Rich brothers and poor brothers: two lives of brothers and sisters. Should brothers pay for their poverty?

It has always been believed that the disparity between the rich and the poor is due to different starting points, but the documentary "Rich Brother and Poor Brother" tells the story of two brothers who grew up in the same family and have two completely different lives: one is as rich as an enemy and the other is homeless.

My brother Ivan is worth more than 1000 million, and owns three properties: a four-story townhouse in London, a single-family villa in East Sussex in13rd century, and an upper-class community holiday apartment in Barcelona.

My brother David lives in a narrow and messy RV, with no water or electricity. In his brother's words, "I was trapped in a box."

David used to be the man of the hour in the university, but now he lives on a small salary as a coolie. Envy and envy my brother's wealth, but say with empathy: "Living in the lower level is more comfortable than living in the upper level."

Because the gap between the rich and the poor is too big, they have been estranged for 25 years. They can't be together for more than 48 hours.

A variety show of BBC hopes that the two can resolve their conflicts within eight days by exchanging life experiences.

First, the contradiction between the two: the younger brother wants his younger brother to teach him "fish" instead of "fishing"

1, my brother is too demanding.

Four days ago, my brother David went to his brother Ivan's house to experience his brother's life.

The two brothers quarreled as soon as they met. David blamed his brother and promised to buy him a boat, but it didn't work. I think that's how my brother humiliated him and made him look particularly pitiful.

"We did discuss buying a boat, but it was too expensive to send it back in 20 parts." Ivan's brother tried to explain.

But my brother kept complaining and didn't want to listen to his explanation. He felt that his brother wanted to apologize for it.

Brother is careful with every penny. But in the younger brother's view, he thinks that his brother is so rich that it is nothing to buy him a boat. His brother is too stingy.

My friend Xiao told me about his brother recently. When my brother got married, my friend gave him a 5K red envelope. My brother bought a house and gave another 10 thousand. When my brother's child was born, he got another 3K. I usually buy some small gifts and snacks for my brother's children.

Friends have the habit of traveling abroad every year to release work pressure. But every time my brother complains, "You have so much money to travel, why don't you help me?"

My friend's income is not high, and he feels that he has done his brother's duty and thinks that he has a clear conscience.

What kind of life you want, you have to fight for it yourself, so that you can deeply appreciate the joy of success. Only know how to take it, even blood relatives can't stand being consumed for a long time.

The younger brother thinks that his brother's success is due to luck.

David attended a gay association party founded by his brother, an art reception held by a charity, and an equestrian meeting at the racecourse run by his brother Ivan. David enjoys this kind of upper-class life and thanks his brother for taking him to experience it.

But before that, he said, "I don't like the feeling of being surrounded by wealth." David's words are inconsistent.

He is like a fox who can't eat grapes, comforting himself with "grapes are sour"

Lu Xun's True Story of Ah Q vividly explains this spirit of self-consolation. This "Ah Q spirit" is also called "spiritual victory method".

David thinks his brother's success is due to his luck, and he is eager to live his brother's life.

I have tried many occupations: real estate agency, sales, teacher, puppet actor, etc. But every job failed to make him live a good life, so it didn't last long.

He hates his brother's wealth and says he is an evil capitalist. At the same time, I am eager to live my brother's life, but I deceive myself and say that I enjoy my present life.

David thinks he hasn't succeeded yet, because the time hasn't come yet. If something goes wrong, you can justify yourself with the spirit of Ah Q and always wait for God's care.

My brother tried to help his brother out of trouble many times.

Ivan's brother said, "if David is willing to work hard, he may already have a car chain repair shop." I always wanted to lead him forward, but he gave up halfway. I really hope he can live a good life like me. "

Ivan also donated money to David many times.

1) Sponsor my brother to publish a book.

David has been wandering in South America and India for a long time, addicted to a hallucinogenic drug called Kuteng water. After detoxification, he spent 18 months writing a book about ayahuasca, and his brother Ivan printed 1000 copies for him.

At the launch of the new book, my brother Ivan mobilized friends around him to join in. However, David doesn't know the time. He is three hours behind schedule.

The failure of the new book launch was expected. Even if David talked about it, no one wanted to buy it. Finally, he reluctantly gave a copy.

David has a lazy attitude towards life, no planning, a weak sense of time, and can't distinguish between priorities. He has a gift for sales, but he doesn't face up to his own advantages and use them.

2) silently pay for my brother.

My brother asked me to borrow 30,000 pounds for business, and my brother immediately sent me a check. But my brother soon found out that my brother just wanted money.

David doesn't really want to start a business and has no specific plans for the future. I just think my brother is so rich that he should be responsible for his own life. Ivan is very tired.

Ivan gave David almost 10 before and after. He paid an expensive medical bill for his brother David and paid off his debts, but he didn't tell David about these things. Although he wanted to tell David, he was worried about his brother's inferiority and finally chose silence.

David has no idea about financial management, and always asks his brother Ivan to help him clean up the mess. Ask for it blindly, and take my brother's contribution for granted.

3) Try to persuade my brother to take the right path.

Four days later, my brother Ivan walked into my brother David's life. There is no bathroom, no water, only a bed in the messy RV. If you need "convenience", just solve it behind the bushes.

Ivan saw his brother's embarrassment, and he advised his brother David to find a stable job, at least with a house instead of a small RV.

David said he had a job, and his job was to do odd jobs at a nearby construction site.

Ivan was also pleased to see David's serious work attitude. He also said that he tried to persuade David to use this passion to create something valuable.

On the other hand, David always talks about his pseudoscience and those empty gods. Ivan said helplessly that he could not communicate effectively with his brother.

During the Three Kingdoms period, Liu Bei entrusted his son Adou to Zhuge Liang, hoping that he could help Adou make a difference. But Liu Bei also knew that his son was short of talents, so he said to Zhuge Liang, "If A Dou doesn't live up to expectations, he will take his place."

Zhuge Liang did not have the idea of "replacing". He kept his promise and helped Adou wholeheartedly. It's a pity that Adou relies heavily on Zhuge Liang in everything, but he plays games with the world, enjoys it, and has no enterprising heart. Finally, Zhuge Liang broke down from overwork and died in Shu.

Even with the best resources, if you don't work hard, others will be helpless.

Escape is not the way, and self-comfort is not a good medicine. Bravely facing the true self is the performance of the strong.

Second, what causes two completely different lives for compatriots and brothers?

Ivan and David are brothers. His father is a policeman and his mother is a bank clerk. They have the same family background and equal educational opportunities, but they have completely different lives, which can be found from their growth trajectory.

1. Different attitudes determine different lives.

1) Ivan's brother

In childhood, David was more popular with his biological father and stepfather. Ivan said he was jealous of his younger brother. But it is precisely because of this that Ivan wants to be stable and succeed.

Ivan has been helping people walk dogs and mow grass since he was eight years old. Deliver newspapers in the morning and work in the supermarket at night. He said: "Adult life is a replica of childhood."

Ivan earned his first bucket of gold at the age of 2/kloc-0. But he didn't stop at his small achievements, but worked harder and finally achieved financial freedom.

Jim rogers, an internationally renowned investor, also said, "I was not smart since I was a child, but I started to be very, very diligent." Rogers often works for six people by himself.

The so-called shortcut to life is to work harder than others.

2) Brother David

David, the younger brother who is one year older than his brother, tries to make money, but he sabotages everywhere and sells pornographic books.

One year before graduation, I went to visit my brother Ivan, and when I saw Ivan's upper-class life, he was both envious and jealous. But instead of encouraging himself with his brother's success, he chose to give up on himself and wait for God's care.

David used to be an apprentice in car repair. /kloc-when he graduated in October, he learned that his brother was well off and decided to terminate his studies. Although I have made a lot of efforts to pass the exam before, I will graduate soon.

Because of this incident, Ivan always felt guilty, thinking that his brother had left another life because of himself.

Later, my mother told Ivan the truth: it was David's choice. When he visited Ivan, he had given up his apprenticeship as a car mechanic.

People who give up years of hard work easily will also give up their lives easily.

2. Hobbies determine the direction of life.

My brother Ivan is an animal lover. He has five horses and rides them in turn from time to time to relax his busy body and mind. Besides, Ivan has two dogs and a parrot at home.

Ivan is also an art lover. His home is full of all kinds of artworks. He is also a member of the board of directors of Prince Will Art Organization.

He is obsessed with grotesque science and often pays attention to things that have no scientific basis. For example, he always believed that a rogue planet would approach the earth on July 1 1 and cause an earthquake.

David believes in all kinds of magical powers and thinks that everything that happens in the dark is God's will. Just as he believes that the reason why the last RV burned down was God's arrangement; When he was in india tourism, the beads on Dai's left neck were broken, which was also caused by the divine power of "Ten Immortals".

It is easier to succeed if you make friends with successful people.

My brother David regularly attends meaningless anti-government meetings every month, but the members have nothing to say. They question the provisions of the constitution, but they can't come up with good ideas to replace them.

He thinks David should live a better life instead of wasting his time on these meaningless things.

He really wants to give his brother a push and save him from the mire. But every time I discuss these questions, David doesn't answer them directly.

David is always surrounded by some negative energy friends, expressing support and recognition for his strange behavior.

Ivan said, "This is David's world. Even if I wanted to expose it, he immediately said that he was not prepared to talk about these things, so I left him alone. "

As the saying goes, birds of a feather flock together. Get along with people who fail, and you will gradually become pessimistic and negative. Being with people with positive energy will gradually become proactive and eventually succeed.

Third, swapping lives does not mean that you can live an ideal life.

There's an old saying in China, save the poor if you are in emergency. Here's the fish. It'll be empty soon. Teach them to fish, flow through the fruits of hard work and let them taste happiness and sweetness.

Gou Jing, who was frequently searched recently, was replaced by two college entrance examination results. However, she was not depressed about it. Through hard work, she gained a firm foothold in the e-commerce industry and lived a good life. The person who goes to school instead of her is not as good as her.

Even if they exchange lives, excellent people can start all over again and try to live the life they want. And those who have no goal in life and do things without planning may not be able to sail to the finish line smoothly if they are given a good boat.

Just like many people who won the lottery have no plan and purpose to spend money, they may end up spending all their money and returning to their original lives, which may be worse than before.

A few years ago, Adrian Bayford, a scot, won a grand prize of 654.38 billion pounds at the age of 48, but he didn't get a happy life. He divorced his wife soon after winning the lottery. He thought that money could buy love, but none of the people he pursued were successful. Because he can't manage money and is extravagant, his life is worse than before winning the prize.

Thinking that money can change your destiny. In fact, knowing how to use your own advantages to run your own life and work hard in the right direction is the final winner.

Four. conclusion

A successful life does not mean having a lot of wealth. Is to recognize your goals and live the life you want through continuous efforts.

In fact, David is not without advantages:

1, he is good at communicating with people;

2. He has strong sales promotion ability;

He is full of enthusiasm for new things.

But David didn't make full use of his advantages. His mind is spent on some illusory and unrealistic things.

Luck always favors those who work hard. Opportunities are not waiting, but created by ourselves.

Eight days of cohabitation really brought the two brothers closer together. However, their life of disparity between the rich and the poor has not changed qualitatively.

Only by correctly recognizing your own advantages and disadvantages and using them can you realize your self-worth and finally succeed.

I hope my brother David can wake up as soon as possible, make the right choice and harvest a happy life.

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