What about premarital phobia?

Recently, I also faced this problem with my boyfriend, and almost broke up, which was finally solved successfully. I don't know, just talking about the specific problems you are facing.

First, we should understand that we must always face and solve the phobia before marriage, and we must not escape it, because people need a family that cares for each other.

second, understand what you are afraid of, and consider what changes your life will have compared with before you were single, and what do you need to learn from these changes? Many people are worried about the problem of getting along with the other half. This requires careful consideration, the advantages and disadvantages of the other side, especially the shortcomings, because whether two people can go to the end is not whether they can continue to appreciate each other's advantages, but whether they can tolerate each other's shortcomings. This needs to be communicated with each other, and both sides should be prepared to make changes.

Third, communicate with your partner more and tell him/her what he/she is worried about, and both sides will work together to solve it. For example, what should I do if I quarrel? It is normal to quarrel, but there must be a few rules. First, we can't have a cold war when quarreling. Second, we can't quarrel with our parents. Third, we must talk about the facts and don't turn over old scores. . . . . . In addition, we should consider how both sides expect to treat their parents well. Regarding the shortcomings of both sides, everyone should think about how to correct them. No one is perfect. If you are as critical of yourself as you are of each other, you will find a better partner.

Fourth, you can find unmarried people and married people and ask them about marriage. Find something comprehensive, for example, find a family where husband and wife live in harmony with each other, and make a comparison with a family that is not harmonious, and learn from experience. If you see more negative aspects of marriage, find more harmonious families and ask them. Where there is light, there is darkness. There are many failed marriages and many successful ones. How others live does not mean that they will live like that. It depends on how they manage.

Fifth, many people are not sure whether the person they want to marry is the one they want. This problem is hard to face, so imagine if you are separated, will you regret it? There is no regret medicine in the world, no matter what you choose, you must go on. The scenery is the most beautiful in your eyes, and the imaginary scenery =.

Sixth, people are selfish, and love is also selfish. Everyone is irrelevant, and no one has the obligation to do this or that for himself, so if the other person is willing to do something for you, please cherish it, and don't always feel that the other person is not doing enough. This is the problem I am facing. I always feel that my boyfriend doesn't love me enough. When everyone wants to break up, I just remember that he has done a lot. . .

finally, to sum up, the tolerance, understanding and trust of both parties are the basis and key to deal with pre-marital phobia. Instead of worrying in your mind, it is better to calm down and think about how to solve it. Come on!