Should a woman choose love or material love or bread, which is more important?

In a good love relationship, material conditions are also very important. Love alone is not enough, bread is equally important, and reality is reality. Without money, material life will be poor. After all, a good life depends on material support.

Should women choose love or material things?

First of all, I suggest that women stay with a man not because of his money, nor because they don't love anything, and decide to spend their lives together. They must first learn to balance love and material things. In the case that love and material cannot be owned at the same time, I personally suggest choosing material. After all, you can't guarantee how long your love for each other will last. Once the relationship breaks down, you will have nothing. My friend once told me, don't marry that person just because he is good to you, because when he is bad to you, you have nothing. Many people will disagree with this sentence and think, he is not good to me. What should I do if I marry him? But I think this sentence is very reasonable. Having described so much, I believe everyone has a steelyard in his heart, so I hope that women will not wronged themselves at any time. If they choose to wronged themselves, they should be willing.

Which is more important, love or bread?

Bread will expire and love will sublimate. Do you choose bread that will expire or love that will sublimate? If you choose bread, you will never go hungry? Choosing love is doomed to lose? One of the topics that young people usually talk about is love. They are inexperienced, still studying or just entering the society. In their eyes, love is an extremely sacred thing, and they can give up everything for it, and even die for it. But when you give up the whole world for the so-called love in your eyes, have you ever thought about what would happen if one day the person who gave everything for you stopped loving you? After all, love is invisible and intangible, and you can't predict whether it will deteriorate. Of course, love will not change, but will become a loving person. After all, the desperate love of Yangchun Baixue won't last long. When you are reduced to bargaining for two or three yuan a catty in the vegetable market, will you regret having been desperate for love? When rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea fill your life, will you regret your original choice?

As the saying goes, there is no dutiful son before the bed for a long time, and there is no good wife at home for a long time. After all, what the old people said has some truth. You can live well without love, even without bread for a day. If I had to choose between love and bread, I would definitely choose bread. Don't say I am material, I just made the right choice. Besides love, there are many things in life, and personally, affection is much more important than love. For those who say that love is more important than bread, I think either they have never really suffered, or they really love supreme, but I think there are not many people who really love supreme in the real world. It takes courage to be a love supremacist like Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman. At least I don't have the courage. I think there are not many people who have the courage in this world. If you are a love supremacist, then I can stop this article, you don't need to read it any more, but before you quit, I hope you can think clearly whether you are really a love-oriented person or consider yourself a love-oriented person.

There is a considerable difference between the two. If you are the former, my next words should be of no use to you. If you are the latter, you should think it over. If you give up everything for love now, your family career will make way for your so-called love. When you wake up from the magic of love, it must be a nightmare. Living together is totally different from going out to chat, have a meal, drink tea and watch a movie. You will feel cheated when you find that he is not what you think. It would be nice if you could understand. If you can't understand it, you will feel that it is not worth giving up everything for such a person. There will only be love for drinking tea and watching a movie in TV series, and more love in life will be erased by trivial things in life. People often want to die for the so-called love, but sometimes we don't love that person at all, but what love looks like in our hearts. That person is just a carrier of our love. When one day you find that he (she) is not what you think, will you still be willing to die for him?

Most people don't, and I personally think that love is icing on the cake. Only when you become good enough to stop worrying about your livelihood, will it bloom in its original form, and your imaginary love will come as scheduled. As for the love that vows to crack the landslide, I advise you to save it. The world didn't end when you two jumped off the cliff. Now even TV dramas and the like rarely write such stories. What is said in the circle of friends is very reasonable. If you are in full bloom, you will not be so humble until you become excellent and face the other half. Only when you have money can you confidently tell others not to insult your love with money. When you have no money but love, your love is actually in jeopardy. There is no loyalty for no reason in this world. He's probably with you because the chips for betrayal are not big enough. Don't tell me that love is when he travels across the city from east to west to buy you your favorite sugar-fried chestnuts. If he can't even do this when he is in love, you have to weigh your position in his heart. This society pays attention to everything, and he doesn't even want to pay. Does he really like you?

Life is a long road, and love is only a part of it. People who get married because of love will one day have a bad love in it, either falling apart or turning into family ties. If it becomes the latter, so much the better. Personally, I think family ties are stronger than love. If you become the former, you will suffer for a while. Don't take love as the whole of life, but use it as seasoning. Just be happy, it doesn't hurt. After all, love is a hard thing to describe. You don't know when and how it will come, and you can't stop eating because of love. Before you meet the person in your life, you should try to improve yourself. First, in order not to let bread shake your later life. Second, in order to better myself, I advocate that bread is more important than love, not because I am materialistic, but because I don't want to be crushed by bread when I have love one day.

What must I do before marriage?

First, find the right person.

Before marriage, there will always be picky opportunities, and how to choose a suitable person, psychological "love ability" is the decisive factor of marriage happiness. The first is insight. According to epiphany, we often divide people into four categories: the first category can understand without teaching, the second category can understand after speaking, the third category can understand after scolding, and the fourth category can't understand after hitting. In marriage, first class is the first choice; Secondly, awareness. A person's awareness directly affects his ability of self-insight, self-adjustment and even communication with others. Therefore, people with high awareness tend to be more confident, while people with low awareness are more likely to fall into "forced repetition", that is, "repeating their parents' marriage". It cannot be ruled out that there will be domestic violence after marriage; Then there is expressiveness, not just verbal expressiveness. In fact, in the composition of human expressive power, language itself only accounts for 0.88% of the transmitted information, and expressive power is more important to convey tone and expression. In marriage, it is very important to really appreciate, appreciate, praise and listen to the other half and express love through body language. Finally, * * * emotion, that is to say, the ability to put yourself in the other person's shoes and feel the other person's emotions. Empathy is very important in marriage.

Second, based on happiness.

Marriage should be out of happiness, not out of creating happiness. Otherwise, it is difficult to be happy. Two people get married not because there is no problem together, but because they can solve most problems. It is always warmer to get married out of happiness than to get married out of creating happiness.

Third, tolerance.

There is a saying that a happy marriage is made up of "invisible" women and "inaudible" men. In other words, playing dumb in marriage is a very high knowledge. Confusion is not indifference, sometimes pretending not to see it is a gentle concern. In fact, playing dumb, in other words, is tolerance. The days after marriage will probably never be as romantic as when you are in love, so tolerance is the biggest adhesive of marriage. We can never know who is the right choice for us, but at least we can meet the most suitable person as much as possible.

Four things you must know before you get married

1. Know each other's family.

This article is the most easily overlooked by many girls before marriage. Often when love is carried away, it's like getting drunk. Marrying myself is earth-shattering and proudly showing off my love because it's a matter for two people, but marriage is a matter for two families. If you don't visit each other's family before marriage and don't know the living habits of the man's family, how can you know that you can get along under the same roof after marriage? How can I know if I am suitable? It is really important to see in-laws' personality before marriage, because a man's personality and style will be largely inherited from his family. A good family, a man must not be bad. On the contrary, if the family is poor, the man must not be so good, and no one can guarantee that he will show his true colors.

2. Make sure how much you love him

Young people's marriage is very impulsive, because freshness and passion will really affect people's reason, and it is easy to marry themselves in a daze. Before getting married, you must make sure how much you love him and whether you fully understand each other's temperament. What needs to be determined is whether you know his advantages and disadvantages, good and bad, and whether you can accept that the future is so long. If you can't love each other deeply and help each other all your life, it's best not to get married, but to determine how much you love, so as to ensure that you have the courage to stick to it, whether you can stick to it, whether you can stick to it during the running-in period, and whether you can't let love take you away.

3. After marriage, can two people support a family?

Parents will get old one day, so you can't rely on them for a long time. You still have to walk on your own in the future. Whether two people can support a family and a marriage is very realistic and important. Do you have the financial ability to handle housework? Do you eat three meals a day? Is there any money to make a family secular? Before you get married, you must know whether the income of two people can support the expenses of a family, can you?

4. What will be your position after marriage?

Most women swear poison before marriage, how to strengthen themselves after marriage. However, after the first marriage, all the vows disappeared instantly, and I immediately lived wholeheartedly as a nanny for the family. The focus of my life was also on the family, and I became a full-time wife, living as an accessory of a man, or worse, being used as a fertility tool. An accessory must not get the attention of men, and it is also a disguised form of cheating capital for men. At home, they work hard to do housework, serve the elderly and children, and finally face the criticism of their mother-in-law, but men are indifferent. This state is what all women don't want, but it is the status quo of most women. Therefore, women before marriage must give themselves a good position, how to live after marriage, what to do after marriage, and what position they will be in. If a woman wants to protect her family, she must first learn to love herself. If she wants to protect her family, she must at least have the capital to protect it. Not just lip service. After all, how can a person who doesn't even love himself get the love of others? The quality of marriage determines her happiness for the rest of her life. Therefore, every girl must know the above four points when she gets married. If she marries blindly, she is playing a blog. Marriage is actually a woman's game. I hope every girl can add more winning chips to herself before marriage.