Why are there so many singles getting divorced, no matter in cities or rural areas?

The divorce rate is very high now. This is indeed a very common phenomenon in our time! This is the tragedy of our time! We all know that divorced couples were very rare in the past. So, why is there such a common phenomenon of divorce now?

First of all, let’s take a look at the purpose of people getting married in ancient times. The ancients married for the sake of morality, ethics, and the happiness of the family! What is morality? When two people get married, they should be filial to their parents and be friendly to their relatives! What is human relations? There are yin and yang in heaven and earth. Men belong to yang and women belong to yin. The union of men and women is natural. What is seeking happiness for the family? Men and women get married to form a new family, and they jointly cultivate offspring with both ability and political integrity, who will contribute to the family and society when they grow up. Moreover, ancient people had many wedding etiquettes to reflect the solemnity of marriage. We also have to go to the church, ask heaven and earth to be witnesses, ask parents of both parties to be witnesses, and ask relatives and friends to be witnesses. Such a complicated wedding is to tell the newlyweds that they must not divorce easily. Therefore, the marriages of the ancients were a combination of ethics and principles. He is sensible and knows his duties and responsibilities. With these concepts as the purpose of marriage between men and women, how can there be divorce?

Now let’s take a look at the purpose of modern people getting married. Modern people get married for love. What is love? Love arises from your heart, and the nature of your heart is constantly changing. We all have experienced that you will be happy and sad at one time; you will be filial to your parents at another time, and you will be against your parents at another time; you will be a good friend with someone at one time, and you may become an enemy with someone at another time. The same is true for love. Two people who loved each other so much yesterday have broken up, divorced, or even become enemies today. Therefore, this love is fake and unreliable at all. To put it more bluntly, love is selfish. Why do two people fall in love? That's because both parties can get what they want from the other party, such as care, comfort, material, lust, etc. It is still good as the ancients said, "If we use benefits to make friends, the benefits will be scattered; if we use power to make friends, we will fall apart if the power goes away; if we make friends with power, we will give up when the power is lost; if we make friends with love, the passing of love will hurt others; only with hearts to make friends, we will be indifferent and clear our aspirations." , you will never lose a friend!” What is true love? True love is selfless, dedication and giving! Once people have selfish motives, they will seek their own interests and have conflicts and disputes!

Our ancients were very wise, which can be seen from the words they made. Let's take a look at the word "marriage". The word "knot" is an auspicious word "ji" with two twists and turns next to it. The word "marriage" is a dizzy word plus the word "female". When you see the word "marriage", it reminds you not to be entangled or dizzy. When you see the word "marriage", you will be enlightened!

Through comparison, we can understand why the divorce rate is so high now. It is all caused by different people's hearts. If the attitude is different, the results will be different. I hope everyone can be righteous, manage their marriages well, and make the world more warm!

Hello, do you want to say: "No matter whether in cities or rural areas, there are many single people now, but there are still many divorced people", right? I'm from Yuxi Guan People's Life. Let me tell you my current views on this kind of marriage: 1. Marriage is about two people maintaining each other. Only when two people respect each other as guests, respect and love each other, can they last long.

2. Although there are many singles now, some people think that the cooked duck cannot fly when they are married, so they go their own way, expose their prototype, and do not cherish their feelings, which is why so many divorces are caused:

1. Domestic violence tends to lead to a high divorce rate;

2. Infidelity within marriage causes marriages to break up and the divorce rate to increase;

3. Bad habits cause Divorce, such as prostitution, laziness, unwillingness to make progress, idleness, etc., are all factors for divorce;

4. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not harmonious, plus a mother's son, who has been doing this for a long time, will inevitably It will lead to divorce;

5. If you don’t know much about each other before marriage, after marriage, the two people have different personalities and habits, complain about each other, or one party cannot be tolerant and considerate. If this continues, divorce will naturally occur. This is the so-called divorce caused by emotional discord;

6. Comparisons in the family, comparing with parents-in-law, husbands, wives, financial ability, working ability, or even children, this kind of Divorce caused by vanity is not uncommon;

7. It is also very common for people who cannot bear the pressure of poverty and debt in their family to choose divorce.

8. Disharmony in sexual life due to physical defects was unmentionable in the past, but now it has become a legitimate reason for divorce for many people. Whether in cities or rural areas, why are there so many singles getting divorced?

Hello, I am a country warm-toned person. I am happy to answer your questions.

The husband of the famous writer Yang Jiang once said something like this:

When people fall in love, they always think about getting along with each other day and night, and always think about being with him/her. She entered the marriage hall. But after entering the palace of marriage, and really getting along day and night, people's shortcomings and nature will gradually be revealed. Moreover, friction will often arise between the two parties over every little thing in life, big or small. When needs are not met, when enthusiasm is not supported and understood, when life lacks passion, when each other loses patience and tolerance. , For people who are unwilling to be ordinary, divorce can only be the best choice.

Let’s talk about urban people first. There are more and more divorces. I think it is mainly due to several reasons.

1. High cultural level and open mind.

In ancient times, people's ideology was very traditional. Many things were not allowed before marriage. Let alone living together, even holding hands, hugging, and kissing were basically impossible. Marriage The process is very complicated and grand, including proposal of marriage, meeting, horoscope alignment, engagement, ceremony, and then marriage. There is a saying in ancient times: If you marry a chicken, follow the chicken; if you marry a dog, follow the dog. This means that after you get married, no matter what happens to the other person or what life is like, you must stay together until the end. It can be seen that people attach great importance to and respect marriage.

Nowadays, many people have already lived together when they were in love. Holding hands, hugging and kissing are even more commonplace. Many things that should be done are done, and many things that should not be done are also done. Love has also become the touchstone of marriage, and the space for choice has become wider. Breaking up and changing boyfriends and girlfriends are more commonplace for many people. For some people, marriage is no longer so sacred, and marriage is no longer so cherished.

2. Living conditions have improved and we are no longer highly dependent on each other.

In ancient times, a family needed each other's efforts and dependence on each other in order to live a better life. Now, perhaps both husband and wife have their own jobs and careers, and their circle of friends is wider. No one can live without the other. Moreover, once the marriage encounters some difficulties and setbacks, they will think that one person is better than two people. There is more freedom from restraint; there is less quarrel and more purity, and gradually I lose interest in marriage.

3. People’s sense of responsibility is increasingly lacking.

When you are in love, you have to keep in touch every day despite your busy schedule. No matter how busy you are, you still have appointments. After getting married, I always worked overtime, was always busy, and was always on business trips.

It’s not that I have really become busier, but that I have lost my sense of responsibility.

Subconsciously, I think that after getting married, he/she belongs to me alone. It doesn’t matter whether I go back or not, and it doesn’t matter whether I give him/her a gift or not. Over time, those who are unwilling to be ordinary lose interest in marriage.

Secondly, let’s talk about rural areas.

Take my hometown as an example. Five years ago, it was rare to hear of divorce, but in recent years there have been many divorces, and most of them were initiated by the woman. The reasons are all very similar, mainly because rural areas are too hard, with poor living conditions, low income, and relatively simple and boring life.

Just imagine, how many young women in this era are willing to face the loess and back to the sky all day long, dealing with chickens, ducks, cows, horses, pigs and sheep? Apart from watching TV, there is no entertainment content. If you go out to work and find a job, you can support yourself and be free. You can also go out to eat, drink and have fun with your friends.

Therefore, more and more people are getting divorced.

Finally, I want to say: Now that you have chosen, now that you are married, both women and men should take corresponding responsibilities, never forget your original intention, persevere, for the family, for the children, *** Work together to make life better and better and make each other happier!

Why is there no distinction between urban and rural areas when it comes to divorce! ? The reason is actually very simple!

First, let’s take a look at why there were so few divorces in the past! In the early days of liberation, living conditions were poor, and it was already good to have a wife! Not to mention those in rural areas, where material conditions are poor and entertainment activities are limited. They basically just live at home and work, and have no more contact with other people. Therefore, the divorce rate was very low at that time, especially in rural areas, and there were relatively few people in cities. Traditional concepts still had a lot to do with it at that time! "One day for a couple, a hundred days of kindness" is deeply rooted in the minds of people at that time!

Second, with the improvement of living conditions, since the reform and opening up, more people have come out to work, and more people have been separated in the two places. Living conditions have also changed, entertainment information and people-to-people interactions. Also a lot closer. At this time, the divorce rate began to increase a bit, especially among urban people, and later also gradually shifted to rural people who came out to work! Because most people in rural areas get married through the introduction of matchmakers. Once young people around the age of 20 start talking about marriage, they basically get married as soon as they close their eyes. There is no process of falling in love! Once you go out to work and get along with another person for a long time, you will understand that person better and have the same language or hobbies. This is also part of divorce!

Third, why are divorces almost the same among agricultural and urban people now? I think everyone already has the answer! Nowadays, there is basically no distinction between rural and urban people. Information is developed and the Internet covers everything. What urban people have is also available in rural areas, and the living conditions are almost the same.

The biggest difference is the difference in wealth. As the pressure of life increases, people have different pursuits of their quality of life, and it is easier to produce emotional videos, and randomness is more likely to occur, especially those born in the 90s and 00s, who are getting married today. Maybe there will already be a lot of people getting divorced tomorrow!

As for the reasons for divorce, there must be many reasons, such as relationship problems, different living habits, one party cheating, separation in two places causing uncoordinated sexual life, etc.! In fact, the biggest problem is that we have forgotten the fine tradition of "a day of kindness to a husband and a hundred days of kindness", and have lost the concept that working together is a good life! Of course, due to the influence of society's glamorous society, there are too many negative news about rich people, entertainment stars, etc., and divorce has become the norm, so it is normal for ordinary people to follow suit!

But as long as two people have positive energy, people with a sense of family responsibility and social responsibility will not divorce easily. Once divorced, a family will be broken up, and it will be a disastrous situation for the children. Complete home now! I often hear that a person who insists on not getting divorced for the sake of his children is irresponsible to himself. What I want to ask is, did you not consider the consequences of marriage when you got married?

People nowadays are more impetuous and impulsive, so many people get divorced! The main reason is that our values ????are not taught well. Without social and family responsibilities, especially those rich and entertainment stars, money is too easy for them, and divorce has become commonplace! We ordinary people should not follow the trend! Only when a small family is well run can it bring greater positive energy to this society! Does everyone think so? !

With the opening up of society, people's self-awareness has been strengthened. Emphasizing oneself has become the instinct of modern people. Therefore, I want to break up if I am not satisfied. Today's society is centered on money, with money as the standard of human value. So there is a situation where men keep lovers if they have money, but if they don’t have money, they are abandoned by women. In short, it is the result of modern people's low moral concepts and greed for profit.

But there are other reasons too. For example, modern people don't pay much attention to marriage. When they get married, they often get married impulsively, and divorce is very casual. In addition, divorce brings less pressure and negative impact to people. In the past, if a person got divorced, it would have a great impact on his personal reputation, career, etc., but now everyone has gradually accepted divorce. It feels normal. At the same time, divorce has become more free and easier, which is also a reason. You must know that divorce procedures were much more troublesome in the past than they are now. Other reasons include a lack of sense of responsibility, etc.

With the continuous development of society, there are more and more migrant workers and living conditions continue to improve. But why is the divorce rate still high regardless of whether it is in urban or rural areas? What is the reason?

1. Extramarital Affairs

Today, men in rural areas generally go out to work to earn money, while women take care of the elderly and children at home. It can be difficult to maintain a relationship after a long separation. Couples have been separated for a long time. Due to various emotional and physiological needs, the marriage has become more fragile and cannot withstand the impact of the outside world, so the phenomenon of extramarital affairs is increasing.

2. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

In China, this is a long-standing problem, that is, how to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. After the marriage, the relationship between the two families was not handled well. Husbands often struggle with an innocent and simple question: whether to be a mother or a wife, and finally have to choose to break up.

3. Online Dating

Today, almost everyone in rural areas has a smartphone. Nowadays, the Internet is becoming more and more developed, and the circle of life is getting larger and larger. Communication between people is convenient, and it also creates more opportunities for contact with the opposite sex. This is one of the reasons why rural families are increasingly broken up.

In short, divorce is becoming more and more common nowadays, both in rural and urban areas. This cannot be said to be progress. At the very least, it suggests that a bygone era is slowly leaving us.

Marriage is not easy, what do you think?

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The reason why the divorce rate is high and there are many singles now is actually very simple and very realistic.

Unexpected pregnancy, marriage and childbirth, the so-called marriage with a child, is formed in this way. Marrying without fully understanding the other party. The emotional foundation is not deep enough, which can easily lead to the two parties quarreling over the trivial matters in life, such as firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, and slowly Evolved into divorce.

Incompatible personalities, love at first sight, arranged marriages, impulsively getting the red book, the integration after marriage requires time and patience. For example, if there are inconsistencies in living habits, lifestyles, ideas, etc., the temper is also relatively impatient. Once friction occurs, it is easy to fight, throw things to vent, and impulsive punishment will come. It is better to be impulsive and write a green book.

A married woman gives birth to and takes care of her own children, cooks her own food, does her own hygiene, earns her own money, and has to serve your whole family. In addition to not getting the attention of her lover, she is also being harassed by all kinds of people in her husband's family. Such a disdain, a woman might as well live a single life on her own, why bother working so hard.

Husbands and wives should care, understand, respect, and trust each other more, and discuss any matters together to face various difficulties in life. Especially after a woman gives birth to a child, her body functions decline, and she needs a man’s support. Caring and loving her instead of marrying her off and that's it. Men, use the spirit of flirting with girls to keep your love alive, so that your marriage can last long and give your children a complete home.

The ratio of men to women is imbalanced.

The ratio of men to women is imbalanced. Especially in rural areas, there are a lot of men of marriageable age, but there are very few women. Created a group of bachelors.

High housing prices

Exorbitantly high housing prices have put young people into a low-desire mentality, because no matter how hard they work, they can’t buy a house in full and pay a down payment. Thirty years later, when I think about it, I no longer have much to think about. Faced with my mother-in-law’s demands for a house and a car, I have developed a fear of marriage.

Women’s dependence on men is reduced

Women’s education level has generally increased, they have the ability to be independent, they are financially independent, and their dependence on men is getting smaller and smaller, and they all report She has a steadfast attitude, because she can fully support herself by herself, and her desire to get married is reduced.

Don’t give in to conflicts in marriage

With the development of the times, the younger generation is becoming more and more open-minded, and they will not give in to conflicts in marriage. Divorce if they don't get along.

Flash marriages and divorces are arbitrary

In flash marriages, people do not fully understand each other, and only have a one-time relationship, so they think that the other person is the fate they are looking for, and they have the idea of ????getting married first and then falling in love. Think ahead. After getting married, the freshness wore off, and all eyes were filled with shortcomings, so they finally left.

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