Find someone you can talk to.

I have seen a sentence before: "When two people come together, the face value determines whether you can be together, and the internal determines how far you can go."

Many people will say that who came together because of the weather, location and people is actually not entirely right. I really meet the right person because I can talk and get along well.

My friend Xiao Su and her boyfriend have been together for half a year and finally broke up. One likes to play games and get together with friends, and the other likes to spend his little romance with each other. Chat men can't get her points, and they can talk to death every time, leading to quarrels.

What Xiao Su needs is a sense of security. What he wants is a little girl who always listens and snuggles up. It's not that they don't love anymore. It's just that no one wants to bow in love. They don't know what the other person really needs, just to win the dominance of love. The two men stumbled and faded as time went on.

Two people who really get along will think of each other and their needs. I am not immersed in my own world, painting the future of two people, but ignoring the real present.

Not only love, but also chatting between friends is equally important. It's almost like love, probably because two people can always find intersection together. Only when the three views are tuned to the same frequency can you hear each other's voice.

Fat people have been good friends for many years. He doesn't communicate much at ordinary times, and occasionally exchanges recent events on qq. But every time we meet, we can talk late, just like hitting it off at first sight. Some people say that when you get married, you must find someone who can understand you. When I say make friends, it's the same.

The fat man said he wanted to travel together, so we'll meet and communicate immediately and set the itinerary.

He likes to travel, and whenever he goes to a destination, he will bring local specialties.

Real friends chat with each other, for example, I am busy sorting out documents and he sends messages. I clicked on it, and it was a street brand link. I replied, why did you suddenly think of buying something for me? He sent me several more links and asked me which one I liked. After I carefully selected it, he replied, well, I like this, too. Thank you for your advice. I said fuck off, and I just turned him off.

In fact, chatting between lovers and friends is another form of three views. What are the three views? The official explanation is world outlook, outlook on life and values. Generally speaking, it is: "What do you think of the world, what do you think people live for, and what do you think is the most meaningful".

With people who don't agree with the three views, the life you yearn for is unrealistic by ta. You like reading and share your reading experience. Ta said, "There is nothing to see in the book. It is better to watch TV series." It's better to talk about people. Ta, come on, sometimes we have to accept our fate.

Some people are like this. If they don't agree with your three views, they won't feel comfortable talking. Ta's remarks sound ridiculous to you, and your dream Ta seems illusory.

Understand? Being with people with different views, whether it is love or friendship, will make people feel bored. Only when people communicate at the same level can they speak freely.

What is the most comfortable friendship? I think it should be, even if we haven't seen each other for a long time, we will still feel the next day together, and there are endless topics. Every discussion, the other party can stop at it, and there is a complete tacit understanding.

We haven't been in love before, which is a bit childish. We always have such expectations for love and the other half, and there are many rules and regulations.

I always hope that the other half is gentle and considerate, clever and clever.

I always hope that the other half is tall and handsome, and my family understands you.

Maybe you meet your ideal type, and after a long time, many problems will be exposed. It's not that the other person is not good enough, but that you are really not suitable.

Many people will say how important three views are in love. If you really meet a person with different views, you will know that what you want is always the opposite of what he thinks, just like two opposite trains. Living under the same roof all day without the same words brings more bad feelings.

If you really meet a person who meets the three views, even if there are small differences, you will make changes for each other:

You are Wen Qing who likes reading. He is engineering male and likes to specialize in research. You are infatuated with the energy in his works, and he is attracted by your literary atmosphere.

You like quiet, prefer to be alone on weekends and live in your own small world. He likes to be lively and often gets together with friends in groups of three or five.

Two people together, just like the gears on the engine are constantly running in. You try to fit into his circle, and he tries to change his lifestyle. Both sides can tolerate each other's shortcomings, make changes to each other, do not excessively grasp each other's small shortcomings, and see each other's luminous points.

This is the most important point of the similarity between the three views, which is more important than any sweet words, because words can test the authenticity in time, and you can decide whether the three views fit the present and whether you can go on. Many times, it's not that we don't love each other, nor that we don't love each other deeply enough, but that's why we love each other so deeply.

Really wait for the person who meets the three views, you will put aside all scruples to fall in love, and when everything is mature, you will get married and have children, and you will grow old together.