There is a saying in the countryside that "a dutiful son is born under a stick, and a loving mother suffers more." Is this sentence reasonable?

I have heard that there is a saying in the countryside: "A dutiful son is born under the stick, and a hero is born under Huang Jing"; I have also heard a saying in the countryside: "A good son gives birth, but a loving mother loses." . I haven't really heard of the proverb in the title, but the meaning is the same. In other words, traditional stick education is better than doting education! There is some truth in this proverb. However, children's education should follow the changes of the times and adjust the education model suitable for children now, which is safer. In ancient times and even feudal society, children's education followed their parents for a long time and they studied late, so parents and children had deep feelings. Some children in ordinary families have no chance to study and receive education all their lives, so family education is particularly important. In the family education environment, under the natural division of labor between the man and the woman, if the child is naughty and disobedient, the mother will severely educate the child, so that the average child can understand the pains of his parents when he grows up, and then be more filial to the elderly. So how nice it is to have a dutiful son! If a mother dotes on her children and is unwilling to beat and scold or repair naughty children, it is easy for her to develop all kinds of bad habits of being lazy, idle and doing nothing, which is equivalent to harming her children. Only a loving mother can defeat her children.

Today's children's education is very different from the previous family education. Today's children go to school early, go out early, and have short contact with their parents in life. It can be said that a 30-year-old person, from birth, spends almost one-third of his time with his parents, and the rest of his time is either studying or working, almost separated from his family. For example, when children are sent to school, they spend little time with their parents except sleeping and eating. To be honest, this short-term emotional cultivation between parents and children is not as deep as that between parents and children in ancient society. It can be understood from the period when ancient people mourned for their parents that despite feudal superstitions, ancient people had deep feelings for their parents, which modern people could not match. Then, in modern family education, parents usually don't "repair" their children because they don't owe them company, spoil them, and let them only know how to take, but don't know how to pay and be grateful. Look at the number of Xiong Haizi incidents in recent years, and you will understand the seriousness of her/their lack of family education.

In fact, the family-based club education in the past is very different from the current educational environment for children. Educate children with the same concept: jade cannot be cut, wood cannot be repaired! Laissez-faire education, determined by children's nature, is a failure; Only family club education is easy to cause children's inferiority, which is not feasible. After all, today's parents really don't have much time to contact their children. Therefore, it is particularly important to combine family education with school education, and stick education with motherly education. On the one hand, the absence of education makes it difficult to educate children with all-round development in morality, intelligence, physique and beauty.