Is this kind of aunt annoying, or am I too narrow-minded

It's not that you are narrow-minded, but that she is too calculating.

But since your husband is good in other aspects, I don't think you need to break up your family because of such a person.

Although your husband can't understand your pain, from another angle, it also shows that he is a person who values friendship and affection. This quality would have been very good if it had been used on a sensible aunt, but it's a pity that the aunt you met was not good. Besides, on the one hand, men are not as meticulous as women (I think if he encounters similar things, he will definitely think that profiteers are cheating and say "don't go there to buy things" at most). On the other hand, even if he knows that his sister is not doing well, he can't tell you, "My sister is really treacherous. Let's get rid of them! " Not only is he justifying a fault, but he also admits to his wife that his sister's conduct is not good, and he can't do it either in face or feelings.

Actually, isn't your money your husband's money? When she calculates your money, isn't she calculating her own brother's money? I think that's unbearable, especially if your husband doesn't believe you and speaks for his sister blindly, making you feel like an outsider. But in fact, if you think about what I analyzed above, is it meaningful? Do you think it's worth ruining your deep friendship with your husband for such a woman?

In fact, being nice to her is nothing more than for your husband's feelings and face. What do you say you have to do with her? She's not your relative either? You never dated her before you got married! If she is kind, she can be close to her family after a long time; What's the difference between her calculation and those colleagues with low quality in your unit? The same hatred, the same relationship without essence (blood and feelings), and the same have to be perfunctory for human dignity. Why not treat her as an annoying colleague? Just colleagues get along during the day and aunts get along at night.

I suggest you don't quarrel with your husband about this. In fact, he may not be completely indifferent, but he just feels that "a few money things are perfunctory" or he is unwilling to admit it for the sake of face. If you don't take menstruation as your family, it won't be so bad. She is actually very stupid. You were really nice to her, and she offended everyone for a few dollars. How can a person like her treat her sincerely? The urgent task now is to make up with my husband, try to control the family's economy and avoid any economic ties with my aunt in the future. There is really no way to be cheated, so use your own money to buy sausages and feed them to stray dogs.

Think about it, feeding the dog will make you feel that you have done a good deed, and the dog will wag its tail at you;

Although your aunt won't do this, your husband will think that you are generous and considerate, virtuous and sensible, and maintain the stability and unity of the family, which is much better than feeding dogs.