What made you change from being enthusiastic towards your parents-in-law to being indifferent?

My parents-in-law never regarded me as one of their own, which made me turn from enthusiastic to them. When my husband and I bought a house, we saved most of the down payment ourselves. My parents-in-law paid 100,000, and later we bought and renovated the house. When my parents-in-law found out that they had no money for furniture, they planned to give another 20,000 yuan, but they did not give it at the time. When I went to his house during the Chinese New Year, my mother-in-law gave me 20,000 yuan and said that she would give you 20,000 yuan as a bride price when you get married next year.

My smart mother-in-law just took advantage of the situation and gave me the money for our furniture as a gift. I accepted it without saying anything. The bride price was gone. After that, except for the 800 yuan change fee given at the wedding, my parents-in-law never gave me a penny, nor did I buy a needle or thread. Wedding jewelry? What is that? Wedding gift money. My husband and I have been away from home for many years and work in other places. We don’t have many classmates and friends from my hometown, but there are a few here.

My parents-in-law put everything away intact. I don’t even know how much money I spent in one visit. After the wedding, I was washing my hair. My parents-in-law gave my husband 4,000 yuan while I was washing my hair. They said it was our share and they took the rest. I wasn't even present during this process. To put it bluntly, they didn't take me seriously at all.

I was stupid at the time and didn’t even feel unhappy. But when I thought about it later, I felt that it was wrong. You can take the money as long as you want. You should at least make it clear in front of me. My mother-in-law’s family will be at the wedding. It’s given to me and my husband’s classmates and friends.