Which do you prefer, truth or falsehood?

Cao Xueqin said: "True or false, when false, it is true, and inaction is everywhere."

When a lie is told as a fact, it will appear more true than the fact. or vice versa, Dallas to the auditorium

Between lies and the truth, many people will choose the truth, but when someone tells your mistake, they will still feel extremely uncomfortable because they are afraid to tell others the truth.

As the saying goes, rumors hurt people for a while, and lies hurt people for a lifetime.

Needless to say, the harm of lies and the benefits of truth, but when you hear the truth, you will always feel uncomfortable and even refuse to listen.

As far as human nature is concerned, its greatest weakness is that it doesn't like to hear the truth.

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Don't like to hear the truth

"Confucius' Family Language" wrote: "Good medicine tastes bitter and is good for illness, but advice when most unpleasant is good for action. "

For some unpleasant words, we always choose to turn a deaf ear or act angrily, and these unpleasant words are often the truth that is conducive to action.

As the old saying goes, it is easy to learn from a teacher, but difficult to learn from it. Friends often make few friends.

I used to be a friend of the monarch, but the outspoken words of friends are always unpleasant, whether they are monarchs, ministers or friends.

Confucius said, "The winner has three friends, but the loser has three friends. Friends are frank, friends forgive and friends listen more, which is beneficial. Friends will be open, friendly, soft, friends will be destroyed and damaged. "

People who often praise you are not real friends, just want to take advantage; A true friend is someone who is not afraid to offend you and tell the truth.

Want to have a good friend, but don't listen to the truth, is the biggest weakness of human nature. People who are not angry after hearing the truth are smart people, and such people can make great achievements.

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Dare not tell the truth

Ji Xianlin said: "Not all the truth, not all the lies."

Many times it's not that I don't want to tell the truth, but that I dare not tell the truth, because the price of telling the truth is really too high.

Judy led an army into Nanking, but the whereabouts of Emperor Wen Jian were unknown. All civil and military officials surrendered to Judy, except Fang Xiaoru, a great scholar, who would rather die than surrender.

Judy valued Fang Xiaoru's reputation and asked him to draft an imperial edict. Fang Xiaoru refused to listen to the sense of honor, saying that he was a minister of the Ming Dynasty, not a rebel minister, and the wailing spread throughout the hall.

Judy said that he just imitated the Duke of Zhou as king and didn't want to be emperor. Fang Xiaoru asked King Judy where he was and why he didn't become the king's son. A straightforward statement made Judy very embarrassed in front of the ministers.

Judy was so angry that he ordered Fang Xiaoru to split the car and punish ten families. After Judy succeeded to the throne, she strengthened the strength of the Royal Guards more and more. At one time, many people died because of rude remarks.

Then, there were few or no outspoken people in the Ming Dynasty.

Telling the truth in ancient times was costly, and so is it in modern times.

Fu Lei, a great translator, was honest and outspoken all his life, which offended many people. In a special era, Mr. Fu Lei was attacked by groups and framed one by one. Those people threatened Fu Lei to tell lies against his will, but Mr. Fu Lei refused.

Mr. Frey was finally humiliated.

The truth is always easy to offend people, and the price of telling the truth is very serious. Compared with flattering lies, the truth is often afraid to tell.

People who only listen to good things and don't listen to the truth are tantamount to deceiving themselves.

Master Hongyi said, "Don't deceive yourself in your heart, and don't deceive others outside."

Those who don't want to hear the truth, but only like to hear good things, naturally dare not tell the truth.

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There is a saying in "Augmented Xianwen": "It is my thief who teaches me well and my teacher who teaches me badly."

Blindly praise will only make people lose. Such people will never be true friends. Those who can directly point out their shortcomings are all good teachers and friends. Only when you meet such people will you make continuous progress.

Lies are good, but truth is rare.

If you want to be a better yourself, you must start by listening to the truth. If you love the truth, you will not be deceived by sweet words, and you will look directly at your own shortcomings.

Take people as mirrors, gain and lose self-knowledge.