Promote the warming of couples' feelings

Promote the warming of couples' feelings

1, don't order him, please him. Go and buy a bottle of milk. Go cook. Pass me the bread on the table. Most girls may have blurted out the above words to their boyfriends inadvertently. Of course, there is nothing wrong with this in itself. After all, when two people get along for a long time, it is inevitable that they will omit a lot of manners and etiquette and become more arbitrary. Grammatically speaking, such words are the most uncomfortable imperative words for boys.

"If couples have something to ask each other to do, they should try to avoid imperative sentences and use interrogative sentences." In other words, don't order him, but let him know that even close couples have nothing to do with themselves. So, girls might as well try to change the above three sentences to: Can you buy me a bottle of milk?

"Can you go and cook for us?" "Can you pass me the bread?" Similarly, "take a shower" can be changed to "Do you want to take a shower now?" "Put on your coat" can be changed to "Do you want to add an extra coat?" This not only reflects the gentleness and respect of girls, but also makes boys more psychologically acceptable, naturally avoiding many misunderstandings and complaining less.

2. complain less. For most couples, boys are always more casual and careless than girls in life. Hanging clothes may wrinkle; When washing dishes, you may forget to wash the bottom of the dishes; When sweeping the floor, you may ignore the dust in many inconspicuous places ... and these will often cause girls to complain, and press the button: "Is this how you work?" ! ""it hasn't been cleaned yet! " .

One to two, it becomes a quarrel. In this regard, the author suggests that girls should complain less. Sometimes if you can turn a blind eye, it will make you both relaxed. Of course, the author does not mean that girls can only endure where boys do badly.

But don't scold a boy after he finishes one thing, which will make anyone unhappy. Therefore, the girls might as well express their recognition of his work at the moment, and then find an opportunity to say to him afterwards: "I think it is better to flatten the clothes first and then dry them." Wash the bottom of the bowl, or you will get other tableware dirty ~ "When two people are together, the rules should be discussed one by one and formulated one by one to find a way of doing things acceptable to each other. This is called * * * cohabitation.

3. Boys want to hear more about understanding than advice. In the communication between lovers, the following dialogues often appear. A: "I'm so busy today that I don't even have time to eat lunch." B: "No lunch! Eat well! " A: "The communication with customers is not smooth again today." B: "What's the matter? Is it misunderstood again? " In fact, if A is a girl and B is a boy in the conversation, then maybe girls can feel care and help from the words of boys.

On the contrary, if A is a boy and B is a girl, then under the influence of the boy's self-esteem, he will only feel that he is not trusted by his girlfriend and doubt that he is "incompetent". Unless boys are definitely asking for advice, more often, they want to hear understanding rather than advice. Therefore, in the face of boys' small emotions, girls only need to go to * * * to enjoy his hard work.

For example, "you didn't eat again, you are so hard!" ""It's difficult to communicate with customers. You're already great! "This can really comfort boys, make them feel understood and supported, and then it is easier to open their hearts.

4. Praise him sincerely. Whether it's a boy or a girl, who doesn't want to be praised by others? Although boys don't actively show off their new hairstyles, new nails and new lipsticks like girls to seek praise from each other; But in fact, they also expect to be praised, and when praised, they will feel as happy as girls.

Therefore, it is suggested that girls, even if boys don't deliberately ask for it, must sincerely praise him. Moreover, don't just praise him to his face: "You are so handsome!" "Your hairstyle is so boyish!" I also want to praise his advantages in front of outsiders: "My boyfriend cooks very well!" " "Although he is careless, he is actually good at taking care of people!" In the deep heart of boys, most of them have heroic complex. Being recognized and appreciated by people you like is their happiest thing.

When he said "sorry", he also replied "sorry". "I'm sorry." "Then tell me where you are wrong?" ..... The above dialogue is also a common dialogue mode between lovers. Especially understand the little emotions of girls after quarreling. But I still want to tell you that such a reply will not only solve the problem, but also make the situation more and more chaotic. In the quarrel between lovers, you don't have to care who is right or wrong.

"When the other person says' I'm sorry', you respond with' I'm sorry', which is an ideal way to end the quarrel." So, we can change the conversation to "I'm sorry" and "I'm sorry, too." "It's my fault." "I made a mistake, too." The most precious thing between lovers is not this mutual tolerance and understanding.

6. "I like you" should always be on my lips. If the previous advice is specially prepared for girls, then the following advice is written to all boys and girls at the same time. The author wrote such a sentence in the book: "Once people get used to something, they will lose their sense of tension, and so will the relationship between couples.

Indeed, after two people get along for a long time, they will gradually feel that this relationship is taken for granted. No longer greet each other seriously, no longer express their love, and forget how lucky they are to find someone who loves themselves and loves themselves. The sentence "I like you very much" should be mentioned often.

"Not only should it be expressed, but it should even be announced to the world very actively. Before going to bed, don't just say "I fell asleep", remember to say "I fell asleep, I like you very much today"; Before going out, don't just say "I'm out", add "I'm out, see you tonight"; When leaving, don't just say "goodbye", but say "goodbye then, remember to send me a message when you get home"

"Adding our love and good wishes to these ordinary daily greetings can help us cherish each other's existence more." Passionate love is to let the other person feel, forever.