How to comfort girls?

1 can help her to divert her attention and then provide one or more solutions.

Today, she complained to you that the company manager was giving her a hard time again. As she spoke, she began to cry emotionally. At this time, she curled up like a wounded kitten. If you are still at a loss, then wait for your sister to tell you the end.

At this time, the correct way should be to comfort her, make her stop crying, divert her attention, and then provide her with some ideas to help her solve the problem. For example, tell her that "crying makes me feel bad" and "your manager is really hateful and bullies girls like you", and then when she stops crying and tells the story emotionally, always look at her carefully, be a listener, and then stand from her point of view.

The advantage of this is that I can make girls feel that I am telling you my sadness and sadness, not begging you to really help me, but hoping you can understand my predicament and feelings. Even a sentence: "I don't know what to say, but I can feel that I am willing to spend it with you" is better than a sentence "Don't cry".

2, care about the facts, but also care about her emotions.

Most girls' language includes not only facts, but also their own emotions. For example, she said that I caught a cold today, which not only showed that she was ill, but also included her feelings of helplessness, loneliness and discomfort. At this time, your reaction should be to take care of her emotions. Women are emotional animals. If you only respond to this matter, I am afraid it will lead to a quarrel. So, accompany her to take care of her when she is sick. Hot water is not her relief, but you are her panacea.

3. Find the right time to give timely help.

Men are to women what parachutes are to people who fall from planes. If the critical moment doesn't appear, you don't have to appear again. This is the famous skydiving enthusiast theory. This moment is very important, so you may be afraid of cold and heat every day, but the girl still doesn't seem to receive the signal that you care, that is, you haven't found the right time to start. When a girl loses her purse, her keys and gets on the wrong bus, when the girl's mobile phone has only 2% power and you don't get a call in the middle of the night, if you appear like a hero at such a critical moment, it's like snow.

4. Don't abuse your skills.

The girl wants an apple. If you give her a banana, it must be wrong. What the girl wants is to cut her into pieces when she gives her an apple. What the girls are waiting for is actually very simple, which is a concern that really touches the heart and life. This is the most effective concern. At this time, you don't need any skills to win her happiness. If her emotions are not guided, you are just a, b and d in her life.

When a woman is in a negative mood, what she needs is listening and caring, not educators. Your presence is enough for her. Drinking more hot water is not as good as a cup of warm Lycium barbarum brown sugar water, and ten cups of brown sugar water is never as good as a piece of ibuprofen. You should know what she needs and give her the most effective care.