As the saying goes, "three days' invitation, two days' call and one day 'mention", what does it mean? Why did you say it in advance?

Friends who live in rural areas, especially in former rural areas, pay more attention to the degree and etiquette of their banquets. Among them, there is more emphasis on entertaining guests. Now they may call them. In the past, they would start busy a few days in advance.

On this point, there are many folk sayings, such as "three days invitation, two days phone call, one day mention". Perhaps many friends have heard the old man in the village say this sentence, and the meaning expressed has also been recognized by many friends.

However, some friends don't know what "please", "call" and "mention" mean. Why is there so much pressure? In this article, the author will talk about it in detail, and everyone will have an answer after reading it.

Let's analyze this sentence from the literal meaning, which means that when entertaining guests, three days' notice is "invitation", two days' notice is "phone call" and one day's notice is "slip".

Let's talk separately.

Let's start with "please take three days"

"Please" here means "invitation", that is to say, notifying others three days before the banquet is an invitation and a sign of respect.

In ancient times, transportation was very inconvenient, so people at that time would notify important people three days in advance when they were promoted or had important things at home.

And who are the people who gave three days' notice? The first is the daughter who is married far away.

For the host, when something important happens at home, whether it's a happy event or a funeral, I hope to be accompanied by someone close to me. Although his daughter is married, after all, blood is thicker than water, and there is still affection.

The second is the elders in the family.

It is often said that "big brother is like a father, big sister is like a mother". The ancients had great respect for their elders. No matter how big or small it is, it must be approved by the elders before it can be implemented. Therefore, when giving a banquet, we should also inform them in advance to show respect.

The third is the prestigious dignitaries in family or friends.

Because of the busy business, it is necessary to arrange the itinerary of the banquet in advance, so the host family will inform the guests in advance and reserve enough time for the guests to prevent the panic of rushing.

As can be seen from the book, it is very important for the host to notify the person three days in advance, and the three-day invitation is enough to show the host's respect.

Besides, "two days is called"

The word "call" here can be understood as "call", that is to say, the host family only needs to stand at the door two days before the banquet and shout loudly, so the surrounding villagers can hear the news on the day of the banquet.

As the saying goes, "A distant relative is better than a close neighbor". For some people, neighbors may be closer than relatives.

Especially in ancient times, communication and transportation were relatively underdeveloped, and everything at home was shared with neighbors. After a long time, everyone is getting closer and closer, and naturally they have deep feelings.

In the past two days, the callers were mainly the neighbors in the village.

Because the two sides are close, they only need to inform their neighbors two days in advance to do things at home, so there will be no situation that they can't attend the meeting because of the long distance.

Some people may think that two days in advance is not as sincere as three days in advance, but the purpose of the host's banquet is to be lively and everyone can go to the banquet on time. Two days in advance is enough.

In addition to neighbors, the younger generation also called two days in advance. We said we should inform our elders three days in advance to show our respect for them. Therefore, if the elders have important banquets at home, it is generally only necessary to inform the younger generation two days in advance.

Finally, say "one mention a day"

The word "mention" here means "casually mention", that is to say, on the street or on the road the day before the banquet, the host family met people with ordinary relationships and offered to let them attend the banquet at home.

However, all reasonable people know that the host may have mentioned this casually, but he didn't really want to be invited (polite words). The invited people also know very well that it is a snub to notify one day in advance, and there is no need to take it seriously.

Just like everyone meets in the street now, they will meet next time. Actually, it's just a verbal ceremony, and everyone knows it.

Of course, in addition to this statement, some people think that giving a notice one day in advance means that they are dissatisfied with others.

When you watch TV, you can see that ancient officials used the word "arraignment" when interrogating prisoners, which means "arraignment", so some people will notify others in this way to show their dissatisfaction with others, that is, disrespect for others.

Seeing this, I believe everyone has a certain understanding of the sentence "ask in three days, call in two days, and mention in one day". In today's society, the meaning it expresses is still worth learning. Moreover, this custom continues in many places. If something happens at home, they will inform them 2-3 days in advance, not one day in advance, and it is even more impossible to inform them on the same day.

What do you think of this?