no idea how wronged it is to live under the same roof with your mother-in-law. You have to take care of everything, ask everything and interfere in everything. I really envy you. I'd rather my mother-in-law didn't come often and didn't care too much about my son and my life. " But she is still depressed: "You are in-laws, and the conditions at home are not very good. My in-laws receive a pension, so they shouldn't live with us, but not living together doesn't mean they won't help with the children.

I get angry when I talk about it. They are so rich that they don't spend much money. They should have a lot of savings, but when I give birth to a child, I want to live in the confinement center and ask for help for a month. They refused, saying it was unnecessary.

What is necessary and what is not? It's not like she hasn't given birth. I don't know how hard it is to have a baby. If she spends so little money every month, she feels that her obligations have been fulfilled, and she can be so stingy. "Every time she spits, she is a personal speech and talks a lot. When people have nothing to answer, she still wants to say it until she is happy and comfortable.

But that day, by coincidence, I happened to meet her mother-in-law. She didn't know it yet, and her mother-in-law didn't interrupt. She stood not far away and listened for a long time, then walked over.

As soon as she saw her mother-in-law, her face immediately changed. She was a little embarrassed: "mother-in-law, why did you suddenly come?" I used to come here to say hello, but I didn't say hello this time, which caught me off guard. " Her mother-in-law didn't look at her: "I happened to be nearby, so I came to see it. You keep talking. Why don't you talk? I was just listening to what happened to your daughter-in-law. You can't say it in front of me, but you have to say it behind my back. " The daughter-in-law, at first, was a cautious compliment, but everything she heard from her mother-in-law seemed to be throwing caution to the wind: "What I said is true, too. You see, people are brought up by their mother-in-law, but you just travel around, eat, drink, and dance alone every day, and you don't mind your grandson saying that you have no responsibility. Your grandson has your surname. Who are you taking with you? Why, am I wrong? "

Everyone is watching the fun over there, and my mother-in-law is not annoyed. She sat leisurely on the stone pier and replied, "You are right, but have you forgotten one thing?" What's the matter? Money arrives automatically every week, so you forget where it came from and think it fell from the sky.

I'll give you 700 yuan a week for living expenses. You don't think it's enough. My monthly pension is more than 3000 yuan, and I will give you all the money. If not, how much do you want me to give? Shall I post someone to you?

Do you think our family is really bad for you? You were locked up for a month. I didn't ask for a new moon, but didn't I take care of you? Can you speak with a little conscience?

I went out to play, why can't I play? I'm retired, and you still have to take care of me? I didn't spend your husband a penny, it was my own.

Besides, what you just said is that there is less money. Have you ever earned a penny yourself? What about the daughter-in-law whose mother-in-law takes care of the children? She is a daughter-in-law who goes to work, and her mother-in-law helps. Since you married into our family, she hasn't gone to work. Our family is not a big family. You are not a housewife. You are pampered. Did I tell you? I am subsidizing you.

The child is named after my family, but isn't he also your child? Like, it's none of your business. After giving money, you still want me to contribute. Let me ask you, what are you doing? What else can you do? If you think I'm bad, be bad. I can't be your good mother-in-law anyway. I don't want to be called. I won't give you living expenses in the future. How about finding a class by yourself? Big housewife. "

The mother-in-law shut her daughter-in-law up as soon as she opened her mouth, and then went home without saying a word. However, this incident between her and her mother-in-law suddenly became a laughing stock in the community. Who let her usually too high-profile? Half the mother-in-law in the whole community knows her. She used to say that her mother-in-law was so ugly, and now her mother-in-law will finally hit her face. How beautiful.

The daughter-in-law in the article said that her mother-in-law didn't help with the children, and she didn't often come to see her grandson, so she felt at ease. She thinks her mother-in-law is irresponsible. But my mother-in-law has already paid the money. She didn't marry Plutocratic family. My mother-in-law's pension is just over 3,000 yuan, giving her 700 yuan a week for living expenses. In fact, this is all the expenses for a month. What do you want from her mother-in-law?

Do you want your parents-in-law to take out all the pension money and subsidize it to small families, and then move all her mother-in-law's old age to small families? When she is too busy to climb, can you still call her "good mother-in-law" behind her back?

As the daughter-in-law's mother-in-law said, I would rather not have this "good mother-in-law". She did everything she thought she should do and fulfilled all her obligations. She doesn't want to embarrass herself or focus on her children. What's wrong with living an easy life? I've heard of the contribution I can make and the contribution I can make, but I've never heard of such a brazen request, asking for both money and contribution.

Of course, it is good for her mother-in-law to be willing to help, contribute and have the ability, but this is not her obligation. Please make it clear that you should feel lucky and grateful if you are willing to be such a mother-in-law. And those who have limited ability, can't do it, or don't want to do it, can do it as long as they work hard.

That daughter-in-law, in fact, didn't know if she was lucky when she was born. I wonder how many daughters-in-law want to envy her. My mother-in-law is far away from her own life, and she is still rushing to take care of her children without giving orders, and she can also give a lot of living expenses.

We are all ordinary people, born in an ordinary family and married in an ordinary family. You can't think these are the standards of a daughter-in-law. You can't think that your husband can't do it, just don't deserve you.

I really hate to say this, but some women really feel great after giving birth. They can stand side by side with the sun and start criticizing the husband's family for their poor care and neglect.

How expensive are you? You'd better weigh yourself first and open your eyes. You don't live in a palace or a princess's life. Just pull yourself down, and don't be so demanding. If you can't get through it yourself, why bother?