It's time for a mother-in-law to scold her son-in-law for being silent for n years. How should it erupt?

You communicate with your wife first and tell her that you can't stand her mother-in-law scolding you. If you scold her again, she will be angry. Ask your wife to remind her mother that if she doesn't listen, it's better to scold her directly, two or three times. If she is a door-to-door son-in-law, don't go back to her mother-in-law's house often, just don't see each other often. If she doesn't, go back to her own house and your mother-in-law won't kiss you.