The first time I went to my boyfriend's house, I was hinted by my prospective mother-in-law to wash the dishes. How to deal with it with high emotional intelligence?

A good friend once said, "When I first went to my mother-in-law's house, my mother asked me to take the initiative to help her mother-in-law wash the dishes after dinner. But my mother-in-law wouldn't let me wash it, saying that I was a guest and only had a few bowls, so I didn't need to wash them. At that time, I felt that my mother-in-law was very warm and strengthened my confidence in marrying my husband. I have been married for 7 years now and have been living with my mother-in-law since I had children. Our mother-in-law relationship has always been very good. "

The first time I went to my boyfriend's house, my prospective mother-in-law suggested washing dishes. The practice of high emotional intelligence girls is very hard and reassuring, which should be the reaction of most mother-in-law. Daughter-in-law's first visit always belongs to the guests. Where can she let the guests wash the dishes? However, a few mother-in-law are unhealthy and want to show their "authority" or "dissatisfaction" by letting their daughter-in-law do the dishes.

The mother-in-law in today's story is such a woman. The prospective daughter-in-law went to her house for the first time, suggesting that the girl washed the dishes after dinner, and the result was self-defeating Instead, she lost her daughter-in-law's initial respect for her. Listen to this story and see how hard and cool the girls are. Girls Xiaoxue and Ayu are high school classmates. Xiaoxue is white and beautiful, and her academic performance is good. She is the "Bai Yueguang" in the hearts of many boys, but Xiaoxue never falls in love early. She knows that her family is poor. Only by learning this road can she not be distracted. She must go to college wholeheartedly.

Ayu is also a local "rich second generation". He likes Xiao Xue because he plays happily every day and doesn't study hard. However, in front of girls like Xiaoxue, he is somewhat "afraid of meaning". He only dares to appreciate it from a distance, not to approach it easily. Until the end of the college entrance examination, Xiaoxue was admitted to a key university as she wished. That summer vacation was her happiest and most relaxing day. As long as a classmate asks her out to play, she is happy to "go on an appointment". She was more obsessed with this light snow, so she summoned up her courage to confess. To his great surprise, Xiaoxue agreed on the spot. At that moment, she felt that she was the happiest person in the world. He will put aside all his "bad habits" and love Xiaoxue.

So is she. He applied for a college in the same city as Xiaoxue. In college, Ayu was called "model boyfriend" by Xiaoxue's roommate. After four years of college, Xiaoxue continued to take the postgraduate entrance examination, and Ayu went home to "inherit the family business". After another three years, Xiaoxue graduated from graduate school and prepared for the exam. At this time, she didn't want to wait any longer. He wants to get married quickly and Xiaoxue goes home. Therefore, when Xiaoxue learned that she was admitted to the doctoral program, she readily agreed that Xiaoxue and Xiaoxue would continue their relationship. Ayu accompanied Xiaoxue on her "graduation trip" and took a group of beautiful wedding photos with her.

After Xiaoxue agreed to propose marriage to Ayu, Ayu wanted to get a marriage certificate and hold a wedding as soon as possible. In fact, he told his parents about Xiaoxue a long time ago, but his parents always said, "Take a look first!" " "On this day, she went home with a light snow. Ayu's parents are satisfied with Xiaoxue, but they care about Xiaoxue and want Ayu to marry another "suitable girl". But they know that she is stubborn, and every little thing in her life has her own opinion, let alone a big marriage. My son will never marry the daughter-in-law they appointed. They just want Xiaoxue to back down and break up after a conflict.

For the first time, Ayu's parents were polite and warm to Xiaoxue because of their son's face. But after dinner, Ayu's parents immediately left the dining table, sat on the sofa and turned on the TV, suggesting that Xiaoxue clear the table and wash the dishes. She didn't see what her parents meant, but Xiaoxue's EQ and IQ were online. How could she not know that this is a "failure" given by her mother-in-law! Xiaoxue is a diligent girl. She often helps her mother with housework at home. She also likes the comfortable feeling after cleaning the house. She never thinks housework is a heavy burden.

But what her mother-in-law did, Xiaoxue felt wrong. Xiaoxue thought, "I wanted to wash dishes when I first came." Washing dishes is a small matter, but your attitude towards me is the big thing. "Xiaoxue took out her mobile phone and sent a WeChat to her girlfriend, saying," Call me immediately and say that she is anxious to find me. "My best friend immediately obeyed orders and called. Xiaoxue said on the spot that my friend was in urgent need of help and left immediately without washing dishes. She didn't see the "contest" between her mother-in-law and her daughter-in-law, but she still had a good time there. I heard Xiaoxue was leaving, but I got up at once to see her off. After they came out, Xiaoxue said to Ayu, "My friend is fine. I deliberately made an excuse to leave. Can't you see that your mother wants me to do the dishes? Think about yourself. Will your mother watch TV immediately after dinner at your house? Who usually washes the dishes in your family? "

Ayu, I thought it over carefully and said, "Many times, after we finish eating, my mother washes the dishes directly. She is a little strange today. " Xiaoxue said: "My mother has been bullied by my grandmother all her life, and there are always contradictions at home. The feelings of parents have been exhausted by the contradiction between mother and daughter. I don't want to get into such a contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. I just want to live a quiet and stable life after marriage. I never think that the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is trivial. She is your real mother, and I can never compare with her. You can't go out for me and your mother. I don't want you to do this either.

So after marriage, even if we live by ourselves, we will always associate with your parents. After having children, we will have more contact. I hope everyone will pay attention to these issues. When I first came to your house, your mother treated me like this, which was obviously dissatisfied with me. In the future, if you "stand by" on the issue of mother-in-law, be a "good person" and even help your mother talk about me. I won't marry you! You should face up to this problem now! If you want to resolve the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, I'll listen to what you say makes sense. I will try my best to do what the younger generation should do. "She went to Xiao Xue." When I wanted to regret getting married, I said anxiously, "I'll make it clear to my mother. I will never marry you in my life. I will solve the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. "

When Ayu came home, she asked her mother if Xiaoxue wanted to wash the dishes. At first her mother said no, but later she admitted it. She clearly told my mother that she must marry Xiaoxue and accused her of being rude. At first, she wanted to fight her daughter-in-law. Seeing her son's insistence, Ayu's parents finally gave in, because such a "strong" son did not dare to neglect Xiaoxue easily. Ayu and Xiaoxue got married. Xiaoxue found a job with an annual salary of several hundred thousand after graduation. My in-laws have a good attitude towards Xiaoxue and always say, "My son has a good eye and found such a good wife!" " "Light snow has been smiling, never mentioned" washing dishes ",but she didn't forget.