Going home on National Day is always dragged by my parents to socialize. I feel tired every time, wasting time. How can I refuse this "unnecessary social occasion" for me?

I think that in the face of unnecessary social occasions arranged by parents, refusing may make you feel guilty, but for the sake of your physical and mental health, you need to learn to express your needs, sincerely express your feelings and needs, propose alternatives and set boundaries, be patient and respect, and stick to your position.

Here are some suggestions to help you deal with this situation better:

1. Understand parents' position: First, understand why parents are keen to arrange these social occasions. They may think it's for your own good, to expand your contacts, or to maintain family relationships. Knowing their position can be more targeted when communicating.

2. Choose the right time and occasion: When communicating with parents, choose the moment when they are in a good mood and relaxed. Avoid raising them when they are tired or in a bad mood, so as to avoid unnecessary conflicts.

3. Express your feelings sincerely: Tell your parents that attending these social occasions makes you feel tired, and explain why you think these occasions are unnecessary for you. You can say that you need to rest, be alone or concentrate on your interests and career. Let your parents know your needs and strive for their understanding and support.

4. propose alternatives: in order not to let parents feel that you are rejecting them, you can propose some alternatives. For example, you can suggest holding a party at home, so that you can accompany your parents and avoid too much outside interference. Or you can take the initiative to participate in some social activities that you are interested in, to show that you are willing to participate in some useful social activities, rather than refusing them completely.

5. Communicate frankly: If your parents still insist on letting you participate in these social occasions, you can tell them frankly that although you understand their kindness, you really can't accept it. Try to stay calm and don't let your emotions escalate.

6. Set boundaries: In the process of communicating with your parents, you need to clearly set your own boundaries. Tell them the social level you can accept and the private space you want. This will help you avoid similar troubles in your later life.

7. Be patient: It takes time to change parents' ideas and behaviors, and you need patience. In the process of communication, try to maintain respect and understanding and avoid accusations and complaints. As long as you stand your ground, your parents will eventually understand and respect your choice.