Why do many couples break up when they mention the bride price?

Why do many couples break the news when they mention bride price? I feel a little surprised that a girl quarreled with her boyfriend because of the bride price. This girl went to college in Sichuan and is also a well-educated person. Her boyfriend is the kind of person whose family is very poor, and both parents have no jobs. In those days, the bride price was a big problem. There is a saying: "To marry a daughter-in-law, buy a car first", which is a very realistic problem. Therefore, it can be understood that the man's family asked the man's family to give a bride price and marry his daughter to his son. Originally, there was no big problem in this matter. The man was willing to give a bride price, but after the bride price was given, two people's names should be written on the house and the car. If you don't write this name, it will be very troublesome. Although the price of this bride price is not high, it is not low for the woman. The man's family is poor and has no savings. It is even more difficult for two people to buy a house and a car after they get married. And if the woman's family does not agree, it is difficult to get married. However, it is not unreasonable for the woman's parents not to give money as a bride price. The girl doesn't want to marry her boyfriend when she knows that his family is so difficult, not because of his bad character, but because of the bride price.

First, the bride price money is a "custom", and the custom must be respected. Of course, we should respect this custom, but we should also treat it objectively. Let's take this case for example. In fact, most of the bride price money now comes from the man's family, and then the woman's family will also prepare dowry and bride price money for them, but most of it comes from the woman's family, and then the rest will be given to her daughter. So this custom becomes a "custom", so we should respect this custom, but we can't violate it.

Second, not everyone can accept high-priced bride price. I know some girls broke up with their boyfriends because of the bride price. Some girls will think that parents want such colorful gifts because they want money. Some even think that this boy definitely doesn't love her and wants to have children with others after marriage. In fact, the bride price is just a form, which does not mean that money must be given or not. The key is to see if the man's family has feelings for you. Many people find it difficult at home, it is not easy for parents to send their children to school, and it is nothing to marry their own wives. However, some parents also took out a lot of money when raising their children to get married, but they broke up because of this contradiction after marriage. Therefore, many young people in society can't accept this concept of high-priced bride price marriage. They believe that marriage should be a matter for two families, and it is not possible for one party to get married by being kind to the other.

Third, behind the high-priced bride price, parents are reluctant to give up on their daughters. China has a saying: "The water spilled by the married daughter". In China, in order to protect their children from injustice, some parents will give the bride price money when their children get married, and then let their daughters get married. And some parents will give their children a small house, but some parents will give them all to their daughters. Then, when their daughters get married, they will have a strong reluctance, but they can't say why. Only in this case will there be a sky-high bride price. They didn't think about their future life at all. They just wanted to marry their daughter and let her live happily. Parents send their children out when they are powerless, not to make them suffer, but to make them live better.

I don't think the bride price should be an obstacle to the relationship between husband and wife. Because of the bride price, some couples' feelings will also be greatly affected. I think this is really a problem that needs to be solved. But I still want to say that the bride price should not be an obstacle to the relationship between couples. Everyone has his own way of life. As long as you two really love each other and don't care about these external factors, then you can overcome difficulties and come together. It's really not easy for two people in this world to be together, and it's even harder to meet someone who is good to you. Therefore, the affection between two people is more important than anything else. If two people have conflicts, you should solve them, not run away. Marriage is a particularly important thing in our life, so we should take it seriously. If we don't want to get married, don't associate with people rashly.