I used to feel that I was very happy and had many advantages, but then I changed my environment and became selfish and unhappy. what do I do?

A study shows that if we regard something as something that must be forgotten after a breakup, it may be counterproductive. Every time we remind ourselves to forget, we are reminding ourselves to remember it unintentionally, but we remember it more firmly. , this is the "white bear effect", also known as the rebound effect. Next, the editor will tell you about the psychological knowledge of the white bear effect. If you want to know more, you might as well take a look. ▲What is the White Bear Effect? ??The "White Bear Effect" is also known as the rebound effect. In the research experiment, participants tried not to imagine a white bear. As a result, people's thinking rebounded strongly, and the image of a white bear quickly emerged in their minds. When we deliberately shift our attention, our thinking also begins to engage in unconscious "autonomous monitoring" behavior to monitor whether we are still thinking about things we shouldn't be thinking about, making it impossible for us to fundamentally give up paying attention to things. The best way to truly forget something is to let it take its course. Don't think that something must be forgotten. Focus on your daily life and work. Over time, you will naturally forget it. We can only work hard to remember, and forgetting can only follow nature. This is the law of thinking. Just like a lovelorn person trying hard to forget the lover who hurt him, only to find that the image of the other person becomes clearer and clearer in his mind, and his heart is miserable; an insomniac person tries hard not to think about things, but ends up getting even more excited, his brain is messed up, and he has no sleepiness. This phenomenon can also be explained by the "white bear effect". ————————How to overcome the white bear effect 1. Mobilize your happy emotions Memory research shows that people can crowd out painful negative memories by recalling positive memories. Many times it is too difficult for people to forget the pain, but the pain can be diluted by mobilizing people's happy emotional memories. In a relaxed and happy environment, mobilize your happy and happy memories, let those beautiful feelings fill your heart, and calm your heart. On the other hand, "Think of good things, good things will happen; think of bad things, bad things will knock on the door." Learn to think about problems with positive thinking. When you change the way you think about things and other people, things and other people change for him. 2. Stop thinking rationally and just be aware of the memory you want to forget. The point is not how to forget or prevent resistance, but whether you have a positive attitude to accept it. You will become aware of your emotional state and realize that those memories are causing you pain again. If you realize that you are currently in a state of recalling painful memories, then don't interfere with it, don't use your reason to deal with it, don't explore the reasons, just watch it come and go in your mind, and finally disappear of its own accord. 3. Stay open to negative emotions. It is healthier to stay open to negative emotions than to block them out. When you realize that your emotions are becoming negative, you start to notice them. Stay aware and awake during this process. When emotions arise, don't resist, let them arise, watch them, don't use reason. This is a way to "quiet" your mind. Only by calming ourselves first and letting the problem solidify without disturbing us can we have space to calmly think about solutions to the problem. This is a kind of awareness. It is a skill that is not innate, so it needs to be learned and practiced. When one day you can easily laugh about the past, you will truly "forget" it.