What should children do if they procrastinate, dawdle, and lose concentration in their homework?

Procrastination of children's homework is a big worry for parents to study with their children. In 100 parents, at least 99 parents complained about the inefficiency of their children's homework. A friend of mine often tells me about her son. When he was doing his homework, he itched here, hurt there, moved around, picked the eraser and pulled his hair, and never stopped from beginning to end. It's no use urging, yelling or threatening.

It's really useless If you want to fundamentally solve the problem of children's homework delay, you still have to prescribe the right medicine. The first analysis: Why do children linger? Only by finding the root cause of children's procrastination can we find the corresponding effective methods.

So, why do children dawdle when doing their homework?

Generally speaking, there are three reasons: (1) it is easy to be disturbed by the environment and the attention is not concentrated; (2) Children feel that homework is too much or too difficult and are afraid of difficulties; (3) Children lack time concept and time management ability. In view of these three reasons, this paper gives corresponding suggestions and methods to solve children's procrastination.

Before talking about this topic, we must first have a basic understanding of the length of children's concentration.

Generally speaking, the concentration time of children aged 3-6 is 10- 15 minutes; For children aged 7- 10, the concentration time is about 20 minutes; /kloc-children over 0/0 can concentrate for more than 30 minutes, with individual differences. Therefore, it is normal for a child to be distracted or do some little tricks during the process of writing homework. We don't have to worry too much, as long as he is not often distracted.

Compared with concentration, most children are easily distracted in the process of doing homework, but there are too many environmental interference factors. Children are more easily disturbed than adults. This has something to do with the child's brain structure. The ability to filter irrelevant interference information is an advanced function of the brain, and the specific functional area is located in the prefrontal cortex of the brain. But this part of the brain develops slowly and will not mature until 14 years old. This means that children's anti-interference ability is relatively weak throughout the primary school stage.

We know that a good learning environment is conducive to cultivating children's good study habits. So, what kind of learning environment should we create to solve children's procrastination? Parents are advised to start from two aspects, one is the physical environment and the other is the behavioral environment.

Let's talk about the physical environment first. The room where children study should be as simple and quiet as possible. Too many elements easily distract children. Especially children's desks, extra stationery such as erasers and pencils should be taken away, and toys or extracurricular books should not be placed; The furnishings of the room should be neat and orderly, and the study area and the information area should be divided. The study area is a place to read books and do homework, and the material area is a place to put books and toys. A clean and simple learning environment can greatly reduce the possibility of children being distracted.

Behavior environment mainly refers to the behavior of parents and other family members. Parents and other family members should try to avoid communicating with their children when they are doing their homework. In the process of accompanying children to write homework, we should pay more attention to observation and remind them in time to avoid talking to children and disturbing them when they concentrate on writing homework.

If your child can't know how to ask you questions, you can tell your child in advance, mark the questions that you can't do first, and then concentrate on the discussion after all the homework is finished. Parents, don't be tempted to point out the maze as soon as you see your child make a mistake. In particular, don't ask if you want to drink water before asking if you want to eat some fruit when your child is concentrating on his homework. All these interruptions, whether intentional or unintentional, are extremely harmful to children's concentration.

Of course, examples speak louder than words. A good family atmosphere and the influence of parents' role models on weekdays are also important for children. Parents have a sense of rhythm and purpose, and children are not easy to delay. If parents are very focused on their work and study, their children's learning efficiency is usually higher. We can never give others what we don't have What kind of children do you want to raise? Please be such a parent first, and be an example of children's words, deeds and values.

Through observation and understanding, we find that children procrastinate because they feel that their homework is too much or too difficult. What we need to do is to help children overcome their fear of difficulties, reduce the pressure of homework and enable them to take action.

The key is to teach children how to decompose tasks and turn big tasks into concrete, clear and executable small tasks. We can use the "list method" to disassemble the task and make the operation clear at a glance.

Let me talk about the working principle of "list method":

First, let the children take out a piece of paper and sort out the homework of each subject with them. Then, according to the child's concentration time, all the homework is divided into appropriate small tasks and written on paper. Finally, discuss the sequence of tasks with your children, and let them write their homework in the order they feel good, and then finish it in turn. When using the "list method", we need to grasp the following principles:

Parents and children fully discuss how long it takes to complete a small task, how to plan the workload of each small task, and the order of completing the task. In this process, you can give your opinions, but try to let the children make decisions and let them have a sense of control over their homework. After children are familiar with how to make lists and get into the habit, parents can let their children make their own lists.

As the saying goes, everything is difficult at the beginning. When a child does his homework, it is easy to hit his self-confidence if he encounters a problem that he can't do at first. Therefore, the order of completing tasks should be based on the principle of letting children act. Generally speaking, we suggest putting the relatively simple and easy parts or subjects that children are interested in first. We can also set the workload of the first small task a little smaller, that is, "easy first, then difficult."

Of course, the arrangement of the order should also be discussed and decided with the children. No matter what order, the purpose is to let the children do it first. When the child easily completes the first small task, give encouragement immediately, so that the child is naturally willing to continue to do it in the joy and sense of accomplishment of completing the task. With more and more tasks completed, his confidence and state will get better and better.

Many times, children are not very disciplined in doing their homework. They write English for a while, Chinese for a while, and English for a while, which virtually increases the frequency of switching and makes it easier to distract attention. Therefore, when arranging the homework sequence, in addition to the above-mentioned principle of easy before difficult, it is suggested to complete all the homework in one subject as far as possible before doing another. This will help children think more deeply about what they have learned.

The discipline order of each assignment can also be basically fixed. For example, if children like math, they can form the habit of doing math first and then doing the next subject after finishing it. Determining the order of subjects can form an inertia and give children a sense of certainty and control. The so-called "habit becomes nature", slowly, children can finish their homework naturally.

"List method" can not only help children turn vague "big tasks" into "small tasks" that are clearly visible and confident to complete, but also help children overcome their fear of difficulties. It can also help children develop the habit of planning in advance and cultivate their overall planning ability. When a child completes tasks one by one according to his own plan, his autonomy and self-confidence will be cultivated.

Many times, children are not unwilling to do their homework. But there is no concept of time. I said 10 minutes was fun, and I lost track of time while playing. Half an hour passed quickly. In view of this situation, my first suggestion to my parents is to establish regular work and rest habits and try to fix the daily work and rest. Then put off the bedtime and arrange the time from school to bedtime.

Children's irregular schedules can lead to a vague concept of time. For example, without a relatively fixed sleeping time, children can't use this time to arrange homework and activities backwards: it doesn't matter if they do it slowly anyway, just stay up late. Take a rest when you go home from school, but what time is it? Maybe it's seven or eight after dinner.

There must be clear time nodes in the key links of daily life, otherwise time management will be impossible. Therefore, we should help children to establish regular work and rest habits.

The second suggestion is to do your homework first and then move freely.

When I say do your homework first, I don't mean to put down your schoolbag and start doing your homework immediately after school. Children can also drink some water first and have a rest, but not for too long. Never turn on the TV for a while and play games for a while, which will easily make children excited, addicted and unable to stop.

Do your homework before you play, which is also a basic principle of time management: do what you have to do first. This arrangement, first, the time to write homework is more controllable; Second, children can have fun after finishing their homework. To a certain extent, in order to have more free time, children will try their best to improve their homework efficiency. Of course, we should also remind them of the quality of their homework.

The third suggestion is to use pomodoro technique to improve the concentration and efficiency of homework.

"pomodoro technique" is a very classic time management method, and many people may have heard of it and used it. Its core operation method is to use the tomato clock as a timer and set a "tomato time". For adults, 25 minutes is generally recommended. During the "tomato time", you must concentrate on your work, and you are not allowed to do anything unrelated to the task halfway until the tomato bell rings, take a break, and then enter the next tomato time.

It is very effective to use pomodoro technique to manage children's homework time. However, in the process of use, we should pay attention to the following points: First, we can flexibly set the "tomato time" according to the child's concentration time. For example, for children in the first grade of primary school, it can be set to 15 minutes; For children in the upper grades of primary school, it can be set to 20 minutes; Secondly, we should work with our children to determine the amount of tasks that match the set cycle. At this time, we can take a small task disassembled by "list method" as the task quantity of a tomato time. Then, after a tomato cycle, rest for 5- 10 minutes, and then enter the next tomato time. Every four tomato breaks, you can have a rest.

We can regard pomodoro technique as a game and a challenge to stimulate children's interest. When children finish a tomato time, it will be better to give encouragement and affirmation in time.

Children's procrastination is often not caused by a single reason. So in practice, we can combine the methods mentioned in this lesson.

At the end of the article, I want to emphasize with my parents that any child's progress and growth cannot be separated from their parents' encouragement. To change children's procrastination, parents need to follow a principle: to be supporters of children, not managers.

The manager will only ask you how to do it, and everything depends on the result. Good education is constructive. When children make progress, give them "objective and concrete" encouragement in time to help them consolidate the achievements of progress; When children do badly, don't criticize and scold them too much, and don't impose your own ideas on them. For children above grade three or four, parents should try their best to let the children make their own decisions and strengthen their sense of control over things, which will be more helpful to stimulate their motivation.