After living in a friend's house for 32 days, I prefer to live alone when I return to my own nest. what do you think?

After living in a friend's house for 32 days, I feel very comfortable when I return to my nest. That kind of feeling is super cool and completely relaxed.

Suddenly I feel that it is best to live alone.

Getting used to being alone is the best way to solve loneliness, even if it is eating, walking, singing KTV, eating hot pot, watching movies and drinking alone.

There are many ways for a person to live, and they don't stick to any form. As long as they are comfortable, they will get used to it after a long time.

0 1.

The habit of living alone can be traced back to middle school. I liked a person since I was a child, and finally I had a chance to live alone when I was in junior high school.

Although the school is close to home, I still insist on renting a one-bedroom apartment off campus. Besides staying at school after class, I usually stay alone in the study reading and doing my homework.

Three years of junior high school passed in such a hurry, just like a scholar studying abroad in ancient times, who only read sage books, regardless of the complicated things outside the window.

So living alone took root in my heart.

02.

I stayed in Shanghai for a while a few years ago, and then I went back to my hometown to work.

At first, my friend and I shared a three-bedroom apartment, but it didn't last long. I really didn't like it for the first three months. I was not used to living with others, so I moved out and lived alone.

At that time, I was a little well-off, so I found a two-bedroom apartment in the city so that my friends could rest when they came to play too late occasionally.

During this period, two friends lived together intermittently for several months, and the rest was almost two and a half years when I lived alone. Sometimes when a person is drunk, he goes to bed in a daze, and the TV and lights are on all night without knowing.

At that time, several colleagues in the work unit often looked for houses or shared rooms. The reason is either that they don't get along, or that some trivial things have quarreled.

Therefore, sometimes finding a good roommate is as difficult as finding a partner. It's hard to meet one in the vast sea of people, so it's better to live alone.

Since then, I like living alone.

03.

One person is beautiful, and one person's happiness is at least much simpler than two people.

There is no need to prepare meals for two people and two pairs of chopsticks when eating. When living alone, a dish and a pair of chopsticks are enough.

I don't want to cook when I'm too lazy to move occasionally. I lie in bed and continue my big dream of spring and autumn. How can you have leisure time to care about whether others eat or not?

You can do whatever you want in your space, sleep, lie on the sofa, watch TV, read, write, cook and drink as comfortably as you want, and you don't have to bother to see it or consider other people.

Because it was inconvenient for me to buy food and cook in a lonely nest during the epidemic, I went to a friend's house to eat and drink later. Fortunately, my friends seldom come back, mostly in the dormitory, and most of them are me alone.

One's living habits are really difficult to adapt to other people's habits, so try to get used to one person.

It is important to give yourself a free time and space. Everyone is an individual. Not everyone can accompany us to the end, nor can we stay together all the time, because we have to work and live.

So I like living alone.

04.

Of course, living alone does not necessarily mean living alone all your life. Although it is no problem for a person to live a lifetime, I always believe that people who have the ability to be alone will know how to love.

Osho said this:

Only when you have the ability to be alone can you have the ability to love.

This sounds contradictory, but it is not the case. This is an existing fact:

Only those who have the ability to be alone can not be in a hurry to possess each other, become dependent on each other, do not confine each other to still life, do not need each other like being possessed, love and share, and walk into the deepest part of another person's heart.

So they give each other absolute freedom, because they know that even if the other person leaves, they will still be happy. Your own happiness will not be deprived by the other party, because happiness is not given by the other party.

Schopenhauer once said, be lonely or vulgar.

If it is my choice, vulgarity is essential. We are all amateurs. It is normal to be greedy for money and lust, but loneliness is inevitable. Everyone is an individual. Living alone is lonely and vulgar, but I like it.