Why do children chew their fingers?

Is He Laoshi here? I want to ask you a question: My son has always had the habit of biting his fingers. I didn't pay much attention before. Later, I let him use nail clippers for a while, but I don't know why he has been biting people frequently recently. The teacher never mentioned that he used to bite people anytime and anywhere before going to bed at night. I looked it up online and said he was insecure or stressed. Later, the teacher said that I paid close attention to He Yongjun: What do you think? Parents: I'm worried about whether the child is me or not.

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First of all, you should know what he means to his son. Parents: Poor health is only one aspect. In fact, he knows that I am worried that my child will have psychological problems: inferiority complex, depression, nervousness and anxiety. He Yongjun, who looked up a lot of information, said this: inferiority, no depression, yes, nervousness and anxiety. Some parents: If there are these, am I negligent in disciplining my children and paying insufficient attention to them? I really can't figure out why it has become so frequent recently. He Yongjun: It is not the problem now, but the problem of insufficient breastfeeding when I was a child. This phenomenon is called insufficient oral stimulation in children's oral period. Parents: But when he was a child, he was breast-fed 1 1 month, so there should be no shortage. He Yongjun: That doesn't seem to be the problem, but the problem that the children themselves solve in this way and then form. Or there are some problems of insufficient oral stimulation, which are aggravated by some things under certain circumstances. But what do you realize the purpose of children doing this?

The purpose of doing this is actually that he is relieving his inner anxiety by eating his fingers. This phenomenon is actually very common among children nowadays. In this phenomenon, there are not only the stimulation of eating fingers on lips, but also the smell produced by children's fingers under the action of saliva, which makes him feel a special taste, which brings him comfort. Another parent, while biting, felt a pleasure in overcoming difficulties, so he bald his fingernails: he didn't eat his fingers or bite his fingernails, and I asked him why he just said that his fingernails had grown. How to correct it? He Yongjun: First, you must never think that this thing is a bad thing, but it is actually very important to comfort and be happy for your son. And tell your children that many people are such parents: sometimes I remind them, but it is often difficult to say. I said the other day that my mother believed that you could get through it slowly. The child is really trying to control himself. A few days later, I grew two nails, and I saw them all bitten off today. He Yongjun: The second thing is that you should tell your children that the source of this matter is that your mouth is not satisfied, so you can make them eat hard things, strong things, chew more and play more.

Third, you should tell your child that you can taste his fingers to eliminate his nervousness. Parents: It is estimated that I was often criticized by the teacher in class during this time, and then I was more nervous than before. He Yongjun: Fourth, in fact, the more nervous you are, the more you remind your children, and the more you have to keep yourself inside. The more depressed, the more uncontrollable it is, and it is easy to form a child's compulsive thinking.

Parents: He feels very comfortable when he bites it, and he often peels it next to me. I said he said he didn't bite his nails, just bit the peeling place next to him. He Yongjun: He felt comfortable when he bit it, a feeling of pain. Sixth: Then, if you don't bite off these skins, you can look at this nail comfortably from another angle and admire your faded skin. It is also possible. This is to accept your imperfections, but it is actually beautiful.

Seventh, my son has been anxious and stressed recently. Does your son study harder? Parents: I haven't seen him work harder than before, but his study is very unstable these days. He Yongjun: His study is very unstable. Do you often talk to him? Parents: He Yongjun is often said: Does he mean to do well? Are you nervous about your academic performance? Parents: He seldom talks to me about study. It's all about what happened at school or what happened to his classmates or what he did in the game and his vision for the future. He Yongjun: I admire your child very much and am very sure of his ideas. You can do very well.

I'll tell you another way: there is a kind of beef tendon candy, which can be chewed vigorously and can weaken your son's eating fingers. I feel that he will study hard with his parents during this period: Why do you feel that he will study hard during this period, because this often happens when the child is working hard, quiet and focused. It will also appear when you are bored and idle, or when you want to do it but can't, and you have troubles in your heart. That is, a subconscious action to relieve the anxiety, boredom, or a sense of tension that welled up in my heart at that time. So you will be difficult to manage, because he sometimes doesn't realize that parents: If you don't correct it now, will it have an impact in the future? He Yongjun: No, on the contrary, correcting too much will make it worse. So you look at this problem normally. My son always tells me that he feels a lot of urine before going to bed. What do you think is the reason? Parents: I don't know, what is the reason? He Yongjun:

My son has developed the habit of 10. He thinks that sleep is very important, that is, he is anxious when he can't sleep. Then I'll find out why. At this time, I am worried that I can't sleep if I have urine, so he always wants to empty, which is also an anxiety. It can be said that our anxiety is actually everywhere. If you feel abnormal, you will be depressed, which will lead to an increase in his inner contradictions. So I only explained it to my son, and then told him that he paid too much attention to going to bed on time and was always afraid of delay, so he was very anxious. Now he can relax and sleep quickly instead of worrying. In fact, another reason is his study pressure. He is worried that he can't listen well in class and that he has problems, so he will pay special attention. But this kind of attention will not solve the problem, but will be more nervous.

I gave my classmate's son the same bite as yours, even worse than yours. The idea of wrapping your fingers, or changing the taste of your fingers, such as soaking your hands in hot water or rubbing your hands hard, will also play a role. Parent: Your classmate's son? He Yongjun: Yes, many students in their class have this problem. And many adults also have it. Such as biting pens, smoking, chewing gum, etc. In fact, this is the embodiment. Parents: Maybe I see fewer children like this. Their teacher said there was a child before, so she told the mother later, and she changed it to He Yongjun: Yes, and the teacher scared you, so you were in a hurry, and you didn't know why, so you were too worried. Parents also said that if the child bit her like this, she would have called, and when she called the day before yesterday, the teacher mentioned He Yongjun: That's because she didn't accept it, which was even worse. It means he doesn't understand this state. Parents: I took my child for an intravenous drip today because I wanted to bite He Yongjun after sitting next to him for a few minutes: You are in a hurry. Parents: Yes, so I reminded him more today. He Yongjun: Don't wake him up, it's better to remind him to eat. If he wants to eat, you should also eat his parents: He Yongjun: Yes, in fact, he doesn't eat when he is happy. Parents: Really? He Yongjun: You try. Parent: I'll try tomorrow. You can tell your parents what I said above about the child's psychology: let him rest assured, right? He Yongjun: Yes, and it's not all bad for him, and there's something he really likes. You can also buy some strong candy to eat. Parents: Well, He Yongjun: The children are not perfect, and the teachers have many wrong ideas. You need to calm yourself down. Parents: Yes, the teacher didn't say that I didn't pay much attention to him, but I seemed to feel nervous when I checked online again. I guess the child went to lunch this semester and didn't want to sleep, but I asked the teacher to let him take a nap. He felt uncomfortable and bored sleeping. I guess he bit a lot during that time. He said that sometimes he always looks at the ceiling at noon. He Yongjun: Look at the ceiling. Why did you let him eat the small table? Parents: Actually, I want to be lazy and let my children have the habit of taking a nap. Either stay at home at noon and watch TV or want to play computer He Yongjun: Can I sleep at noon? Parents: I still don't want to sleep for 2 months, and I can fall asleep occasionally. Actually, I thought about it, too I really don't want to take a nap. He Yongjun: Then it seems that you can discuss it with your son. Because the situation you mentioned is probably the inducing factor for your son to bite his finger, so he can't sleep and is bored. It really takes time to form a habit. Suddenly, from home to an environment where I have to sleep, I am not used to it. My son's own lifestyle has been changed, so he can't play computer and watch TV, so he will feel bored, or he will be anxious if he wants it but can't get it. Why do you sometimes fall asleep? Parent: He said it was boring to sleep there, and everyone else slept. No one plays with him. I don't know why I fell asleep. He Yongjun: Actually, I want to play. If no one plays, I don't like playing. At this time, there was no idea of playing in my mind, so I calmed down and fell asleep, didn't I? Parents: Yes, when he came back on the first day, he said happily that he was still sleeping. He Yongjun: But sometimes he thinks about what to do at home at noon, but he can't do it. He gets bored when he can't move. At this time, he was anxious. Parents: Later, he found that some children don't sleep and can watch TV. After a senior can play computer, He Yongjun: Yes, these things are always on my mind at this time. There are contradictions in my heart. Parents: I think we should let him go after two months. Maybe it would be better. At least less anxiety. He Yongjun: Or tell the child why he can fall asleep? Why can't you sleep? Because this involves the adjustment of children's inner conflicts. Parent: Why do I know these two things? How to adjust them? He Yongjun: What do you think of children's successful experience? If you don't think about it, it will be quiet naturally. Then how can I not think about them watching TV and playing games? Parents: How can I not think about it? I don't think he can answer it. But why did he fall asleep? He Yongjun: But you can sum up for your son, which is to guide his son to have a sense of inner control. Parents: Tell the child that he can actually control himself, right? He Yongjun: Actually, yes, he can control himself, and then he can fall asleep without outside interference. Is it very accomplished and quality? Parents: Yes.