There are more women dating than men in big cities. What is the reason?

There are still many reasons, high vision and high requirements; Did not meet the right one; Traditional concepts and other factors have led many women in big cities to be single so far, hoping to find a "prince charming" through blind date, but it is difficult to speak. ...

In recent years, in the blind date market, there are more women than men in big cities, and the ratio of male to female is 1:4. Most of them are 30 to 34 years old, with an overall delay of 5 years, and it is obvious to marry late and have children late.

According to the present era of more wolves and less meat, there should be more single men than women, but in big cities, it is found that there are more women dating than men. Combining the examples of some female friends working in first-tier cities around me and my personal views, the reasons are as follows:

First, the vision is high and the requirements are high

I believe that women who can take root in big cities are basically good in education and work (those who have no house or car may not be able to support for several years, go back to get married or find a job in second-and third-tier cities), at least they still have the ability and feel ok about themselves, so the requirements for finding a partner are naturally high, and no one is worse than themselves. Therefore, having a house and a car is a hard core condition, that is, having a house in a big city! Those who can afford to buy a house in a big city are not in their hometown, nor in second-and third-tier cities. Generally, the conditions at home are better. In such a family, parents have arranged for their son. They naturally want to find some families with similar conditions to form a strong alliance and have potential stocks. Young people can make a fortune on their own, and this has long been "targeted" or "reversed" by others, or ".

Men who can't afford a house are not considered. Many men struggle in big cities for several years without a way out, so they listen to their families' arrangements and go home to start a family and start a career in other places. Women who haven't taken off their bills don't want to lower their standards, so they just want to wait and wait all the time. Year after year, blind date, every year different new faces join this team.

Second, I didn't meet the right person.

This is a matter of opinion, and a good appearance may generally be dismissed; Handsome conditions are average; I finally got the appearance and conditions, maybe the other person is in poor shape or short and disdainful; I can't cook. Wait. Anyway, I'm very picky. I always like to compare with others. Others can find excellent ones in all aspects, and I can certainly do it myself. But this is not an idol drama. In reality, there are so many high-quality men waiting for you to choose. Do you think you are Liu Yifei? I think I am a person who has seen the world, so if I don't meet my requirements, I will faint. Maybe I feel that my personality is out of line, my three views are out of line, and I don't want to do it. This is understandable, understandable.

Third, the wrong traditional concept.

Although they are highly educated, some people are still very traditional. Traditionally, girls don't need special efforts, as long as they have a stable job. They will get married in the future anyway. As long as they find a boy with good conditions, they can change this situation. They have no pressure to buy a house or a car. I can pin this fantasy on the other half in the future. I can do without these things myself, but you must have them as my future husband. If not, it means that you are incapable. If you have a house and a car, forget what I said above.

Others are influenced by their family background. For example, parents should educate their daughters and find a rich one who can get a high bride price in the future. Otherwise, this kind of wrong ideological indoctrination is absolutely unnecessary.

Everyone wants to find a good partner to live a happy life, but it's not that easy. My two better junior high school classmates get together every year when they go home for the New Year because our hometown is not far away. They will be 30 years old next year, but they haven't found anyone yet and have no plans to find one. Both of them have bachelor degrees, one in Guangzhou and the other in Shenzhen, both of which are first-tier cities.

However, both of them have higher standards of mate selection. They can have a house, a deposit and no car in first-tier cities, and their height is at least 180cm (this requirement can filter out most people), and it is best to reach 180+, their parents are alive, and they have a master's degree or above, but! Their looks are ordinary, their height is less than 160, and their family conditions are also ordinary. At that time, I listened to them and they were very happy. I didn't have the courage to break their illusions, so they were usually in close contact, and I only contacted them occasionally. I know I weigh a few catties and I dare not ask for so much, so I married someone who is similar to myself and good to myself.

Nowadays, women are becoming more and more independent, focusing on the principle of quality and light weight, and have not yet found the right person. However, the standard of mate selection is not right or wrong, but personal choice. But we should also see the real life clearly and make a comprehensive judgment according to the situation. If we can't be perfect ourselves, how can we ask others to be perfect?