Almost 90% of the psychological problems of adolescent children are caused by their parents-anxiety.

Because I love education, I like psychology. In my son's high school for three years, I used the psychological knowledge I learned to help my son and other students solve a psychological problem. Therefore, my parents and children affectionately call me madong!

Deeply touched, in the past six years, almost 90% of children's psychological counseling cases were caused by parents.

Nowadays, parents' education methods are mostly preaching and control, which can easily cause children's rebellious psychology, especially adolescent children.

When contacting with students' anxiety, they seldom tell parents that their children are under great pressure, and few really agree with them, and even fewer can agree with them and take action. Parents who agree with them and take action are even rarer.

People, whether adults or adolescent children, love to hear their own truth.

Due to the characteristics of physical and psychological development, adolescent children began to strongly demand independence. During this period, their growth is to be independent and controlled by their parents, and their self-awareness begins to develop dramatically.

I came into contact with an anxious child last year. My father and mother came together. It seems that parents are more cautious and feel that it is really not easy to be a parent.

Parents said that due to the pressure of life, the child was brought up by his grandmother before he was three years old, and the couple went out to work.

The emergence of anxiety is mostly related to the sense of security. If we return to anxious children, many of them were brought up by the elderly when their parents were not around.

That is, in the most important attachment period of children's growth and development, the psychological construction in this period has not been completed.

Just a child with insufficient emotions, the content of divergent thinking is longing and expectation.

When I had a long class at home, I always advocated that husband and wife study together. Parents must study first if they want their children to change. By changing yourself first, then affecting children. If you just ask children blindly, there is only one result: disappointment.

The fact that the online class is over proves that it is really better for couples to study together.

It is a common phenomenon that the mother is the main person in charge of children's education in family education. But in the mode of thinking, 70% or 80% of women's thinking and decision-making modes are perceptual.

The mother's mood is often uncontrollable and habitual anxiety, so the biggest trigger of children's anxiety may come from the mother.

Anxiety always exists in life, and there are only strong and weak points, and individual psychological endurance is different. As long as we master the causes, characteristics and solutions of anxiety, we will gradually heal ourselves through continuous growth.

Then, talk about the psychological feelings and physical manifestations of anxiety:

In recent years, most children who have been exposed to anxiety show psychological feelings such as excitement, worry, anxiety, impatience, panic, worry, fidgeting, irritability, pressure, hesitation and so on.

What does your body do when you are anxious?

There are usually a series of physical symptoms, such as stomach discomfort, top-heaviness, muscle tension, panic, difficulty sleeping, rapid heartbeat, trembling hands, weakness, sweating, easy to catch a cold and have a fever, backache, headache and neck pain.

What about adolescent anxiety?

In career planning, there is a clover model. Explain that the anxiety at work is due to lack of ability. When personal ability can't meet the job requirements, anxiety will appear.

The solution at this time is to explore the ability.

There are four solutions: accept, accept your own lack of ability, and straighten your mind; Adjust your goals. Too high a goal will make you anxious and lower your requirements. To improve your ability, you can deeply reflect on yourself, what aspects you should improve, and whether you can improve your working status; Give full play to advantages, foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, rather than learn from each other's strengths and make full use of key capabilities in their core areas.

When a person makes these problems clear, the anxiety at work will naturally be alleviated.

The same is true for students. If students' learning is regarded as the work they want to complete, similar anxiety will appear when their skills can't meet the requirements of learning "work".

This is similar to the anxiety of adults at work. Therefore, we can also use the clover model to solve the work anxiety of adults and improve it, which can completely alleviate and alleviate the anxiety of students.

Then, through continuous study and practice, gradually reduce the frequency of anxiety and actively respond to the arrival of anxiety.

Secondly, learn to learn from experienced people. If we find our children anxious, we can talk to our elders. Anxiety disorder, like many diseases, is easily influenced by family inheritance. See if the elders have had such an experience and have a good method.

Third, find the root of children's anxiety. Anxiety is induced, either because of an experience or because of a sight. Most anxious children are naturally sensitive. As mentioned earlier, the initial anxiety is likely to come from a lack of security.

Sensitive children are insecure. Such children are prone to make a mountain out of a molehill, and a small matter may have a far-reaching impact on them. Maybe this is the cause of his anxiety.

As parents, we should try our best to find the initial cause of children's anxiety through study and really grasp all the anxiety.

Finally, improve children's self-confidence and give them more sense of security. Let the unfinished psychological construction make up the examination paper when the child is in adolescence.

There is a saying that if you have educational regrets, God has given you a chance to make up for them, and that is the adolescence of children.

Through the above analysis, do parents know the reasons for their or their children's anxiety? It is probably the result of the comprehensive effects of family inheritance, living environment and growth environment.

Ok, finally, let's talk about the most effective method: action is the root of curing anxiety. No matter what your parents are in now, you can grow up at any time. Action is the root of curing anxiety. For the sake of the children, act quickly!