Grandma doesn't want to take care of the children for a while. What is the reason?

First, is the communication between education and parenting too strong, which makes grandma feel great pressure? It's really hard to take care of children. Nobody wants to get involved in this muddy water. Tired, not respected, I definitely want to give up in minutes.

Second, help with the children. If a person does a tired, boring and unrequited thing for a long time, it is easy to break out without decompression. Therefore, it is suggested that children should not play mobile phones after work on Saturday and Sunday, take more children to cook and be considerate of the hard work of the elderly. Nobody should, especially grandma. Raising a daughter is raising a small cotton-padded jacket, and as a result, they will definitely feel wronged when they are nannies.

Third, rewards, whether spiritual or material, must be given enough, because I am really much more tired than taking care of my children alone. My grandmother is kind, so it's not my responsibility to take care of her. I should give her more gifts and care, not less. Even if I go home to wash dishes and massage for her mother, she will be unhappy. I will say a few more words of thanks and take her to buy buy's shopping mall!

In short, don't be morally kidnapped. No one should take care of your children. Someone will take care of the elderly for you. Otherwise, my husband and I are really tired of taking care of the baby in Beijing, Nuoda. No one will take care of them at all, so cherish gratitude!

I take care of my daughter's two children. My granddaughter is 9 years old and Bauer is 3 years old now. It's not easy to take care of children. I had the idea of giving up halfway, but I persisted in the end. Now every time I see the children around me calling grandma, I feel that all the hard work and dedication are worth it.

Daughter and son-in-law are college classmates. The son-in-law's family is in the countryside. After graduation, he stayed in the city to work. He has a one-year-old brother who works in his hometown and has been living with his parents since he got married.

When her daughter was about to give birth, her mother-in-law made it clear that her family was busy, and the children of her eldest son and daughter-in-law were only over two years old, so she could not come to the city to help her youngest son take care of her children.

Since the daughter decided to get married, she naturally knew each other's family situation and never had any expectations for her husband's family. My daughter is the only child here. I retired early and just had nothing to do at home, so I naturally took on the heavy responsibility of helping my daughter with her children.

My daughter was born prematurely when she was the boss, and the child was particularly weak. She made trouble from time to time and went to the hospital. At that time, my daughter and son-in-law were both in the early stage of their business, and sometimes they were busy for several days without seeing anyone. If it's not a big deal, I don't usually call them for fear of involving their energy.

Every time a child has a fever or some minor ailment, my wife and I will take her to the hospital. The child doesn't feel well, can't sleep well at night and always cries. My wife and I took turns hugging her and coaxing her, tired in the body and hurting in my heart. Often when the little guy is euthanized, we are exhausted, but we still have to work hard and dare not take it lightly.

In fact, physical suffering is tolerable, and the most unbearable thing is the injustice in my heart. One year near the Spring Festival, the children's grandparents came to the city to do the New Year's goods, so they took them to see their little granddaughter. It happened that her daughter was on a business trip in other places, and her granddaughter had a fever and was taking an injection.

Grandma loves her granddaughter dearly, and some words complain that our mother and daughter didn't take good care of the children. Fortunately, the son-in-law was considerate and explained that the child had a fever because of poor health, and the grandfather of the child was also in charge. He was afraid that we would be unhappy and had been fighting in the middle. For the sake of my son-in-law and sick children, I resisted the idea of not breaking up with her.

But this incident made my wife and I feel very uncomfortable. We take care of the children for our daughter and son-in-law, and we have never paid anything for them. Moreover, most of the children's supplies are bought by us, and grandma's family doesn't understand it. It's really wrong to make irresponsible remarks.

I also had the idea of staying at that time. However, it is not easy to think about my daughter's son-in-law when I look at her lovely appearance. I still can't bear to let go, so I pressed down and didn't even mention it in front of my daughter, and continued to take care of my children wholeheartedly.

Under the careful care of my wife and I, by the time my little granddaughter went to kindergarten, her constitution had been completely adjusted, and she finally stopped getting sick often and grew into a healthy and strong little girl.

Bauer is a boy. He is more honest and more receptive than his sister. But there is an idea that he doesn't want to take it. In fact, this idea was put into practice for a while, but it didn't come true in the end.

The little guy is very smart, learns things quickly, and is especially good at imitation. My wife and I are old, and some old lifestyles and daily habits are hard to change. For example, my wife likes to watch TV while eating two glasses of soju. As a result, her two-year-old grandson will make a scene because he doesn't turn on the TV and eat.

For another example, I like cooking, and there are many things for cooking at home. Then when my little grandson played with his toys, he named all the foods I often cooked.

These are the habits that we have followed for most of our lives. It is not easy to change them, but I am worried that these things will have a bad influence on children's growth. I think it's better for children to grow up with their parents. So, I sent the little guy back to my daughter's house and let her take care of herself.

At that time, my daughter and son-in-law were still so busy. My daughter has to take care of the business as well as the children. It is difficult to take care of both sides. Less than half a month later, people lost a lot of weight. My wife and I are distressed. After consulting with my daughter's son-in-law, I went to my daughter's house, neither distracting them from their work, but also letting the children get along with their parents more.

As a result, my wife and I had to live apart at different ages. Although we live in the same city, it is not difficult to meet. But it pains me to think that my wife is in poor health and a person can't always cook well at home. My daughter and son-in-law suggested that he move in together. Their house is big enough anyway. But with what happened before, we are worried that our in-laws will have ideas again, and we still don't want to make trouble. We'll try to wait until they are busy for a while.

As a grandmother with more than ten years' experience in taking care of grandchildren, I want to ask under what circumstances, grandma doesn't want to take care of her children for a while. My answer is that there are basically other reasons besides her grandmother's physical condition or financial situation, or the consideration of children's education, which will not let her take care of the children halfway.

Because grandmothers care about their daughters, there is another important reason besides loving their grandchildren. This kind of love handed down from generation to generation and love for children will be combined into an unshakable force.

With this power, ordinary difficulties can be overcome by biting one's teeth.

I don't think it's her health problem at first. If she is unhealthy, she will say it. It is estimated that her daughter is not sensible, considerate and loves her mother. She must have done something to make her sad, otherwise her mother wouldn't help her. To tell the truth, I happen to be taking care of my granddaughter now and have some experience. Grandma and grandma are sincerely helping the children, and they are also happy to help when the children have to go to work. However, when children realize that their parents are helping themselves, they should also be considerate and concerned about their parents at ordinary times. If they have time, they should take the initiative to do housework, take care of the children and let grandma and grandma rest. We should care more about our parents, communicate with them more, give them some comfort and help them happily. I don't know if anyone feels the same way.

There is an old saying in the countryside: it takes three acres of land to bring a child, which shows how tired it is to bring a child. This is still an old saying. Now people have higher requirements for taking care of children, and it is more tiring to take care of children.

Grandma took it for a while and didn't want to take it. I think it's mostly because she thinks you have a baby and didn't bring it yourself. I'll get it for you now, and you won't give me a rest when you are not busy. I didn't raise the child, so why should I work alone?

In the past two years, there has been a popular jingle: parents are born, grandma is raised, and grandparents come to see it. This phenomenon is very bad. If grandparents and stand by and watch together, it will naturally make the exhausted grandmother psychologically unacceptable. If young people don't understand and don't understand grandma who takes care of children, you won't want to take them. Who doesn't want to relax? Grandma takes care of her children because she is distressed by her daughter. Of course, there are limits. When her body or mind can't bear it, she naturally doesn't want to bring it.

Therefore, young people should expect the elderly to take care of their children, no matter whether they are grandmothers or grandmothers, they should be considerate, work together and don't put the burden on one person.

Really tired, taking care of the children is too worry-free! Children are cute and want to take care of them, but they can only be independent if they are brought to junior high school, so there is no need to pick them up. Ten years is too long for an old man. From the fifties to the sixties, my health is getting worse every day. What a devastating blow. Life is very tired and not free. It is not so difficult for children to go to school to earn money for their children. The biggest reason: too sleepy, not free!

Whether it's a grandmother or a grandmother, it's hard to take care of children. You can't force them, and you can't just leave them alone because they don't want to take them. Because we are high IQ people, capitalists, not retarded animals. Husband and wife have a good relationship. If parents have something to do and their feelings are average, they should honor their old parents separately and not force each other, because everything in the world is complementary.

Taking care of children is really tiring! This is not good. I am a grandmother. I take care of two granddaughters at a time, the older is nineteen months and the younger is seven months. It's just a year and a day apart. I cook, clean the room and take out the garbage. Ta people come home from work like officials, doing nothing. I always prepare the dishes and serve them on the table, so sometimes they just leave them for a while if they want to lose their temper. Even eating with gas is a problem now. Children should not be too old to do this, but too old to do that! Our generation has raised sons and grandchildren!

According to the actual situation, it may be that grandma is in poor health and doesn't want to take care of the children. She should be sympathetic to the elderly and really understand their thoughts.

Taking care of children carries a lot of responsibilities and things.

Every day, we should not only cook and wash clothes for our children, but also take them out to play. At home, always pay attention to whether children play with any dangerous goods and eat anything they shouldn't. Pay attention to the outside, in case something happens!

If you don't have your own space every day, mom and dad will be very tired and upset, not to mention an old man with limited physical strength and energy.

Therefore, first of all, we should communicate with the elderly, what is the reason, and third, we should not let an old man take it every day, but give him time to rest and control himself.

It is also possible that there is something wrong with your communication.

I can't say for sure right away. There are many reasons. Maybe I'm in poor health and can't bear it. It may also be that the daughter and son-in-law don't understand the hardships of the elderly. In short, there are many reasons. ...

On the whole, I'm in good health and nothing is wrong. If I can help with the children, I still need help. Helping to take care of the children reduces the burden on the daughter-in-law and can concentrate on her work. If I hire a nanny, my daughter-in-law will not be at ease after work. I am taking care of my grandson now. If someone hires me to take care of the children, I won't, because taking care of the children is too tiring and responsible. If my daughter and son-in-law don't understand my hard work and gratitude, I won't help them with their children.

Let me talk about the hard work of raising children. I can't go while I'm babysitting. I walk around the children every day. For a long time, none of the children couldn't sleep. After you took a few steps together, the child woke up and couldn't go back to sleep soon. Sleeping for more than an hour at most is a long time. Most of them just slept for 40 minutes. When you don't sleep, you are basically allowed to hold it. Later, the physical examination found a little calcium deficiency.

Recently, my daughter gave her child a repellent emulsion and kept it at my place all day. I didn't sleep much on the first night, because I left my mother on the first night, took a nap, opened my eyes and began to cry. I cried many times this night. When I cried, I kicked the quilt and refused to cover it. As a result, my nose began to clear the next day and I began to have a fever the next night. I didn't sleep well that night. On the third morning, when I felt so tight, I went to massage my child and kept pushing.

There are too many situations, but the reasons for the changes are nothing more than several aspects.

1, grandma's mentality First of all, in fact, many families choose grandma to take care of their children unilaterally, which will lead to the deepening of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, because children belong to grandma's family in China. Secondly, whether grandma is an idle person or not, even the families of idle people have their own life trajectories. Nowadays, young people don't have much time to go to work, and the older generation will inevitably have many contradictions in educating their children. Incorrect communication methods can also lead to grandma's dissatisfaction. Also, the family is harmonious. In a family with prominent contradictions, everyone will be accidentally shot. When it comes to children's problems, a little injury can trigger war at home. No one wants to suffer indignities for no reason, not just because of himself. And grandma's views on her husband's family and so on. This is one aspect.

2. The practice of children's parents. Some parents take this as a matter of course. Indeed, for many retired elderly people, getting along with their children is a pleasure for them, but some elderly people are not like this. People have to take advantage of the good times of money and leisure to live comfortably, and inexplicably have more jobs, which inevitably makes them feel uncomfortable. Young people who are not sensible not only don't take care of the feelings of the elderly, but also always vent their messy complaints at random, which is easy to cause grandma's dissatisfaction.

3. Husband's family reasons.

Forget it, don't answer it. China families always have an unclear account. The core is that you should correctly understand everyone's positions and principles, reflect on yourself more, understand the overall situation clearly, and don't be wishful thinking.

It also shows that we answer questions in order to solve problems and help others, but it will waste a lot of people's time if we don't make specific questions clear. I suggest you think it over and talk about this headless and tailless problem. Thank you for your understanding.

I hope I am satisfied.